well i know im just a teen but i feel that time will never come for me i dont want to have children get married have a boy friend have a first kiss nothing not that it's gross i feel nothing that exiting will happen to me i dont want the kid thing to happen until when im older and dont want to be engaged underage that's not it i just feel that im not that lucky for someone to have a crush on ME! yes sometimes i dont like who i am and just hate that so do you agree that im just not cut for all this stuff when im grown or reach high school and go on a date and they ask ME or something like that?
2007-07-30 09:10:29 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're young and you have sooo much time to change your mind. You haven't even experienced what life is all about yet. Enjoy being young and a teenager, and don't worry about all of this. I know it might weigh on your mind, but trust me, things will happen the way they are intended to. In the future, do what you feel is right and what makes you happy and eventually, hun, things will fall into place. Good luck.
2007-07-30 09:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still very young, but if this is any help. I used to feel a similar feeling. I was always the tomboy next door, aka the girl all the guys could hang out with. Whenever I had a crush I always got "I don't want to ruin our friendship" or "you're like a sis to me", etc. So after my high school sweetheart cheated on me and blamed me for everything I said screw it. I never wanted another boyfriend, marriage, none of it. I pursued college, got a job, and watched a bunch of my friends get married and have children. Then one day out of no where a guy came into my life, and somewhere I fell in love. And I did the one thing I swore I would never do, I got married. If this is the way you feel that is fine. As long as you are happy about your choices.
2007-07-30 09:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by plutarian04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But Who wants to be underage and engaged anyway? Your youth is to spend learning, experiencing and enjoying. Not to be strapped to a guy or children. That'll come later when you're ready and willing.
Feelings about dating will change when you're in high school. They'll ask and you'll accept dates. You'll enjoy some and not so much others.
Right now it just sounds like growing pains, maybe a bit of depression. Don't waste time thinking about stuff like this. It'll change. Have fun now- with the family and friends you have now.
Exciting things don't normally just happen. You have to work at making it happen. And exciting things are different things to different people.
2007-07-30 09:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by magikal01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are young compared to me, I think your thinking you do not want children, get married or have a boyfriend cause you hear so many bad stories about people with kids, that are married and have bad relationships with guys. No ones life is perfect, try not to worry so much about the future, try to enjoy today, and maybe when you are older you will feel like dating a guy if you have that exciting butterflies in the stomach feeling.
Best of luck!
2007-07-30 09:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by Hmmm... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like someone who is experiencing peer pressure. Do not worry too much on the things you don't like. Think about the things that you like doing instead. Do what you love and change the group of friends or people you are hanging out right now. Find a friend who has the same interest as you and those who will not pressure you about marital and sex issues. Life is good, spend your time doing things that you love, either sports, music, dancing, singing, art, painting, cars, whatever you like!
I am a graphic designer, I love what I do! I am happy with hanging out with other artist. We don't talk about marriage, kids, kissing, etc. We talk about our passion.
How about you? What do you like to do? Then join a club that interest you. When people see that you are happy and passionate at your thing, they will get to admire and appreciate you. Who will like someone who is bitter and have so many drama? Get my point?
2007-07-30 09:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by Goofy-footer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still young. Things might change. I think you should talk to your mom or school counselor. Maybe you saw someone or something in any of your relations' (parents, family, friend) situation that subconsciously, made you afraid to want to get married.
It's not a bad thing to want those, but at your age, if you are just a teen, I think you should worry about school more than your future marital status.
Good luck.
2007-07-30 09:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have low self esteem. Its normal to not want an adult life while you are a teen. You are suppose to just have fun and not think about it. You will see that when you get older your opinions about things will change. You should try just being more comfortable with yourself. Everything else will fall in to place when you are ready. Don't worry, life is going to include you in its master plan!!
2007-07-30 09:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by The thinker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all don't EVER say you hate who you are. that's horrible. saying that stuff only means you are not confidant. There's someone out there for everyone and don't lose all hope and think the world will come to an end if you do kiss someone and get married.
Deal with who you are.
2007-07-30 09:14:41 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Rayyhol♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish my daughter felt the same way. Keep going on that tangent. You'll do fine.
I married late in life. It gave me a chance to live and gain experience and maturity before diving into a marraige.
Stick it out.
2007-07-30 09:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
like you said your only a teen....never say never you will have a different outlook in the next 5 years, goals, challanges, values and then in another 5 years it will change yet again....give your self an opportunity to see whats out there before you automatically say you will never get married or date.
2007-07-30 09:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋