what to do????

Question

what do i do my bf want to go all the way but i am not ready he said i dont have a choice and please dont tell me to dump him cus that is not a choice for me i am not that pretty and i dont get asked out often i am only 12 and i really dont want to go all the way yet please help!!!!!!!!!!!

he is 14! and really sweet usually

Answer 1

12 is way too young to handle something as large as sex. Is there any way that you can do for him things that aren't intercourse that you don't have a problem doing? Ask if there are any alternatives for you to satisfy him. Sounds like he's just frustrated with the situation or maybe experiencing some peer pressure from his guys.

I would never tell you to dump him. It's hard to do when you care about him so much. But if he cared about you as much as you want him to, then he wouldn't be forcing you to have sex either.

Good luck!

Answer 2

well you are 12. He says you dont have a choice. Yea, ya do your 12. Well I'm assuming your not getting married too soon so what is the point of not dumping him? If he is pressuring you to do something is a jerk and doesnt deserve anyone. Who cares if you think you are not good looking! You probably are! If you do fall through and have sex with him, he may tell everybody! Why reck your reputation when your 12! You still have to go through highschool! Better too say no to him and get rid of him instead of being known as the whore of the school. And...you are 12. Sorry if this is kinda mean but it is true. Think about what you are doing be smart. You are only a kid for a little bit longer.Why give it up by having sex with a jerk?

Answer 3

Well, there are alot of people who are going to tell you that you are too young to have a boyfriend, let alone go "all the way". And I agree with them, but that is beside the point.

If you are only 12, you should not worry about getting asked out often. You should only be worrying about relationships with people who you like, people who actually know you as more than a face.

Breaking up is ALWAYS an option. You do not need to have a boyfriend, especially at such a young age. And you definately do not need someone who is going to put pressure on you to have sex. It is good that you know you are not ready.

Your boyfriend said that you don't have a choice, and he is right. You cannot legally choose to have sex, nor should you. He sounds like a someone who does not listen to you or care what you think, so why would you want to be with him? You need to break it off before you are in danger of getting raped.

Answer 4

You are only 12,... shouldn't you still be playing with Barbies.... you do not need a boyfriend... You need time to your self build your confindence .. becasue you think you are not that pretty, again you are only 12. You do have a choice,, and do not do it. I PROMISE YOU THIS, you do it with him he may come around a couple times more... it will NOT last long,.,, he will leave you after he has gotten what he wants.. TRUST ME. Think this,.,, do you want to be a mom at 12, you do not know what you are doing... you do not even need a boyfriend right now. you are too young. Find a sport get your parents to get you into something, other then you sitting here and going to do BAD things with a boy and you are only 12. You will be talked bad about in school you, you can never take this back. Please I beg you not to do it. Look for with in baby girl you are only 12,

Answer 5

Honey you are 12 years old & u are obviously more mature than him cuz u are not ready!! Do not let Anyone push u into something u don't want 2 do! Peer pressure... U will have it always drugs, drinkn, sex.... U have 2 learn to say no & not 2 be afraid of ur answer stand up 4 yourself & what would your mom think 2 know her baby is havin sex! Jus wait avoid him if that what he wants! If he loved or cared he care about what u think & how u feel! Let it go who cares if u r not that pretty there r a million ppl out in the world!!! U r 12!!!!!

Answer 6

Good God!! 12???!!!! Do NOT go all the way! You're boyfriend is an idiot to tell you that you don't have a choice. You are 12 and in my opinion, shouldn't be "dating" at all but if you are going to date then be with someone who is not focused on sex. Don't worry about being asked out, it's going to happen, trust me i've been there.

Answer 7

i dont have to tell you to break it off. when you tell him how you feel you'll know yourself. dont let anyone make you do anythig your not comfertable with especially sex, your only 12 it might seam like life and death now that with out him the world is over but it isn't, you dont get asked out much cause your still really younge, trust me by the time your 21 you'll want to choke the nect man that uses yet another cheesy pick up line on you

remember even the biggest ugliesy most disgusting woman gets hit on 3 times a week

Answer 8

If you are only 12 then you are way too young to be thinking of this, if he is older then its basically child abuse. Of course you have a choice you are only 12!! What on earth do you need a boyfriend for at your age anyway honey?

Answer 9

Alright, think of it this way... if you had sex- got pregnate, you would have a child before you were even in highschool, perhaps before you are even a teenager. I have NEVER met an ungly 12 year old, only ones with low self esteem. I know you didn't want this- but dump him. He isn't worth it. A guy who pushes you isn't the kind of guy you want to share a child with. (people get pregnate even with protection) You admited you weren't ready- and apparently your bf doesn't care. YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THIS!

Answer 10

plenty of fish in the sea no matter how pretty or ugly you are. after you go all the way he might just leave so just chill take your time dont rush into anything you are not comfortable with especially at 12. hold your ground and be fierce. someone will come along who will treat you with respect and will uphold your wishes