give a wedding present?
2007-07-30 09:45:37 · 13 answers · asked by **** 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, I personally do, but I dont like to attend sans at least a small gift for any function.
As a rule though, gifts are not required for weddings, they are optional and if you feel that your shower gift was enough then you are in no breach of good manners by attending without a gift. I would however strongly suggest a very nice card with your best wishes for the couple. A card is always appropriate.
2007-07-30 09:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The entire purpose of a shower is to give gifts. It's an honest event, no playing around with the protocol--come to the party, bring a gift. The wedding is a separate event, separate party. While technically a gift is optional, custom strongly encourages you to give a wedding gift if you go to the wedding and/or reception. Now, nothing in all of this tradition says how much you have to spend. If you have $50 to spend total, then get a $20 shower gift and a $30 wedding gift. Two events require two gifts, but it does not require that you double your spending.
2007-07-30 17:45:42 · answer #2 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wedding presents are never required. Shower presents are expected, since a shower is to "shower" the bride and groom with gifts.
2007-07-31 09:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - because the shower and wedding are separate events. The shower gift is for the bride, the wedding gift is for the couple. This is if you are invited to both the shower and the wedding... (which you should be - it would be rude if you were invited to the shower alone!)
2007-07-30 16:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always understood that the shower is for the bride to pick up a few things to stock the kitchen... dishes, serving bowls, measuring cups, utensils, etc. Usually it includes a favorite family recipe or two as well. (Yes, I'm over, um, 30.)
The wedding, however, is more for "couple" shared stuff... towel sets, linens, etc.
Give with your heart. That's what really matters anyway. If you're close to the couple at all, they'll totally understand why and what you picked up.
2007-07-30 19:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by c_a_m_2u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are 2 separate occasions, each of which calls for a gift to be given. Typically, a gift from the registry is chosen for the shower, while money is the preferred gift for a wedding!
2007-07-30 17:15:19 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did. Just to be a good samaritan.
But it is not required. Give a gift to the bride at the shower and just give a card to both of them at the wedding.
2007-07-30 16:52:45 · answer #7 · answered by KC_Meag42 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes!
You have to bring a present (if you are invited) to the engagement party, bridal shower and the wedding.
2007-07-30 16:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by ilovespacebars 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes, they are different occasions. The shower gift is a more modest one.
2007-07-30 17:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If you have to pick, you should just give a wedding present.
2007-07-30 16:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋