I just found out my engagement ring is FAKE!?

Question

Ok, before I go sound like a gold digger....

I just found out my 2 carat engagement ring is a fake. When it was first given to me my special somone went on big thing about how he spent his savings to buy it for me! And for the last 3 years has been saying how real it is. Normally, I wouldn't care but last month he spent over 1000 on new rims for his car, he bought his mom a 1500 dollar t.v. for mothers day, wtf? He is driving a brand new car, and whatever he wants he buys himself. For our 4 year anniversary he spent like 150 on me! I am so pissed! If he was financially struggling I wouldn't care if I got any diamond, it's just the point of he will spend money on everything else! Should I end it??

I sound like a gold digger? I spent almost 3000 dollars on him at Christmas, I didn't expect that in return, I just expect some f'in respect and honesty!

He knew, I confronted him and he admitted it I hung up and him, and haven't spoken to him since I don't want to hear his excuses...

To me it isn't about the fact that it's fake, its that he has money for everything else, and you would think that something like your girlfriends engagement ring would be important... I just feel not important, my ring was less than his rims!

Answer 1

Sounds like he's made a good decision. Rims and TVs are functional items, whereas a ring just sits there. If it looks pretty, don't get too bunched up about it being made differently. I know you can argue that he lied to you, but most women think that a real diamond is a necessity, when in actuality it isn't. He was just trying to give you what you want without spending a bunch of money on a useless rock. Go watch blood diamonds and see how much you want a real one after that.

Answer 2

Are you marrying this man based on how much he spends on you? Are you happy with the way he treats you? If the ring is fake, did he get taken when he bought it or did he know he was buying a fake ring and lie to you about it? Have you talked to him about it since you found out it was fake? Are you sure it's fake? Did you have it appraised by a reputable jeweler?

From what you've written, I'd say you have some thinking and talking to do. First, talk to your fiance and tell him what you're feeling. Then decide for yourself how you want the rest of your life to be. Before getting married, you may want to consider couples counseling. If you're having doubts before the wedding, now is the time to get things resolved. Only you can decide if you should end it. Before you make a decision one way or the other be sure about what you want for yourself.

Answer 3

Personally, if my boyfriend spent $150 on me for my anniversary, I wouldn't be complaining -- even if he spends more on his mom -- but it depends on how he used the money and if the gift was thoughtful, I guess.

Anyway, In my mind, the issue is that he lied. That's really low and it doesn't seem to make any sense. Are you sure he wasn't scammed? Maybe he really does think it's real. How did you find out it was a fake, anyway? I'd ask him where he got it, who the designer was, etc. See if you can put the pieces of the puzzle together -- if not, confront him about it and see what he says. Go with your guts.

Answer 4

I'm still working on that 3-year engagement...it's like he's renting you with options? Sons often give moms biggie gifts, and spending $1000 on rims for his ride...still always a boy, and maybe boys don't want to get married.... Real life examples here...the longest engagement in our family was a year, and that was because the groom was in the Navy, on a ship in the middle of who knows where for 6 months or more. If, on the other hand, you could call your relationship Going Seriously Steady, then that cubic zirconia ain't such a bad ornament after all.

Answer 5

You have to ask yourself: If the ring is fake, how real is his commitment to you? You are NOT a gold digger, you are just expecting reciprocation from him there is NOTHING wrong with that.

I was once given a ring and I was told it was a symbol of his heart, he was giving his heart to me. It turned out the 'diamond' was a moisonitte (sp) although the relationship was nice and good and all, I always thought in the back of my mind, he said it was his heart, but its fake, how real is his heart.

I'm sorry you've gotten hurt like this, I wish you the best... Please do not listen to these stupid women? who claim they would rather have their fake rock than a real one, it's not about an effing rock, it's about how much do you mean to him? If he can try and fake a ring, what the hell else will he fake? And he could have said "babe this isn't a real diamond, I want to save up for a real one but in the meantime this a symbol of my love for you, I want to be with you forever" In other words HE COULD HAVE BEEN HONEST but instead HE LIED.

Answer 6

Has the ring been "serviced"? Maybe they ripped you off.
If not, make up a story about how you were talking to some friend about insuring your ring and thought it was a good idea so you talked to your insurance agent and you can insure it for say $10 a month but you need the appraisal that came with the ring. Tell him it's no big deal for you to see it cause you already know what he paid, and it's so special to you that you don't want to take any chances! Then when you catch him in the lie, dump him. If he's gonna be misleading about this, what else!

Answer 7

Time to say adios, if he would lie about the single most important material bond between you, then its time to move on.What else would he lie about? Time to let him go and drop that line back in the ocean for a better catch. There is no forgiveness for lying about something so sacred. The gig is up, broken is the single most sacred part of any couple, TRUST, will you be able to trust him when he says hes working late, or with an old friend? TRUST so hard to build, so easy to loose

Answer 8

My concern for you is not that the ring is fake, but that he lied about it. I would confront him about it and find out why he says it's real when it is not. I wouldn't be so concerned about him not spending as much money on you as himself, but I would discuss with him finances and where you both see your finances when you get married. If you are to share your finances, then I wouldn't worry about how much he is spending unless you are in a financial bind. Right now, you are not married, so his money is his and he can spend it on whatever he wants. I don't think you should end it, but I definitely think you have somethings you need to discuss with him first before you do get married. Good luck

Answer 9

WOW, well that is a hard one. I would confront him and see what he says if it sounds like he doesn't care well then I guess you know what you need to do. If can't live with out him then I guess you know that you have to put aside and deal with it. Don't complain about if you are not willing to face it and deal with it and make the decisions you know you should make. Not trying to sound rude really, But he seems like an *** to me. Maybe it is real just a real Cubic Zirconia which can be expensive also.

Answer 10

wow that is really and I mean really annoying. It definitely is a hard decision but I think you can't just ignore what he has done and go on. You should definitely tell him you know what he has done and you sould make him see what he has done is wrong. That shows he does not give you enough value, if you are going to marry someone you should be more important than his car. More important then the price of the ring is the fact that he has lied to you...