Whats the best way to punish a child?

Answer 1

1-5 years - yell no it's your tone - take a way a toy - show them how it is done. no being to nice! I know they are young but if we go by how most kids these days are raised the world will be in full koas before i'm in my old folks home!

5-10 - old enought to know better on some things if it is a repeate then start writing out every day what you did that was wrong - get a whooping - sent to room- (no tv in room) if your kid has a tv in bed room you need the spanking (sorry i really ferm with my beleives)

11-13 ( they are going to act out they are starting to be a teen. put your foot down and take what means the most from them minus education. if they like going out and hangoing out with friends then they stay in and gain one more chore on there list untill they move out! ) spankings are no longer that evective but still some!

13-18 -- some force full tone - yelling and removing prvileged do give them the benifit of the doubt they are getting older ()wiser too) and if they come to you with their screw up then be easy on them! tell them to write a paper on why the did what they did and why it was wrong then have them study longer!
if they didn't own up to there actions then you must make them! no more going out after school untill i feel you have learned your lesson!

harsh! well the kids who had this enviroment growing up seem to be more level headed as an adult then the rug rats that are out there now!
said i'm still in my 20's!

Answer 2

First off, I don't hit or slap my child. (I know that this is generally referred to as "spanking.") I can say that I've been angry enough and have had the urge to do so - but I don't think it "works" and I also think that it is inappropriate. I think that it is a parent trying to release his or her anger....he/she is not teaching the child "a lesson." (I'll get off of my soapbox.)

My daughter is 7 now. She rarely has behavior problems at school (although there have been times when she was "talking too much" in the lunch room) and she's great in stores...no demanding toys or tantrums - ever. But she is more challenging at home. She's become more defiant, lately, and I think it is a stage or maybe she's just bored with summer.

Anyway, I think that the type of discipline used depends on the age, although I can tell you that *consistency* is very important and not "backing down" after administering discipline (for example, if you say "no tv for the day" - don't give in).

I started working on discipline when my daughter was old enough to start walking. I often found that distracting her was a good technique. I think that parents need to keep their expectations relatively low at this point but things like biting are not OK.

My daughter is 7 now. We've used time outs and just figured out what the best "consequence" is - for my daughter...it is relatively brief time outs or taking away "tv time" or video games for a relatively short period (a few hours).

Answer 3

It all depends on the "crime".. I get so upset these days with the non-punishments that kids receive... Stand in that corner, but you can watch tv. If you do that again, I will take away your playtime... OH for heavens sakes, paddle their butts, take away their favorite toy,etc.... then if they dont mind... do it again... I didnt have to paddle my boys maybe twice in their life, but they knew that it would happen again if they misbehaved... and ya know , both my sons graduated college, have good jobs, nice homes and families...
But I had a good friend who didnt punish her kids, she had 4, they are druggies, alcoholics, been in jail, you name it.

.. One time she told me she didnt know how I could keep my kids from playing in the road, I said I dont allow it........ She said well mine just do it anyway........... NO punishment.... you do your punishments the way you want too.... do not allow the child to dictate their own punishment.... and do not let society tell you how to punish them..... We do not need to be cruel or in anyway hurt them, but they need to understand that you are the parent here..... ...I am glad you asked this question....... sorry for being so long........... I had to say it.......

Answer 4

The punishment should be realistic to the age of the child and what they did wrong. You should explain what they did wrong and ask for them to tell you what they could have done differently and why. Keep it short and to the point, communicate so they can learn.

Example:
If they got in trouble for not doing homework, you could have them write "I will complete my homework" 50times. Again, this depends on the age.

Answer 5

i think it depends on the age of the child for example if they are 4 put them in a corner away from the others for 4 mins so ur going by the mins of their age and if they cry they stay for a further 4 mins until they stop crying u shouldnt really use the bedroom as a punish ment as children tend to get a fear of bed time as my neice used to get sent to her room then wen it was bedtime she used to say sorry mummy and she hadnt done nothing

Answer 6

usually found that taking something they like away ie tv disc players car(if have license)video games gives them something to think about - grounding only works if you have earplugs and the patience of Job(I've found that this way punishes the parent more than the child). Stealing and lying are butt warming items - good luck .

Answer 7

as i see it the only reason there is to spank a child is for hitting for the third time.. a couple of warnings are a good start...
having said that i know quite a few families who have never spanked a child and raised families of up to 11 children.
the word discipline comes from the word disciple, and it means to teach. to teach well means sometimes waiting until calm has come back to live in your heart.
if the parenting skills you have learned from your parents are violence based then you need to read "how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk". the knowledge contained in this book will arm you with words to use instead of objects...

thanks for listening =)

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Answer 8

That depends on the child, some only need a time out, some need someting taken away for some peroid of time (tv, video games, ect.) still others (like I did) need to be spanked.

It varies from child to child, try different things until you find what works for YOUR child

I raise my 2 lil bros one is 8 and one is 4, all I have to do is scold the 8 year old a lil and he gets all teary and behaves, he has been like that all his life, the 4 year old needs more, I have to put him in the corner and not let him play or talk for certin period of time, and occansionally I have to spank him (like when he spits in his big bros face) and things like that

Do what works for your child............

Answer 9

I got hit with a stick when i was really naughty. I still love and respect my parents though.............
I'm in my late 30's, married, with children, never been in trouble with the police, run a successful business, I'm not an alcoholic, i don't 'do' drugs. I've always worked, paid my taxes (a lot!) and am generally considered to be an OK kind of guy....
So why is it wrong to hit kids now?
let's get some kind of truth and realism going on here.

if you think you were bought up properly and responsibly by your parents then emulate what you want from them....don't pander to the hippy liberals.....otherwise your kid will want a hoodie very soon and will be tucking his shell suit bottoms into his comedy socks before you can say 'put that joint out'!!!!!

Answer 10

Really there is no way to punish a child but if i had to ground them so they can learn . the reason why people make mistakes is so they can learn from them, if we had no mistakes we wouldnt know how to learn.