Ive been going out with this guy for about 2 months. Im 15 and hes 16. We are having sex and see each other at least every other day. Weve never talked about our relationship. I dont know if im his girlfriend or even if were dating exclusively. Weve never met each others parents (which i guess isnt a big deal) but i want to be his girlfriend and date exclusivley. im afraid if i talk to him about it, itll scare him.
Do you think its too soon for me to talk to him about it? plus i dont know what to say to him. please help me
2007-07-30 08:15:30 · 14 answers · asked by Ash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girl, if u don't ask him he is never gonna ask u, he is gonna use u. bcoz u said u guys are having sex regularly. hurry up, best time would be at the end of date, ask him whats his future plan with u, that u really think about him a lot, u think that he should do something about it.
2007-07-30 08:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ashley--you are doing this all backwards--and definitely without any regard to the IMPORTANT questions. You seem to view sex as the only thing holding you together--no emotions--no thought to the consequenses---and that is a BIG issue. Sex is an adult emotional show of love between two caring and committed people.....ADULTS.. 2 months is not a committed relationship--and 15 and 16 is not near emotionally mature enough to have sex. You are being used--you run the risk of a pregnancy--AND DISEASES. Has he said he will marry you and support a baby if that were to occur??? I mean sex does bring babies--it has for millions of years to billions of people. Of course a baby will mean a lousy life if you are not ready to have one. You have school, college and a career to think about. This guy could probably care less. You get pregnant and he walks away. Except at 15 you are illegal to him and he goes to jail. Oh yes--it is rape. And prison for a 16 year old is NOT nice. You should be in school activities, doing fun things, have fun dates and enjoying your teen years. Tell him that YOU are no longer ready for sex--not ready for a baby--or those fatal diseases-- YOU have made up YOUR mind that you and he can go to movies and have fun--but that is it. I bet he finds another to have sex with and drops you---SEE?? I told you it was all just the sex---he could care less. It is YOUR right to do what you want with YOUR body. Sex is not a fun game--or a way to keep a guy interested. You should have all the respect for yourself that you can have. NEVER have a boyfriend that won't be open and truthful to you. At your age--you have no idea what this relationship stuff is all about. Take the time to read some good books about relationships--friends--sex--and responsibility. And concentrate on home and school FIRST...Better get a blood test too--I think he may be doing others--NOT a nice guy at all. Good luck
2007-07-31 03:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I living on a different planet? You are 15 and are talking about having sex like it was brushing your teeth! Not only that, you don't even know if you are this guy's girlfriend or not! How many girls is he doing the same thing to? I'd guess three or four. And you are afraid of chasing him away? Don't take this the wrong way but, you are acting like a total loser.
What kind of relationship do want with this guy? Are you looking to get married soon? Are you serious? You think that meeting each other's parents is no big deal? Why don't you want to do that...is it because you know they would raise hell with you?
I don't think there is any advice I could give that would make any sense to you. Good luck with your life babe, I see major problems in your future.
2007-07-30 08:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by GunnyCee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're already having sex, it's definitely NEVER too soon to talk about a committed relationship. If he is mature enough to be having sex with you, he is SURE AS HELL mature enough to handle the "commitment talk". Your chances of having a good relationship greatly depend on how well you vibe and enjoy each other when you are NOT in between the sheets.
I guess saying: "I really like being with you and really enjoy spending my time with you. I want to be your girlfriend." would work as good as anything. See in this way, you bring up commitment as a FLATTERING thing (you're complimenting him on you enjoying yourself in his presence), a GIFT, instead of an attempt to "chain" him down.
And of course, if he buys it the exclusivity goes IMPLICITLY along with it! It's silent and stealthy and lethal, mwahahaha! Man, I would have been a skillful manipulator had I been born with two X chromosomes! :-)
Of course, he has a full right to reject this arrangement. You of course in that case have a full right to stop indulging him (Not in an ultimatum sort of way, that's too crass. Just say "I don't feel comfortable doing this anymore." next time he gets frisky, let him figure out that he needs to promise exclusivity, and boom let him watch your "comfort" go right back to normal!).
2007-07-30 08:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too soon. And I don't see why you're with the guy if you haven't set an official thing between the two of you. And sex when you're 15? If you two get caught, he's going to jail, you know that right? The legal age to have sex for a lot of states now is 16. You two are too young to do than anyways. Take it slow.
2007-07-30 08:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by Samson 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think if u want to see him exclusively then u need to ask. ur worried about scaring him off but would u rather scare him off and find someone who is looking for the same thing u are looking for or do u wanna be some girl who is cool to hang around available to have sex with but not good enough to be a girlfriend. u will never know if u dont ask and end up just hurting yourself. how are u able to have sex with someone u cant talk to. thats a problem. simple ask him what he is looking for and where do u and him stand.
2007-07-30 08:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by TFB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not somewhat ask a query there. do you % to renowned if he likes you or not or what you're able to do to concentration greater on college? i might recommend telling him you will particularly not artwork with him next time a challenge comes up, or hurry up and ask somebody else. And as for in spite of the fact that if he likes you or not, it may go the two way, attempt flirting with him somewhat, i know you're somewhat shy, yet to be brutally honest theres a wager hes in basic terms making use of you to your brains. Take a 2d and be thoroughly honest with your self. Are you smart? and are you captivating? i don't recommend wonderful, I recommend warm. not all usual adult males are shallow, yet maximum... I hate to declare it... are... possibly you discovered a good one or perhaps you're an tremendously marvelous man or woman and he's shallow. i'm not sure, i assume i might % greater information to grant you a greater sufficient reaction... sry, GL tho =]
2016-10-13 03:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have sex it's been long enough to talk about the relationship. My advice is to not go at this like it's a "talk". Just tell him that you want the relationship to be exclusive. If he wants to discuss it then you can have a talk about it. Otherwise he'll just say ok or he'll tell you that he doesn't want it to be exclusive.
2007-07-30 08:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are having sex, but you worry it is too soon to talk to him about whether or not you are in a relationship????????What is wrong with this picture- talk to him !
2007-07-30 08:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by NAN G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk about it with him. because if you havent discussed dating exclusively... who knows what else he's doing. i dont think you wudd like it if he was dating other girls or having sex with them. and you shouldnt be having sex with him without a committment in my opinion.
2007-07-30 08:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by **CHRIST*a rock that is higher** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋