Okay the thing is that my ex & me broke up not too long ago. He told me he wasn’t ready to have a relationship and that he just wanted to be friends nothing more. So this weekend I bump into a co-worked which I though was very attractive. By the end of the night we were both too drunk and we kissed. Now when im back to work I don’t want my ex to find out that I kissed someone else? Because I still have feeling for him. But it hurt me that he broke up with me? So what I did bad? Should I go up to my co-worker & tell him what happen at the party stays there?
2007-07-30 04:50:40 · 27 answers · asked by Brend 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're single and kissed someone. What's the problem?
2007-07-30 04:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by Corbett 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your co-worker is kind of the rebound guy in this situation especially if you still have feelings for your ex. take some time to recuperate and have some you time to clear your head. You probably should not be trying to get into another relationship right now. Tell your co-worker that it happened because you two were drunk and you just got over a horrible breakup and you are not ready for a relationship yet. And you shouldn't be scared if your ex finds out. he broke up with you. Do you honestly think he is scared of doing the same with other girls. Honey get on with your life i know its hard after breakup but just try to move on. It will be better for you in the long run.
2007-07-30 11:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by sunny17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, you're single and it shouldn't really matter if you kiss someone. Your ex says hes not ready 4 a relationship and you are, so leave it at that. If you really like your co-worker (and think it could work out) go for it. Your ex may feel bad he broke up with you now you found another guy. but thats his fault and he will know it!
2007-07-30 11:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by ~NNK~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did absolutely nothing wrong. The relationship ended. You said, "He told me he wasn't read to have a relationship and that he just wanted to be friends and nothing more." You shouldn't feel guilty at all for what you did with your co-worker for reasons relating to your ex-boyfriend. If you were still together that would be one thing, but you're not! So go kiss some more boys and have fun! :-)
2007-07-30 12:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your ex says he wants to be friends and nothing more then go out with your co-worker. I mean if he broke up with you then it's ok. And he he has a problem with you kissing another guy after you two just broke up..., Well then he still likes you and that's his problem not yours. And if he tells you that he doesn't want you kissing other guys then all you have to say is this. "I thought we where supposed to be friends and nothing more remember?" SO yeah you can tell your ex what happend and then you can start dating your Co-worker
2007-07-30 11:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by bailey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good idea to get involved with a co-worker for any reason. If the relationship goes sour, there you are working side-by-side, hating the sight of each other. And it's too easy for other people you work with to find out, or to suspect.
You should find an opportunity to tell him privately that you regret the kiss, not because he isn't a nice guy, but because it's not a good idea to get involved with someone at work. Ask him not to talk about it, and hope he has enough integrity and good sense to comply.
2007-07-30 11:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by auntb93 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first off, you were single at the time, single people kiss other single people, it's ok, no harm done. If your ex-bf gets pissed off about it then he might not have broken everything off then.
I personally don't date anyone from work or even from an organization, I did band in high school and I swore myself to the rule not to date anyone in band, I stuck to that rule even though I had chances and it really made me focus on things more important. I have dated a guy from work before and it turned out bad and well I went off to university and didn't come back to that job that's for sure.
You are the judge in this situation though, I am just merely stating what I would do.
2007-07-30 12:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by The Coug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For future reference: It is never a good idea to get cozy with a co-worker, ever!
I agree with the others, you are not in a committed relationship so you did nothing wrong in kissing someone else....it was your choice of who you kissed that was wrong.
And stop drinking so you keep your wits about you...the next time you may end up doing something you really regret and a baby will pay for your mistake. Stop being irresponsible and grow up!
2007-07-30 11:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Sage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brenda,
Working etiquette no.1, Never date a Co-worker. My deduction from your question is that both the ex and the intendee are your co-workers. Listen-up, your job is suffering bcos u wont give it what it demands. Energy will be dissipating towards ur guy. Pls wrap all office place intimate affairs up. Hope i was of some help.
Cheers! Nuch
2007-07-30 11:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by Nuch the Wise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong.
You are a "free" woman.
It would have been wrong if you and your boyfriend were still together, but you weren't.
The reason you feel guilty is because you're heart is still with your boyfriend not with this co-worker.
And that's ok, but you didn't do anything wrong.
Just try to avoid talking to your co worker about what happened. Just leave it alone for now.
And if your boyfriend finds out all you have to do is tell him "well you didn't want me, that doesn't mean that other men don't want me....deal with it".
Maybe next time he won't want to break up with you, knowing you can find someone else. ;)
2007-07-30 11:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two things.
I think that the less you say to your co-worker, the better. You cannot improve the situation by discussing it, and in any case he may well be feeling as embarrassed and ashamed as you seem to be. Let it go.
Secondly, your boyfriend is the one who ended the relationship. "I just want to be friends": is guy-code for "I want to keep you on the back burner, just in case nothing better comes along. I hope that you will have enough respect for yourself and your dignity to know that when a relationship is over it's over. There is no being friends. Sometimes, "I just want to be friends": is guy-code for "I feel guilty about hurting you, and I want to make myself feel better by making an offer of friendship."
You can do better than that hobo. Put him in the past.
In any case, he ended the relationship. Henceforth, whatever you do with and for and to anyone is none of his business.
2007-07-30 11:58:37 · answer #11 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋