I have been dating this guy for almost three years. We have a child together. Some of his ex girlfriends have tired to contact him through email and some girls that live near us found his myspace and are contacting him. He don't tell them that he is in a relationship and that he has a kid and he acts like he is single when he is talking to this girls.. I have confronted him about this and he tells me that there is nothing going on that he is just talking to them but his attitude has changed. How can I tell if he is just scared to tell me that it is over or if it is just talking and that is it. I need some help I don't really know what to do. We had talked about marriage awhile back and I started planning things and now he doesn't seem like it really matters to him.
2007-07-30 06:35:35 · 17 answers · asked by Nicole B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once you have a child, you need to start putting down roots and make a commitment. Flirting with other girls is unacceptable behavior and you have a right to demand answers about it.
2007-07-30 06:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would be concerned since he doesn't let them know he is in a relationship and has a child with you. He obviously want this to be kept a secret. Try and have a serious talk with him about whats going on between YOU 2, not the other girls. I hope all works out okay.
xoxo
2007-07-30 06:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, if he is lying he is not into you. He should have married you by now. 3 years and a child? Why hasn't he proposed to you. You should have married him before you had a child with him so many young girls make this mistake I don't know why. Based on his action he seems like he cares more about meeting other girls than about your relationship.
I don't mean to be blunt but reality is the best outlook.
2007-07-30 06:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is acting like he is single when talking to girls then chances are he is looking around to see what else is out there. If he didn't mention you in conversations with other girls, then he is giving the impression of availability to them, which is obviously wrong in a long term relationship. You 2 definitely need to talk, if nothing else he is being insulting to yourself and your child by pretending you don't exist!
2007-07-30 06:40:31 · answer #4 · answered by rachielewis1971 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is OK for a girl to ask out a guy this is 2007. As the guy to go out with you to do something, a movie, dinner a club what ever just be honest with him tell him you like him and wont to have a relationship with him, guys are OK with this just hold off on the till death do us part lol lol. Just ask the guy out already, what do you have to lose, better to know than not.
2016-05-17 22:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by arminda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and discuss this with him again. What is on his mind? Why does he pretend to be single and childfree? Is marriage still in the future? What are his long term desires with regard to you and the child you share?
COMMUNICATE...we can't tell you what he's thinking or doing, but only guess. You'll have to get him to tell you what's going on and share with him how you feel. Then you can better decide which direction to take your path.
2007-07-30 06:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems kinda weird that his attitude would changearound you. But dont get on his case about any thing untill you kow whats going on becasue I know guys hate that. If he starts comming home from work really late, or he gets weird phone calls or he goes out and doesnt tell youwhere hes going then get on his case abotu it and tell him yournot going to stick around for him to be out with other girls. When you have to stay home and take care of your child.
2007-07-30 06:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be strong for you and the baby and let him go and be single because he doesn't seem very interested in the relationship. If he is ready to let go of the family he made let him in the long run he will regret it. If hes not ready for marriage you need to find someone that is and can emotionally take care of you and your child.
2007-07-30 06:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by Coral Rae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly, he is probably ready to back off. He seems to be losing interest in you. I assume you live together. Guys often will not marry you if you have already began playing house...(I.e. living together, with children)...it kind of takes the fun out of the future together...There is a saying.."Why buy the cow if the milk is free"....his actions say he is not ready to be 100% with you. So give him space. Let him roam- and if its meant to be he will come home and his eyes wont wander far after that. Sometimes you have to show them what they will lose in order for them to appreciate it
2007-07-30 06:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by Enchanted One 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think any of us can give you a definite answer about the one. While it sounds like his feelings about you have changed, the only way you will ever really know is to sit him down and tell him that you need to know.
2007-07-30 06:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋