will someone please help me?

Question

My boyfriend left me for another girl..this is the most horrible thing he could ever do to me. He promised me everything...Now he keeps telling me that he doesn't love me. That we can never be together again. I need help I'm still desperately in love with him. He asked for some time to think, but I know all he's really doing is talking to that other girl. We are going to different colleges. Right now he is in the summer bridge program at CSULB i need him or else i would just die. Someone please help me get him back. Tell me what to say to him in order to convince him that it's not over between us. Please or else i think i'll die without him.......please no dumb answers this is really serious for me.

Answer 1

well in this situation things might not work out between him and the other chick. so try and get them apart. if things dot work out between him and her, he will come crawling back to you.

Answer 2

That is one shitty situation ur in.... it's sad when ppl promise things they can't really give right? That's why I only promise things which are gonna be true... :)

Anywayz. First of all, you need to trust him. If he says he's thinking, he really is thinking. If you don't trust him, the relationship won't have worked out anywayz.

Secondly, I think he decided to go for another girl becuz of the distance... different schools can be sad and hard. He might be scared to do a Long distance relationship. So there's still hope of getting him back i think...

1. Don't be too sensitive when you talk to him. Cry every once in a while but not too often.
2. Tell him you love him every once in a while. If you say it too often, he might get defensive and jus hurt u wid words...
3. Prove to him that you are really still into him and would do anything to be with him.
4. Stay away from other guys even friends if possible. Well, don't meet or talk to them in front of ur boy friend. He might think that you're doing fine when ur not.
5. Don't show to him that you are jealous. Of course that can be impossible, BUT try....
6. Call him. Go visit him in his college. Surprise him. Send him gifts. basically, flirt wid him like you met him yesterday.

And really, if the guy that promised you so much jus dumped you like dat,,, i think u deserve someone better,,,, but who am i to say right? hope i helped.. :)

Answer 3

I know this isn't what you want to read, but he must not share the same feelings you have. It sounds like he has given you a clear message. Although it must seem like the end of the world, it isn't. People break up all the time and, although it seems like a tidal wave has hit you, you will survive. My advice is simple: (1) accept that he is done with you and move on; (2) Don't degrade yourself by chasing after him; (3) Don't allow this guy or this situation to poison your soul -- nobody is worth that; (4) give yourself some time to grieve over the passing of this relationship, but not too long; (5) recognize that this is just one guy who may seem like the greatest thing, but he is currently an obstacle to you finding someone who will love you properly and treat you well and make you feel good, both about him and about yourself.

Answer 4

Okay one...if he left you because he went to a different school no need to get back with him. Who knows who he is sleeping with now and what he caught from sleeping with this other person. And I personally would not want to get back with him because if you loved you as much as you loved him going to summer school would not put a dent in your relationship! And being out of high school and you can't live with out him, unless he is your life line and you can't do with out him then move on!

Give him is room because its not really worth your time dwelling on how much you love him when he doesn't give two craps about you. Too many times I have seen my girlfriends and girl cousins get back with their boyfriends that wanted space and no longer wanted to be with them and it never worked out. What makes you think that if you are back with him that he is going to treat you the same. He is not going to because now he is in the relationship because YOU can't live without him and he doesn't care. Its YOU and not HIM he will be inthe relationship physically but not emotionally and I don't know about you but if I am in a relationship with someone I would need him to be there emotionally as well as physically, there are so many fishes left in the open oncean girl get out there and move on! Its a waste of your time trying to get back with him.

My advice move on ad leave him alone. If he doesn't want to be with you now then he will be more of an a** when you guys get back together! Leave him alone girl and go fishing!

Answer 5

So you want us to tell you what to do to get him back? I'm sorry. There is nothing we can tell you. He has ended it. There's a Bonnie Raitt song called I Can't Make You Love Me. Listen to it.
Breaking up with someone you love hurts like hell! I know you are going through a lot of pain. But the one thing you need to leave this relationship with is your pride. Don't change who you are in order to get him back.
When you go to the college in the fall, I promise you, it will help you get over him. I know it sounds cliche, but time will help you get over him.

Answer 6

Break-ups are never easy, but you need to come to the realization that you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. It is going to hurt, but you will be alright. Just take it one day at a time, find some time for yourself to get a pedicure or a facial, relax, and spend some time getting to know yourself, and you will see that there are plenty of other guys out there, and one of them will be better for you than a guy who dumps you for somone else.

Chin up sweetie, life is too short.

Answer 7

Baby doll's answer is not good. Don't try to break them apart. It would hurt the girl just like it hurt you. Just wait until things won't work between them. He might reject you but let him have his time and then go approach him and start a conversation. Ask him to go get some Pizza, then a movie. It will go kind of slow but it's worth the time.

Answer 8

You're in pain and that's going to just have to run its course; there's very little anyone can tell you that's going to make that situation better, but you're definitely not the first to experience this dilemma. I can tell you this though: you won't "die" as a result of this. In fact, when you experience true happiness it's likely to be a far sweeter experience contrasted against the falsness of this situation...so you have that to look forward to. Just be as good to yourself as you can in the meantime. Your day is coming.

Answer 9

first, don't look desperate in fornt of him, let him know that you are too good for him. certainly enough, don't cry or feel sad because it shows even if you didn;t want it to.

i don't know much but was he ever truely in love with you in first place?
if he was then there are chances to get him back.

don't call or text him as if you don't need him. he'll be shocked and keep him shocked.

ok this is not funny -
you can try this, go to a quiet place (preferably quiet park) with him one day, look deeply in his eyes (not too long) just deep, i think you can talk so much with your eyes. just give that intense feelings with your eyes. don't speak but say 'i love you'.
give him that feeling and as soon as he reads it, then smile with your eyes if you know how to do that.
it's your test. get all your energies and work hard to get that message acorss. if he loves you he'll come back.

do it as soon as you can, before she will do it.
i don't have experience about it but i believe it will work.

don't reaad all these other ppl. i think he'll yours. you should only believe that. you know miracles happen everyday!

Answer 10

Honey

First love hunh? I still feel that way about my6 first love. But you know what? THERE ARE SOOOOO MANY other guys out there. Time heals all wounds, and maybe you will always love him. But it will get better. and if he left you for another girl, he is not worth your love and time. Find other things to take your mind off the jerk.

Answer 11

jus tell him dat u r vey sasd dat he did dat 2 u n u love him wit all your heart n dat will nevr change n if he dont like u anymore jus get ovr it n move on i know it will be hard i went through da same thing but im 13 anywayz he might b tryin 2 make u jealous so find a new guy n have fun wit him n c how your ex takes it but dont make it a war I HOPE IT WORKS OUT!!!!!!