my mom found out i was dating a girl. she doesnt like me doing that. so i got in trouble about that and she cried cuz her son hides secrets from her. my dad constantly lies to my mom and theyre divorced. i started dating the same girl again and my mom found out. she strated crying again. i feel so guilty and dumb for doing what i did. i hurt my mom the only person whos been there for me. i dont kno what to do anymore. any ideas?
2007-07-30 08:22:24 · 19 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, keep dating the girl. Don't lie to your mom about it, tell her if she loved you then she would want you to be happy. It's not for her to decide whether or not you should go out with someone or not. You have to grow up and experience life. Your mom cannot live through you. She probably feels that she is going to lose you and it doesn't matter what age you are, she will feel this way no matter how old you are. Is she alone. Maybe you should mention to her that she herself should start dating.
Also, you should have a serious talk with your mom and reassure her that you will always love her and she won't lose you. She will always have a special place in your heart and you'll always be there for her.
2007-07-30 08:27:40 · answer #1 · answered by ♫☆ Y!A Princessღ ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There's no reason why your mom should be crying about stuff like this. You haven't done anything wrong. Dating this girl doesn't have to be a secret. Your mom just has to get over her son dating.
As long as your friend doesn't do drugs or is a bad influence that you, don't let it bother you. Moms are not always perfect.
Next time, tell your mom that you're sorry she doesn't like your friend. But that she is a nice person and you like her.
2007-07-30 15:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by magikal01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your mom.
She wants you to be honest, but she's not accepting of your decisions. Tell her that if she wants you to tell her everything, she should be more accepting and let you make some of you own choices.
Also, she might work on changing her approach. As you get older, it tends to work better to reason and guide your kid instead of just setting rules. I know I don't like it when people say "no, you're wrong," without explaining it. If she wants you to hear her out, she should not try to overpower you.
Just talk to her about how you feel and maybe you could come up with a middle ground, a compromise. Maybe if you're dating this girl, there could be more specific rules about that, like no going alone into private areas where something could happen. Rules like that can help make your mom feel more comfortable with the idea of you dating, and not like you're completely beyond her.
2007-07-30 15:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy on her. She has a right to be upset. Go to her, and pat her on the back gently, to show her that you care. Next, tell her why you are dating this girl. Tell her all the good things about the girl, and tell your mom why you've been hiding this from her. If you continue keeping secrets from her, she's going to start losing trust in you. Everything that happens in your life, you cannot keep it a secret from your mom. Whatever you are having troubles with, tell her. She just might understand you, becuase she was once EXACTLY like you. She's closer than your friends. She's Mom.
2007-07-30 15:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
D, sit down with your mom and apologize for not telling her the truth. Perhaps explain that you knew she would be upset so that is why you weren't honest to begin with, but now you want to let her know that you are fond of this little girl and want to see her as a girlfriend. I hope that your mom can remember being young and having friends of the opposite sex and thinking they were your steady. In reality this relationship you are currently having with this young girl is probably puppy love or some kind of infatuation. But as long as it makes the two of you feel special then that is all that really matters. It might be a good idea also to bring this girl over to meet with your mom and then the two of you can let her know that no hanky panky is going on and that you want to be good friends so please not to worry. Good luck and hopefully your mom will come around but you must stop lying to her as it sounds like she has suffered this abuse before.
2007-07-30 15:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U probably need to respect your moms wishes: u sound a little young to be serious anyway.so tell this girl u are sorry but your mom has a hang up about her and u need to quit seeing her for now or bring her over to meet mom and see how that goes she may even like her. but she is crying cause she has a trust issue with men and u hurt her by lying. talk to mom and see if u can understand where she is coming from...
2007-07-30 15:31:09 · answer #6 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Sounds to me like your mom is feeling betrayed by you or something. It isn't bad that you're seeing a girl; she shouldn't freak out. Talk to her and tell her you really like that girl and that she should support you. Let her know that if she keeps freaking out then you won't be comfortable telling her anything. Don't feel bad, you're not doing anything bad. She is just scared you will do to her what your dad did. Just reassure her you won't and everything will get better!
2007-07-30 15:46:47 · answer #7 · answered by flor m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be up front with her. sit her down and talk to her. tell her that you obviously do not want to hurt her, but you feel like you cant tell her things. if she wants you to be honest with her all the time, then she has to be open and understanding of what you will be telling here. its a two way street. its not fair that you dont get to do what you want, and its not fair that in order to do so you have to lie to your mom about these things.
2007-07-30 15:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by makk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At least you feel bad...that is really cool of you...but I think you should tell your mom that you feel dumb for lying to her..and that you will be honest from now on..and tell her that you didnt mean to hurt her...and that you want to make her proud...just tell her what you told us...good luck!
2007-07-30 15:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by greeneyedauntie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok like i dont get why its such its such a big deal that u r dating just dont lie to her tell her that u r dating that girl and maybe she will be happy that u just told her the truth and wont care anymore if u date her
2007-07-30 15:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by ☆STAR☆ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋