My boyfriend and I are planning on living together soon. I will be moving into his apartment. He lives alone and is out from under his parents' wing, but I still feel as if his parents will frown upon us living together. Should I move in? How do I get his parents to not hate us?!
Only serious answers please.
2007-07-30 03:32:10 · 11 answers · asked by SlimSlow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are both in our mid-twenties and have been dating almost one year.
2007-07-30 03:54:46 · update #1
I think it is your boyfriend's responsibility to talk to his parents first about it, then maybe you can both visit and talk to them about it if they have reservations about the move in. Maybe they need to be reassured that you are not out to use him or take advantage of him for financial reasons, and that your intent is sincere because you love each other.
2007-07-30 03:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ages would help in offering advice. Also, how long have you been together as a couple? More conservative parents usually frown on 'living together'. I didn't move in with my man until we were about to be engaged. His parents didn't care ( he lived with women before and also he is in his 40s). My parents were the problem. I am quite a bit younger and I had never lived with a man.
I would say that if you are over 21, it's your life and you should do what you wish. If you're younger than that, maybe find a female roommate for awhile (6mos. to a year). If they see that you are mature enough to be out on your own, the next apartment that you go to could be his and I think they would be more accepting. I would say the same advice goes for him. If he's out on his own with a guy roommate for a year...then they'll know he's more responsible and may be more accepting of it. It doesn't mean you can't stay over. If you both 'officially' have your own place...who cares where you sleep?
One more thing...don't throw your relationship in your boyfriend's parent's face. Be polite and friendly whenever you see them. Sweet is the best way to be. Good luck to you.
2007-07-30 10:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Bcldiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both adults, right? Some people just don't see living together as a good thing before marriage because of the why buy the cow when you get the milk for free or whatever. They will get over it. But make sure you're really ready to do this.
2007-07-30 10:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by IndiHippi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may look ugly to you but promise to love me. I believe your parents also does not want you to live-in with your bf. Both side of the parents may accept you after you insist what you want. Let us live a good life. Life is travelled once there is no re-start. Dont let your emotions dictates you for it will give you a wrong decision.
Get married and GOD, your parents, relatives and friend will give their blessings to you.
You will be fruitful and will be blessed spiritually, financially, materially and health.
Your childrens children will be blessed and you will enjoy the fruit of your life full of years.
Your decisions today is tomorrow's memory. Make it a beautiful one.
Prayer answers our question.
2007-07-30 11:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wise to consider his parents feelings, especially if you plan on being a part of the family in the future, but they also need to respect your decisions too. They need to understand that he isn't a little kid anymore and can do what he wants, but I wouldn't start a war if they are going to be your future in-laws. So move in if you want cuz people do it all the time, but talk with them about your decision and explain to them your feelings. Be sure to listen to their side, and let them know that you hope over time they can understand why you wanted to do it.
2007-07-30 10:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mom of two 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously you should not worry about what his parents think. If he is not worried about his parents then niether should you . You are not living with them. On the other hand if he is a spoiled momma's boy then you might want to think twice about moving in. you should think twice bout moving in anyway cause the next step is marriage. If you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him then go for it.
2007-07-30 10:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by Your managers favorite manager! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. It shouldn't matter if his parents hate the fact that you will be living together. It's only their opinion. But if you really have the want to make them not hate you, just be more polite. Be nice, be talkative. Don't make yourself truely "at home" in their pressence.
2007-07-30 10:36:06 · answer #7 · answered by Samson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you spoken to his parents? If not, do so and be very polite and patient with them. If you did and things went wrong apologize quickly.
In the end though continue with the relationship. Although his parents are a problem your relationship isn't.
2007-07-30 10:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by swiftyman08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as parent you don't always like the choices that you children 's makes but if you are of ledge age, in time your parents will accept it ,if not, it's your life.
2007-07-30 10:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do what you and him want , it is your life and you have to support each other and be true to one another, if they want to hate they will anyway, so they will find another reason if you fix that one they will except it or reject it.do as you and him please. really , anywayparents are supposed to love unconditionally,
2007-07-30 14:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by freeflow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋