i hate the way my stepdad is. im stuck between almost-family and love.?

Question

you see, we have these friends and they have 2 sons. one is 2 years older than me and the other one is a little younger than my big sis. so we're all pretty much in each others age ranges. anyhow, we've been seeing them alot for the past 2-3 weeks and we get along SUPER good. and we invited them last night to our pool and jaccuzzi, which are TINY. and now my dad keeps on asking me if we like them and why we were in such close contact and my mom the same, and we were barely getting to know each other and i was beggining to like their youngest son, when my dad forbids us to see them that often. and now i cant help but cry and now im grounded for something we didnt do and such. and now i hate my stepdad. hes not even so friendly. and so my mom is always starting to talk about their son to me and that im too little for hell knows what and such when we were merely enjoying the night! what do i do to get all this anger and sadness out of me. i cant keep living like this and im not doing any

thing wrong! help! do you feel sorry for me? and how do i change the way my dad thinks and everything. how do i get myself to not like their son tha tway? merely as a friend though?

Answer 1

I was in a step-family, its what proved to me that no matter who you are, if you stuck in the same situation with some one your even mildly attracted to, you'll start to fail in love. And unfornutely since the blood isn't there its hard for heart to well not want what it wants... ether way it was a horrible situation and althou were brother and sister (by everything but blood) it did its damage. And your parents thou that, what you feel is what councillors call transference. Your parents feel one way which makes you feel another because you don't understand why they feel that way, because quite frankly there hiding behind grown-up maturity talk, which is just a front. What you guys need is to be able to talk more honestly with each other or else this well turn into something like clueless (if you've seen the move, she eventually falls in love with your step-brother) but the fact remains we were never met to be in step-families, this is just a reaction to the overwelming social problem that we have were our society can't be honest about its emotional feelings, they think its to sappy, when in fact its the most INTENSE stuff you'll ever deal with in your life. So the only quick fix is if someone starts talking honestly about what they feel. Just sad, but it might be up to you..... good luck and which ever god you pray to.. bless.....