I think there are various different versions of this statement, there's the "I really just see you as more of a mate"... There's the "I've only recently come out of a long-term relationship"... And then there's the classic "I think you're great and really easy to talk to, but....."
Basically, I've met guys who have asked ME out on dates it's gone well and then they've come out with one of these classic one liners... Am I alone in this? I don't seem to have much problem in the initial stages (as in, setting up dates) Perhaps I have a dreadful personality :)
2007-07-30 05:02:24 · 19 answers · asked by Volcano Grrl (aka Emby) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Big H and Lil Brown Eyes - the point I was making is that these are guys who have either pursued me or have been keen on the 'going for a drink' thing... I suppose what I'm asking is why not just come right out and say they don't want a relationship before even getting to the arranging a date stage?!
Surely that way, both parties would save on time and effort!!!
2007-07-30 05:14:33 · update #1
Because men are very fickle. They are too selfish to put the time and committment into a relationship.
They still want to mess around, sleep with as many girls as they want and have no ties.
At the end of the day, they do literally only want ya for one thing if they say that to you.
Some men say that because they want to pull a guilt trip on you and you will chase after them and give them what they want.
Other guys just love the chase, as the saying goes ''the chase is better than the catch''
Bottom line, unless he is a sincere, genuine guy, he is too selfish for anything.
And only out for one thing and if you don't give it to him, he gets in his selfish tantrum and calls it a day.
Cos he just couldn't care less, and couldn't be bothered putting in the time or effort.
So sweety, you are too nice a girl to even give these type of men a second thought. Keep your eye out for a nice genuine guy, who will love and care for you.
You are worth more than these guys.
My thoughts and best wishes are with you,
Take care girlie :-)
2007-07-30 05:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by angeleyes14999 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For her to being that may not cool, it quite tutor a loss of admire for u and ur relationship. i'm getting which you have faith her. yet u'll be homestead tearing out ur hair thinking what she's doing... even whilst she's doing not something in any respect. u the two ought to talk her and tell her how u experience and if she cares enuff she'll probably attempt to diminish down on the time she spends with them yet an option determination if the befriend her guy frenz and carry close out with them too or you will possibly be able to desire to basically ought to depart her and locate somebody else
2016-10-01 00:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by gearlds 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back when a woman's maturity level is in the stages of experimenting... Is where guy's like this one's is.
Once a guy finds out he's actually desired by women - most women are already past getting all the attention and move on seeking more balance and stability.
Guy's are just starting their engines!
2007-07-30 05:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because they just want sex and realise you're not the type to put it out there right away.
Rather than just stop bothering to call you they give you those excuses to save your feelings. Who knows?
What you do know though is that you shouldn't waste your time wondering if it's you with the problem; you'll find someone soon enough.
2007-07-31 01:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Rainbow-Taster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they may have all of these that you described in your initial question, but I asked a few of my kids here and that means, "You're okay to have sex with once, maybe twice, but I don't see anything special coming out of it, so don't get any ideas."
Why do you think there's something wrong with you? Be comfortable with who you are and have fun being friends, dates, whatever, if they know you're desperately seeking, they're gonna pick up on that.
2007-07-30 05:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl you are so not alone.....Thats why im tired of the dating scene. Those statements are the exact same thing I get too. And they pursued me.....not the other way around.
I'm a 35yr old friendly down to earth woman.
Guess we both need to not give up hope.
I'm curious to know the answers you get.
Good luck
2007-07-30 05:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by oklasoonersgrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
These guys are telling the truth.. They really DONT want a relationship. They like you enough to hook up with you... and to have you around for companionship, but maybe they didnt feel that spark, or that chemistry that they are looking for in order to WANT a relationship.
If you are an adult, and older, this is normal actually... When you date around and hook up with people, but still do not feel that undeniable spark....
You need to wow someones socks off... and BE that person to give them that spark.
2007-07-30 05:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't speak "Man", but I had a good translator once. That garbage just means:
"Let's keep this relationship sexual with no strings attached. Does that work for you??"
No, you're not alone. Men can be equal-opportunity buttheads. They'll play those lines on everyone. lol.
2007-07-30 05:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by YSIC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they get the feeling that it is something they will need to keep up. i don't think it's you, maybe its just those guys - and many guys - who shy from the possibility of longer commitment - ie a few dates might be fun, but they aren't keen to take it further, cos they like their single life; but they don't want you to go expecting more so they lay that one on you.
Good luck dear!
2007-07-30 05:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by Paula879 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man, at least technically, and it could just mean what it says, you know! Or translated, I have a pretty good life, and I can't be bothered having to change it for some bird. But that would be rude, wouldn't it?
2007-07-30 05:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋