sex question?????

Question

so im going away for the weekend with my boyfriend. We have been going out for 6 months now i love him and he love me.. he is a caring person attentive with me and he does not pressure me about sex... i was the one that mention it.. i am 20 and he is 22... so my question is 20 old enough to have sex.... i believe that i am ready but the only thing that is keeping me form having sex is the chances of me getting pregnant i have looked up different types on contraceptives but im still a little scare... any advice or anything....... i am not a person that believe that you should have sex until u are married..

please only serious answers
no if you are asking this question then you are not ready please none of that


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thank you...

Answer 1

you love him and he loves you and if you feel like he's the right guy to give your virginity to, then go for it... you have educated yourself enough on how to prevent unwanted pregnancy, so be careful...
sweety...be sure that he does love you....

Answer 2

Sex is always a very important step to take in your life. You are an adult but not withstanding that fact you are the only one who can say if you are ready for sex or not. Do not equate sex to love for it will only get you into emotional trouble. Since you seem to have a healthy attitude towards sex per se, you just have to be careful to use the best method possible not only to prevent pregnancy but any STDs also!

No method of birth control is 100% effective but there are some that give you better odds. It would be wise to consult with a seasoned medical professional to get the best option for birth control. As for the prevention of STDs, the condom is, up to now, the best, if not the only, method of prevention. Once you decide which method of birth control to use keep in mind that you still have to use protection against STDs. Do not assume or take for granted that your partner is disease free, no matter how long and well you believe to know him.

With your seemingly healthy attitude towards sex you should have no problem once you do take the step. Good luck!

Answer 3

I think that twenty years is old enough assuming that your maturity level is equal to the task. What I mean is you should understand that sex is not just about the physical side of it. Its more about the emotional and spiritual side. To really connect with a person you don't need sex, it only accentuates it. I have been with women who I didn't have a deep connection with and the sex was just ok but then I have been with a few women that I was truley in love with and the sex was tremendous. Thats how I see it. I also never let religion get in the way of my relationships. I've seen more people tear their relantionships apart because of religion than any other reason except money. Its all between you and your guy and if your relationship is solid then you should go to the next level but only if you feel comfortable with it. Good luck.

Answer 4

I am 17, and I feel if you honestly believe that you love him you are ready. I think you are doing the right thing by making your first time special, with someone you love and care about so deeply. It's really up to you, think long and hard about it. In my opinion, I think if both of you think you're ready then go for it. However, I must worn you about getting pregnant. Oh course, thats a possiblity before you have sex, think about this: What if we aren't as carefully as we think, and I end up getting pregnant? then what will we do!? I am a virgin, and its because I believe in waiting til I am married, but thats my personal belief, but for you....I would say just make sure that you think about the flip side, what if you get pregnant? or what if you catch a S.T.D? think. Good luck, and hope you choose me as your best answer. Btw: If you choose to have sex with that special someone, I hope that you enjoy every moment, and I hope that night will be very memorable. ♥

Answer 5

Sweetie you are going to be scared no matter what you do because it is going to be your first time. But to me I think 20 is definately old enough girlie. Just know deep down if you will regret it or not. As the way you are speaking you know you feel and I say go for it. Best of luck and I hope really enjoy it after the short pain goes away. LOL. Its not that bad and it's is worth it.

Answer 6

You are an adult and adults make their own decisions. Don't delay on the contraceptive thing. Go to a Doctor right away and set yourself up with something. Then if the time feels right let nature take it's course. Relax and enjoy. As women we tend to let others influence us too much in the area of intimacy. Get all the other voices out of your head and just have your voice and his. Your interest and ability to relax will help him to and increase both of your enjoyment. Good Luck and have fun.

Answer 7

well, if you are unsure coz of the pregnancy thing. go back to your DR and make sure you are taking necessary steps to avoid getting pregnant.

when you settle that issue, you should then talk to your bf ad let him know you think you are ready to bring sex into the relationship. I am sure he will understand any fears you might have and the fact you are a virgin.

do not feel pressured to have sex just because you feel you are in love and you have been wtih him for 6 months. you are 20 and that is old enough to have sex but its not like you have to.

if you feel like you are ready then you should do what you want. as long as you are going to be responsible then you have nothing to worry about.

have fun!!

Answer 8

in my opinion, if you're over 18, age should not be an issue.

if you both love each other, and you feel that it's time, then go for it!

Contraceptives are not always as faulty you think. if you decide do go on the pill and use condoms, or if you just want to use condoms (as long as they are the right size and they are brand new), the chances of you getting pregnant should be very slim slim.

Answer 9

First, get a physical and discuss being sexually active with the MD. If you are virgin, ask about the HPV vaccine. Very important. And of course you will want to discuss contraception with the MD, with birth control pills being the best if feasible. However, contraception doesn't protect agains STD. Condoms work best for that, but if you are committed, he can also get tested. There are things a male can carry that can't be tested for including HPV and sometimes Herpes. Again, and MD is the best place for advice and assistance.

Third, be prepared and then enjoy.

Answer 10

if you do not believe in premarital sex then you should wait until you are married. if he is as caring and loving as you say then he should understand and respect that. now if you decide you still want to do it because you are ready then don't rush it and use a condom to prevent any slip ups. there are many condoms out there that give added pleasure just look around for the right one.

Answer 11

Well the most important thing to remember is to be safe as my grandmother always used to say to me "A Baby Is the Least of Your Worries" You only want to protect yourself why not try taking a trip to the doctors office and since you are both committed to one another get tested together isnt that important to do first before taking that big step?