I am 16 and my girlfriend is 15 and we've been dating for a month now. We are very open with each other and feel comfortable together. She has only made out once and that was with me but now she tells me she doesn't want to make out and also not do anything sexual for a long time. She says its because she loves me so much and sees me as more of a really close friend. I have been told many times I am a very good looking guy, so should I be concerned that this non-sexual attraction will lead to us being only friends? And does this mean that she will most likely never want to explore furthur?
2007-07-30 04:22:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oo, and don't get me wrong, she loves to cuddle and hold me and she likes to just give a peck on the lips..
2007-07-30 04:24:24 · update #1
hold on guys, I'm not really looking to sexual stuff yet. I'm saying maybe in a year. I'm mainly talking about kissing
2007-07-30 04:27:47 · update #2
Also, I'm not talking sex, other stuff. She hasn't had any sexual activity before.
2007-07-30 04:29:14 · update #3
Sex is overrated.... there, I said it. Burn me at the stake.
If you love her, respect her wishes. Tell her you want to be more than friends, but that doesn't have to include sex.
Believe it or not, Sex is not required in a loving, committed relationship. Tell her you see her as more than a friend, and you want to explore the possibilities of being a couple, but there is no pressure to have a physical relationship (but only if you're sincere). If you're only in it for the sex, do yourself and her a favor and move on.
If not, then respecting her wishes may bring you closer to a loving lasting relationship that withstands anything this cold cruel world can throw at it.
Good luck
2007-07-30 04:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Eric C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may just be shy, or not ready to take things further. Everybody develops and grows at different times. You two are young, so you should probably just wait to take things much further.
Relationships need to be built on more than just the sexual things, so this may be good. And if she does end up just having feelings for you as more of a friend, then that's always good too.
2007-08-07 04:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by Lauren B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be proud you have a girl like this who definitely knows what "VALUES" are. She's wise enough to keep you while holding on to the principles of a wholesome relationship. She's one of a kind. She's good ! You would hardly find someone like her in this present time where sex and lust is just a corner away.
Provide more time for your love to grow. Don't hasten her to do romantic stuff. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you if she says no right now. There'll be enough time for you and her to deal with that in the future. And believe me, you'll love her more for that.
2007-08-06 21:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she had a bad and/or embarrassing experience the last time she was involved in sexual activity. You guys have only been together a month, give it time but give it a lot more time for sex.
2007-07-30 04:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by Summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a smart girl. Kissing almost always leads to sex which she isn't ready for. You may or may not end up being friends onl but she is a very respectable girl it sounds like and you should just enjoy whatever contact she offers you.
2007-08-05 12:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not that she not attracted to u, it just that she may have this strict moral code, and maybe she has this feeling like doing such things is really bad, i mean she loves u, i know i made a guy wait, although i wanted him so bad, it wont lead u to being friends, and at times it don as a testing mechanism, as in to see if a guy loves u, just loves u, and as disappointing as the world is,and how we view certain things, it never how we would want them to turn out.She will want to explore things further, but at times when we have said things out of fear, we don know how to rectify them, so next time ask her if she minds trying french kissing.
2007-08-06 20:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is 15 both of you are young and would most likely result in a baby coming along. Go hangout with her boys and let her go to the mall or somthing and have time with her girls. If thats what you want then you need to brake up with her and get somone with no self respect to sleep with you. wait til your married. Everyone does it now at a young age making them look trashy and as if they have no respect for themselves. Your too young!
2007-07-30 04:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve got a couple of years to think about that one, so take a cold shower! Dont worry about that til the time comes...youre just wasting energy.
2007-08-06 16:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by kajun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you guys are too young for sexual activities.. wait for some more years.. i guess you must listen to your gal.. may be she wants to be in a safer side.
2007-08-07 03:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by nish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her warm up to u more. eventually the peck's will get old to her and she'll realize she wants more. unless she thinks of u only as a friend. which she might. tell her whats bugging u. im sure she'll understand how u feel :)
2007-08-06 15:13:43 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Amanda Grace♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋