Ok,i'm 16 and I'm a virgin! i have been with my boyfriend(19) for about one year.He's not a virgin and wants me to have sex with him.My first problem is my family,if they found out they would kill me because it not ok with my culture! My friends told me just do it,and nobody will know but I'm so scared ,I know its gonna be so painful for the first time and it hurts female so much ! I dont want to loose my boyfriend cause I do love him and I think its time to do it now! Most of the girls in our school are having sex , So I was wondering why cant i have sex with my bf?!? What should I do? I really want to be happy with my boy but my parents do not let me :( Can I trust my friends and just loose it?!?
Thanks for ur advices~
2007-07-30 09:02:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you think you won't lose your bf if you don't have sex with him you are wrong. You're 16 and you probably won't get married until you're in your 20's....what do you really think the chances are that it's gonna be this guy? I really doubt it!
What happens if you get pregnant? Or a disease? You need to take care of you....your friends can not tell you what to do. If you're questioning it, then I don't think you really want to do it.
2007-07-30 09:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by LAL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, there is no good reason to lose your virginity at your age. It will cause you more than physical pain unless you are in a position to deal with the responsibility. Your friends telling you to "just do it" shouldn't matter because you could get pregnant, or get a disease. It has to be your choice. If your boyfriend is over 18, having sex with you is a crime, and he could go to jail for it. Think about all that....then make whatever choice is best for you
2007-07-30 09:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by vaughnc5920 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sweetie, no one can tell you when u should lose ur virginity, you just know... and to tell you the truth i don't think ur ready.... I won't be a hyprocite and say to wait until marriage because i didn't.... I lost my virginity when i was 17 about a year older than you.... But You will know when your ready.... Don't listen to your friends!!! It's natural to be scared, especially because it is your first time.... but also think about ur and ur bf, do you see urself with him for a long time.... Can u picture urself with him in about five years.... Cause lets be real, relationship nowadays don't last very long.... I say you have sex when your damn well ready, if people tell you otherwise, you just tell them that you do what you want to do and you don't follow anyone.... Be your on leader, make your own choices... If you start doing everything other people tell you to do, you will grow up following orders and depending on other people to tell you what to do.... I'm not going to lie, it was painful at first, but then you get to enjoy it... Just follow ur heart, it will tell you what to do.... Don't listen to anyone else but ur heart...
2007-07-30 09:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by ivi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey what you experience is your experience of right and incorrect telling you that your virginity is a few element very specific to you and the guy who will at some point be your husband. intercourse does not convey 2 collectively yet makes 2 who love one yet another appreciate a marvelous bonding journey. So wait and don't permit your safeguard down.
2016-10-01 01:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by shenk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin' your only 16 and if its against your culture then i wouldnt do it. If you and your guy are truely in love then he isnt gonna try to pressure you into having sex if your not ready. Just because most of the girls in your school are sluts dosent mean you have to join the crowd, be a real woman and wait until the time is right.
2007-07-30 09:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have a job that pays well enough to support your needs and your baby's needs it might be time to consider sex if you really want to.
Somehow, I don't think you are in that position. You might also want to consider that your family can have your boyfriend arrested for rape. It is clear how they would react if they found out. You can't assume that they will not find out.
Pain isn't the issue if he has any self control at all.
2007-07-30 09:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by Automation Wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your bf really cares for you he will wait until your ready to have sex. Trust me wait your still young. Just because everyone else is doing it doesnt mean you should. I waited to have sex with my fiancee now i have only been with him and that is so special that we lost our virginity to eachother. I think you should wait to be honest with you. Depending on your bf some guys loose interest in a girl after they have sex because they got what they wanted. dont let anyone pressure you to have sex. Have it when your fully ready and from what you typed i can see your not ready to have sex. there are so many concquences for having sex so pls just wait you will be much happier later on. if he really loves you he will be patient and wait for you!!
2007-07-30 09:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by davidslilprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only lose your virginity once. Don't trust your friends. Why not start a "new" trend and say "no" untill you are married? If the boy cares for you, he will respect your decision to not have sex.
2007-07-30 09:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor reasons for having sex.
Everyone else is doing it...
The guy wants to have sex...
The poorest reason to get married,is to have sex.
Have a heart to heart with mom. If you decide to have sex, use birth control.
Your ob-gyn can remove the pain issue if you feel that is a problem.
I you are not mature enough to discuss the issue with your mom, chances are you are not mature enough to have sex responsibly.
2007-07-30 09:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. ."I dont want to loose my boyfriend cause I do love him"
Why would you lose him if he loves you he wouldn't mine not having sex, but the way your putting it makes it seem like he just want you to give it up to him. you dont have to have sex if you dont want to.. if most of the kids at your school started cutting them selves would you? who cares about what those other kids are doing at your school.. thats them not you.
listen, if he leaves you because you didn't or don't want to have sex with im then he never really even loved you.
2007-07-30 09:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋