I'm still kind of figuring stuff out with my sorta ex boyfriend and I'm not looking to date anyone right now. I've kind of been asked out by a couple guys though and I don't really know what to say, so I just say I'm not available. The reason I don't just say "I'm not looking to date right now" is because they don't really ask me out in the way that I'm positive it's for a date. One guy asked me if I wanted to 'go get food tomorrow at 6'. So I'd hate to tell him that I'm not looking to date right now, only for him to say "I wasn't asking you on a date". How can I tell if I guy is just wanting to be friends or really asking me out on a date?
2007-07-30 09:30:03 · 16 answers · asked by sarahjaniepoo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
only gay guys wanna be friends, no matter if its a date or not, just say no thanks, maybe next time... and you know there is no such thing as next time... unless its with a bunch of people, groups are ok, but no one on one's simply because you are trying to sort out your ex situation, peace
2007-07-30 09:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if it is a date. That is the only way you are going to go. But that guy said 'go get food at 6', not 'will you go out on a date with me at 6'. See it for what it is, go eat, everyone has to eat at sometime. More than likely he will reveal if he is interested in dating you when you 'go get food at 6'.
2007-07-30 16:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by mahakala_00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And why not just go get something to eat?
Going out to eat, movies and just plain having fun, doesn't necessarily mean you're dating exclusively (as in boy/girl friend). If the question comes up, and things don't just come up out of the blue, just say that it's not a good time. You just might find that you have it all figured out. And you might just end up with a bigger group of friends.
2007-07-30 16:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by magikal01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually you can tell by the tone of voice or by the look in his eyes. I know for a fact that if you go out with him for say food or something, he will probably think to himself that it is a date, and will expect you to go out with him again. If you choose not to go out with him again, he will most likely be hurt or just think you went with him the last time because you were bored. My advice to you is if you're really not interested in the guy then don't lead him on.
2007-07-30 21:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hie Sarah. Well to me it is bad for a guy to ask you out because you have just break off with boyfriend and trying to sought things out, but when a guy is asking you to get lunch then it is good for you to go out with him and when you are out with him then for sure the doubt in you will be clear and when it is clear then for sure you will get to know about it, for sure it will be hard of you talking to him because your mind is still thinking of him so it will be hard, but it is good for you to just give a try and when you have give a try then you will get to know the result out of it and there you can make the decision on whereby when the next time of a guy is calling you out then it will only be as friend and not a boyfriend. Try this and hope it might help you.............
ALL THE BEST............
2007-07-30 16:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you aren't looking for a boyfriend (if that is the truth). Otherwise, just say that you're flattered but you don't think that they are your type. The truth may hurt, but I'd rather a guy tell me the truth than to lie to me or give me false hope. So, I do the same for guys.
2007-07-30 16:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by Caliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with 'get his number' because most of the time when a guy asks you out, it is for a date.
They usually decide it was only friendship if you say no.
Good for you for not rushing into anything.
2007-07-30 16:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say the truth
you don't want a boyfriend right now.
2007-07-30 16:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by Makena O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can just go out with them and make it clear its not a date...have some fun...life is for living...then the balls in your court and you decide if you want to see them again. for a date or as friends...your not committing to anything and its not a crime to have friends..have some fun.x
2007-07-30 16:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you are doing. You can't turn someone down if you're not sure they are asking!
Don't fret about it. You're leaving your options open for later, if things don't work out with your ex.
:)
2007-07-30 16:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by belle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋