10 things that make my boyfriend mad. What do you think about this?

Question

1. when i don't hear what he says and have to ask him to repeat something.

2. if i don't answer him quickly enough when he asks a question.

3. if i make a decision too slow.

4. when I'm eating and i accidentally "smack" my lips

5. when my silverware clanks against my plate or bowl when i'm eating

6. if i chew too loudly.

7. if i want to do something with a friend.

8. if he has no clean underwear/socks/etc

9. if i don't cover my mouth when I yawn.

10. when i have a difference of opinion from his.

Why do you think these things make him so mad? Does anyone know someone like this? It's so weird!

Answer 1

I just read 10 RED FLAGS of a relationship and I would RUN, not walk, to the nearest exit of said relationship.

NO ONE should ever have to watch every single thing they do every minute of every single day just to please someone else.

If you have not sought counselling, I suggest you do so and if this ........ boyfriend (ggrrr).... refuses to go... make arrangements to go by yourself. You need self-esteem, badly. You need OUT. Remember every news report youve seen where the neighbors say, "He was always so nice and quiet. I NEVER thought he'd do THAT!! Its just such a shock! Her poor parents...... "

This is not funny. This is serious SHlT.


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Answer 2

Red Flag! Warning! Warning! These are the first clues of what the future is with this guy. The nit-picking, controlling, nothing is right about you, lists of things that you do that bother him, are all warnings that you may be about to be physically abused, perhaps you are being sexually abused now, if not, that is about to happen, too.. You are already being mentally abused. He wants to control you. Have you noticed that the more time goes by, the more he finds to complain about? Warning! Another sign!
If he is a potential abuser, it will get worse, the list will get longer, and harder to follow, and if he isn't already, he will find ways to punish you for any transgression. And usually, that is with a hand or a fist connecting with some part of you.
Find someone who loves you, and helps you, and supports you. Good men are out there, you just have to find them.
And the really scary item on the list is #7. Abusers isolate their victims from friends, family, work, so no one will discover him, and make it so there is no where for you to go to ask for help, and that makes you totally dependant on him. Control is very important to an abuser. They take your self esteem away, your connections, they may not allow you to go out of the house at all.
Lose him, and find a real boyfriend.
You are a smart woman, you came here to ask about his behavior. Good for you!

Answer 3

Sounds like he's a little of a control freak. Except for #8, these are your personal habits that either you work on or he learns to accept. Number 8, who made it your job to see that he has clean socks? Their are lots of men out there just like this. You work on it and if you can't come to an agreement, run don't walk to the nearest exit.

Answer 4

Sounds like your boyfriend is a bit controlling. It annoys me also when someone "smacks" their lips when they eat or clang the dishes with the utensils. Loud noises while i am eating just annoy me. All the other things is just a bit much. Perhaps he does not feel like you are paying attention to him, hence he needs to constantly repeat himself. If you answer slowly, tell him you are pondering the question so you can respond appropriately.
I would seriously rethink this relationship if i were you. He sounds pretty controlling and needy to me, and obviously he does not like the things you do.

Answer 5

Run as fast as you can! If you were married, I'd suggest couseling, but in this case, run! It will only get worse from here... especially if you marry this guy. Marriage and kids will not fix this situation. Go find a man that likes you the way you are... a friend. This guy is not your friend. Oh, and by the way, when my husband has no clean underwear, he does wash, or buys more. He would never be so rude as to tell me his underwear is dirty and needs to be washed.

Answer 6

This is a form of abuse; it's atrocious controlling behavior from someone who supposedly loves you. There is plenty of information out there about the "cycle of abuse", and what is happening to you now is a classic case of early abuse that will get worse if you let it continue.

Walk away while you still can, don't delude yourself thinking that you can "fix" him because you can't. As time goes on the list of things that bother him will get longer, and his reaction to them will get worse, including physical, emotional and sexual abuse. Very, very rarely does a person like this ever get better.

Below is a link about it from the Mayo Clinic, a highly respected source of information and research on numerous medical issues. Go to the link and read it and learn to recognize the signs (you already have recognized some of them) and know what they mean, and what to do next.

Answer 7

The way you said, "I want to put them back on." Probably sounded too serious, hence him taking it seriously. I'd be angry too, it's like getting shot, then your friend saves your life, then you say, "Let's go into the army again." It just sort of makes them facepalm and wonder if you aren't grateful, or just acting stupid. Wearing something merely because you look good in it, especially if it makes you uncomfortable or hurts, is a stupid thing to do.

Answer 8

He obviously has some personal issues to deal with. Ask him what he would do if you brought up every little thing that he does? I believe that he's so concerned more about the little things you do then who you are. If he has issues with these things then it will get worse as your relationship grows. Maybe you should talk to him about it and if he's not willing to change then you should let him go. Just make sure that you don't change to make him happy. If you change for someone else then you will never be happy.

Answer 9

1 & 2. - he obviously expects your rapt attention at all times.
4-6. he's a control freak.
7. - he wants to control you.
8. - what are you? his mother? he should be washing his own nasty undies & socks.
10. - he's a control freak.

your boyfriend is a nutjob & one day you may end up in the trunk of his car wrapped in a garbage bag.

Run.
Get out of the relationship.

NOW.

Answer 10

so i have a boyfriend.
and hes amazing.
weve been together a year, as of next month.
i dont know how old yuu are.
but if yuu love him, like i love my byfriend,
and yuu feel yuu guys are meant for eachother
and yuu feel that he treats yuu right.
then STAY.
i dont know.
my boyfriend is like that in a way.
and i wouldnt ever leave him.
i love him the way he is.
and for who he is, and who i am since ive met him.
there was a point where my cousin and his girl
convinced me i shouldnt be with him.
and i just basically gave up
thinking what i wanted.
and listened to everyone else, instead of my heart.
they said he was going to abuse me and rape me.
because these are "warning signs"
but the next day,
i talked to a friend.
and he said, "its love, it happens"
people make mistakes.
there are things that bug him.
so talk about it with him.
these are obviously things hes doing that bothers yuu.
just.
hes not perfect.
he might be controlling.
but if yuu love him.
and have patience.
then it shouldnt matter.
all that should matter is yuu guys are together.
he treats yuu right.
and yuu guys talk about yurr problems.