My bf is two years younger to me. We stay in two diff places, He is an hindu im a christian our relationship grew through chats then procedeed to phone calls and finally we met personaly n fell in love coz both felt the chemistry love /friendship /comfort etc its been 3years since we r in love we meet once or twice a year.. til now he had not touched me though he is in mood for it he patiently waits for me ..there is a gud understanding between us except for marraige issues hes stuborn...on my side im ready to convince my parents...and im sure they will accept for mysake but he being young feels that he needs time..wants to achieve sumtin.. get higher position in his work place he askd me to wait for 4 years which is very difficult for me as im 25 yrs already my parents and brothers r giving pressure in my house to get married i don know wht to do except prayin i feel hes afraid to get married too soon and i don want to spoil his ambition in his career too plz help us.
2007-07-30 03:50:54 · 18 answers · asked by sweety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
very difficult to tell.He cannot also be blamed.He is 23,and wht's he doing??He might not have finishd his studies right.So a guy who havent finishd his studies,and a guy who havent got a job yet will face diificulty to get your parents convinced.Minimum parents keep a criteria that he should have a good job.
You cant also be blamed.Both of you discuss,what to do and arrive at a consensus.Personally,I would say,you should wait...
GOOD LUCK..
2007-07-30 03:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by Alien 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Higher position has nothing to do with marriage.
He can achieve that while married.
At 23 he is old enough, 3 years is a very long, long distance relationship.
As a rule I am not in favour of marriage before 25 years of age.
So allow some time, most important thing is that he may be or he is just having cold feet because of the religious differences, if that is the case, then you cannot fight that, he is not going to "Jump the broom ever" so it is up to you to find out, and make an informed decision.
In the mean time here is my article, I am making a minor change to it, it had the age 25, in your case I am making it age 29.
Take advantage of this and go back to college or start one, build a carrier.
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General Advice to Young People
By
Minootoo
This is my general advice to all.
You sound very young and if you are under 29, then study hard if in school or college, stay and finish it.
Build a carrier, youth comes but once take full advantage of it. Study hard, play some enjoy friendship, and then at age 29 if still unattached then try the sites like.
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2007-07-30 12:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only the two of you can answer whether or not your relationship will end in marriage. I'm having a hard time reading what you've written, but from what I've deciphered you've known the guy for about 3 years and you've seen him once or twice a year. Am I to understand that you want to get married to a man that you've only seen in the flesh 6 times?
If you want to wait for another 4 years in the hopes that MAYBE something more will come out of your relationship, that's up to you. Personally, I'd move on. But you're not me. You need to make that decision, not a bunch of random strangers on Y!A.
2007-07-30 10:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by Beth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a preety tight situation,
as u say i feel he is good to u as well u r very good to him. but the negative point is the age difference b/w u both cos in hindu religion most of them don't agree if female's r elder, but it is possible to convince, its better to convince both of ur parents & tell them the situation and ask them to permit u both to marry after a few years. only thing to do is to speak out with ur parents and solve the matter,
"EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE DON'T GIVE UP FOR ANYTHING", win your love.
All the Best!!!
2007-07-30 10:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by bharath 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. if you both really love each other . and you truly want to be with him and wait for him and help him . if you dont want to lose him and your family is putting that much pressure then if he truly love you he will agree on an engagment! if he dosent agree on that then sorry hon he dosent love you that much , so go explain you position and ask him if he can just get angaged for 4 years and then ge marrid
gd luck!
2007-07-30 11:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you know al about his ability to write flowery phrases, but since you only meet once or twice a year, well I see my mail man that much. It sounds like you are desparate to be attached.Find someone closer to home.
2007-07-30 10:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are going to marry with or without him, (it sounds like you are) then go ahead and get married. It's not like you need someone else to marry you. marry yourself.
in other words, if he is the one you definitely want to marry, and he is not ready at the moment, you should wait for him to be ready and not pressure him into it prematurely, if you cannot wait, move on.
2007-07-30 10:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by ilovelilPhof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.Long distance love affair really does'nt work.You're too opposite for each other.Maybe it's time you pay attention to yourself and meet other guys.
2007-07-30 11:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by rosamia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure..u wait for him..his mind may be changed to marry u as early...as possible.believe u r love..
2007-07-30 12:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by Ramkumar G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it soumds like the two of you may be on two different tracks and you train just derailed it may be time to move on
2007-07-30 10:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by DIXIEMS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋