my lease is up in april, my boyfriend stays withme every single night of the week, he has a house. i want to move in with him but do not know how to bring it up. it would make more sense to live together and split the bills since we are together all the time anyway. i dont want to askhim to move in and scare him, and i dont know if he is thinking the same things i am. its like we live together now in seperate residences, we have only been dating a year, but i feel you should know by now if i am someone you would be able to live with. i dont want to bring this up a month a before my lease is up but i dont know when would bea good time. its not like im asking to be married, eventually i would like to be, but that is not what i am asking for now. should i wait for him to bring it up or bring it up myself?
2007-07-30 09:08:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he has never mentioned this then it's likely to put him in a very uncomfortable position. I'm a firm believer in 'you never invite yourself' because it's just rude.
Also you're already setting it up to put pressure and guilt on him. I can tell that you're springloaded to take it personally if he says no.
Don't believe for a second that 'you have nothing to lose'. I would very much resent someone for putting me in this situation. Sorry but even if he's completely against the idea he knows you're going to blow up if he says no. So he's going to agree to it even if he hates the idea. And then there will be the tension you can't identify all of the time you live together.
2007-07-30 09:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever bring the subject up to him. April is a long way away, so if he hasn't said anything about you moving in with him by about February, tell him that you are looking for a new apartment. If he still doesn't ask you to move in with him, find someone else.
2007-07-30 09:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with bringing it up now. You can tell him that your lease is up in April and if the 2 of you are still a couple you would like to move in with him and ask him what his feelings are. This will also guage what his feelings are towards to you
2007-07-30 09:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey bring it up what have you got to lose.it does make sense,as long as you always discuss things like bills and food money,so you have a good understanding of how you both would like to live,just so you dont both start arguing.just ask straight out,if he says no dont feel offended and throw a strop about it.show him that your mature and ready for this big step.id personally just sayit right out"hey would you concider moving in together before i renew my lease,it was just a thought,what do you think on the matter,do you think its a good idea,or should i renew it for another 12 months."just see if hes keen or not.
2007-07-30 09:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree with mr taco. just ask him to help u look for a place or not and that will open the door and if he doesnt walk through it u have ur answer. i hope it works because he sure had no problem movin in on u but at the same time why hasnt he already suggested it seeing as he has a house. he might be just as nervous.
2007-07-30 09:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by TFB 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No guarantee this will work, but I recommend asking him what you should do. Just say, "My lease is up this April. What do you think I should do?" If he's smart, he'll recommend you move in with him. If he strongly recommends that you renew, then you'll know where you stand. Good luck!
2007-07-30 09:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋