i've had 3 men in 4 months of living somewhere new, 2 of them have been relationships only one was a one night stand. i'm a 19 year old girla and now people are calling me a slag and easy. am i???
2007-07-30 04:15:44 · 48 answers · asked by confused!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No that does not mean you’re easy
Rather you’re loving and your heart needs a companion
Don’t mind those calling you cheap girl.
They are jealous,
But, find out why those men always quite you
And avoid it in your relationship so you can maintain one ok!
If not, enjoy yourself baby!
2007-07-30 04:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by sexually h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one night stands are never a good idea. You are a lady aren't you? I wouldn't go as far as to call you easy. A man can sleep with 3 women in 4 hours and nobody would say anything. I'm just curious as to how u can have 2 relationships in 4months. I believe you guys were doing what I call "Heavy Dating" If it was that short you cant really call it a relationship, you hardly know each other. That is the time you use to get to know each other. Maybe you should slow down a little. You are only 19 and sex complicates young peoples life. I'm only a few years older than you trust me I know. Maybe they said you were easy because even though you thought you were in a relationship, You had sex too soon. Be wary of guys who trick u into believing you are in a relationship so they can sleep with you. He was probably the one telling people that you were easy and u was never his girlfriend
2007-07-30 04:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by stricklyai_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow,,,,,all I can beg you for first off, is please make sure that you are protected, you cannot trust anyone these days when they say "OH, I am clean, I don't have anything"----people everywhere are getting something these days.
I remember being 19-fresh out of an abusive relationship where I was told no one would ever love or want me again after him.
Let's just say, I PROVED HIM WRONG!!!! OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN!!!!!! 13 men in one year!
I got labeled, and looking back, rightly so.
It felt right at the time, I felt my actions were justifiable and I had a whole lot of fun while I was doing it, and who I was doing it to,,,,,
but now that I am older, and I look back,,,,
I really wish that I had thought about things in a different prospective.
You are young, with your whole life ahead of you,
don't get in a rush--a new place, there will be plenty of fish in the sea, however, if you just want to do your thing, doing it safely respects you and them, finding the right partner, or partners to be discrete with is even better.
Just look at it this way,,,,,where will you be, or hope to be 10 years from now,,,,,have you done anything that you will hang your head in shame for?
It could even screw things up in a serious relationship should your man bump into someone or several someone from your past.
Reputations are hard to get around these days.
Just be smart about it. k?
Good luck kid, I don't really know what else to say,
to down you for this would be the pot calling the kettle black, and I just can't do that.
Just be smart, be protected, and keep your dignity.
(and don't be so prone to jump into a sexual thing all of a sudden,,,,,a scroggin buddy is one thing,,,,,but a relationship,,,,don't be naive to all the lines, you are young, and yet to have heard them all, but when you get older, you will look back and say, man, was a sucker or what,,,,,)
2007-07-30 04:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by trinity3x3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes and so having one one night stand does not make you a slag. The other two were relationships and so that does not constitute a slag either - sex is a normal part of a relationship. Your a young girl - enjoy it while you can as all too quickly it will be over! And don't bother with what others think - do you really truly care what they think?
2007-07-30 04:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by Showaddywaddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babe you should calm down because as you've noticed you have now got a reputation of a slag. You have got to be careful as you may end up pregnant or even catch an STI. Im a 19yr old girl and i have slept with 2 people, which i was in a relationship with both of them. I think you should only sleep with boys you are in long term relationships with. You have to respect yourself so that others respect you x
2007-07-30 04:26:28 · answer #5 · answered by charlie88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes!!
How can you be somewhere for 4 months and be in 2 relationships and have a 1 night stand??? Thats pretty good going and I would hardly call them relationships!! And your 19!! So young!!
I would lay low for a while!!
Have respect for your body! Meet someone right for you!!xx
2007-07-30 04:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by Blush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. Some guys sleep with way more women in one month. Forget them. Sometimes things don't work out the way we want them too. if your anything like me. I would go through men because the guys I would sleep with are the guys I would be in a relationship with, but sometimes it's not reciprocated. Maybe you should wait to sleep with them until you know it's serious. But who cares what other people think. Those people making fun of you will not be in your life in 5 years from now.
2007-07-30 04:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are definatly sexually active which is fine as long as you are enjoying it as much as the men are! It sounds as if they were just wantong to have sex with you but then that is ok as long as sex was all that you wanted as well. If this is the case just make sure that you practice safe sex otherwise you could get more than you bargained for!
However if you are looking for a relationship then you are going about it the wrong way as it doesn't sound as if that was what any of these men wanted. Back of a bit and wait until you meet someone who like you for you as a person as well as a sexual partner
2007-07-30 04:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by jib j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
To be honest you are an adult and are capable of making own choices and decisions.
People can be harsh but if you feel happy doing this then that is your choice.
However, the fact that you are now beginning to question it and make excuses for the what you do suggests to me that maybe you are not overly happy with the choices you are making regarding having sex with these men.
I would do what makes you happy and if that is sleeping with men then you do that but just remember to keep safe and clean from STI's and things.
Sadly it is a horrible stigma that men who sleep with loads of women are labelled studs but when it a women sleeping with men they get branded as a **** and all that!
It can be hard to shift a label but you are young and having fun and in time you will meet a guy you love and sex will be replaced for love making.
Just focus on your own happiness whatever that may be but be safe in your decisions!
Good luck!
Lx
2007-07-30 04:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by SunshineApple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what your fingers are for, or why don't you get as a vibe or something and save yourself for the person you really love when you get married
I am 18 and I have had chances but I said no to them all because I want it to be special with my wife.
Yeah I think about girls and I get turned on and stuff but I just do it to myself and it makes it go away then when I get married that first night will be the most special night of my life cos it will mean wayyyyyy more then a one night stand a a boyfriend you had for just two weeks or something. It will be real love and real mean with all my heart and soul.
I don't think I am missing much by waiting because by waiting its going to be the best time in my life
2007-07-30 04:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jake2.0 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but yes, you are. 2 "relationships" and a 1 night stand in 4 months?
2007-07-30 04:20:07 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋