The stay-at-home Mother of four sons, 11yrs, 9yrs, 5yrs, 3 yrs old, was discussing camp plans with her 11 yr old when a neighbor she didn’t know was at the door with her 3yr old in her arms.
The Mother was mystified, because the 5 and 3 yr old NEVER left the very, large yard before when the two older brothers were home.
The Mother doesn’t do drugs, has been married to the Father of the boys for 13 yrs, helps support her husband with Cub/Boy Scouts, T-Ball, Basketball and Football activities, takes the boys to church, library and various appointments.
CPS came out and told her, “If it happens again the children WILL be taken away!” This was after she had solved the problem using the “Love and Logic” parenting methods and making the yard more secure.
Their sons are ALL BOY and full of energy. She Loves them dearly and does as much or more than anyone else would do to make sure they grow into kind, responsible, and strong men.
Does CPS have the right to remove these boys?
2007-07-30 07:52:08 · 22 answers · asked by lafekken_9X9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
CPS will pick on who ever they feel they can intimidate.
As a Police Officer, I have called in CPS for real abused children. Only to have CPS tell me that there is nothing they can do.
Then a kid calls the 1-800 number because he got a spanking. CPS would want to remove the kid.
My opinion, CPS is selective, they bully and have been given too broad of powers.
If more parents spanked there kids, the cops jobs would be a lot easier and fewer social problems.
2007-07-30 07:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by Eldude 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
CPS has the right to remove a child from any home if they feel that they are not receiving adequate supervision. Of course, that doesn't mean that accidents don't happen or that it would be in the best interests of the child(ren) to be removed from the home, but CPS can do pretty much what they want as long as they feel they have the grounds to do so. It is sad because every day you see children who SHOULDN"T be living in the environment that they are, the parents have been turned in, but nothing is done. Then, a good parent can make a mistake and have their lives turned upside down by a system that is supposed to be in place to make children's lives better.
My advice would be that she just watch the kids, and not let the 3 year old be alone in the yard. It is better to be safe than sorry...an it only takes a second for a child to disappear.
2007-07-30 08:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by lilprincess029 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are going to have to PROVE that the children are in an unsafe environment.
Be warned...these people can be sneaky and something that happened 10 or 20 yrs ago can come back to bite you in the rear. Make sure that if anyone in the house is on medication (for whatever reason) has the backup of their Doctor should they be accused of anything.
When you need them (Cops, Social Workers etc) they are never around, but as soon as little Johnny scrapes his knee they are all over you like Flies on Honey.
Don't you just love how our Goverment works.?
2007-07-31 20:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by HistoryMom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They do but I don't think they should. That said you should not leave 3 yr olds outside unsupervised. A 5 yr old does not count as supervised. Unless the yard is fenced in some adult should be watching the kids outside. I don't go for that boys will be boys bit. It's just a lame excuse for letting boys misbehave. You can have well behaved kids. I have raised 3 and it's just hard work to keep them in check. most people are too lazy to do the job right and just use these lame excuses.
2007-07-30 07:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by bob K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The have the right, but it doesn't sound like it's in the best interst of the children. CPS tends to get carried away. She needs a good lawyer.
2007-07-30 07:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by rockhoundguide 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if the mother is a good person i would contact a lawyer, before its to late, the laws very to state or where ever you live, sounds like someone has called them and told lies, which they are allowed if they are legal, to see whats going on and so on.. she needs to see someone about this, if not its her loss... the cps and others are not always right, but the laws protect them and not the ones it should... which i know this as fact...
2007-07-30 09:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it happens again, they certainly do. I've raised 2 children and I would have NEVER left either one alone in a yard, no matter how large, alone at age 3. It was negligent. Hopefully she learned from this and it won't be an issue in the future.
2007-07-30 07:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know but CPS should do that if this happens again.
2007-07-30 10:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little kids have minds of their own..........they can disappear in seconds without you even realizing they were gone. I am sure she in her mind is punishing herself and will probably take it upon herself to try harder to keep checking on them more often........I have a 4 year old son that WOULD NOT stay in the house. I could not leave him in a room alone or he would be out the door. We had to put dead bolts on the opposite sides of the doors and my husband locked the doors from the outside when he left in the morning and only I knew where the key was. Since he couldn't get out the doors he then started going out windows...........its dangerous for both the mother and kids but her kids SHOULD NOT BE TAKEN AWAY..............
2007-07-30 07:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by steracrudy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it happens again, yes they do have the right - because that would be considered neglect - fist time is an accident - second is neglect.
But taking into considerationwhata great mom you are saying she is, she won't let it happen again so why worry about it?
2007-07-30 07:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋