I want to marry my BF, and he the same, we have talk about next year even, but I know he can't come up with the funds for the ring I want right now. Maybe in a few months, but Weddings book up venues fast around here, and a year is best to plan!!!
Would you still get engaged, and pick out a ring later, or do you really need the ring???
2007-07-30 03:16:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
With summer vacations, and shutdown he's strapped for cash in a few months things will be better once we catch up.
2007-07-30 03:41:33 · update #1
You don't need the ring to be engaged. All you need is for him to have asked, and you to have said "yes." If anyone asks to see your ring, as if you needed "proof," you hold your head up high, smile proudly, and say, "we're engaged without a ring -- we're saving up." I would have a lot more respect for a couple who unapologetically bucked engagement "traditions" in order to show that they have the maturity to manage money in a smart way, than for a couple who started a marriage deeply in debt to buy a piece of jewelery.
2007-07-30 04:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 13⤊ 3⤋
when my husband and I were talking about marriage I told him I needed a ring before I would start making any plans. it didnt have to be anything expensive either....could have cost under $100, but I wanted something to show he was serious and committed and he understood that. and I bought him a ring too so both of us were happy in the end. whether you need a ring is up to you, not us. the only thing I wonder is if he cant afford to buy you a ring, how do you plan to pay for a wedding next year...booking these places means a deposit on them and deposits cost money.,
2007-07-30 06:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You do not really need the ring when you are engaged. You could always pick out a ring later.
2007-07-30 03:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I bought him a 100 dollard ring and mine was 200. We used it for engagement and the wedding (we eloped). We're are saving our money up to buy each other enormous rings. If you can't afford it, you can't afford. Even though the ring was cheap it has more meaning than anything else I own. As long as you have something to show to bragg about your life long commiment with. even if you put 50 cents into the machine and out comes a bubble container with a little ring.
2007-07-30 03:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't need the ring no, I don't wear one at all. I'll get a wedding band when I get married and that ring is so beautiful anyway I don't need/want another ring to go with it. It's kind of traditional to get a ring, but it is not a legal requirement.
2007-07-30 03:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I personally grew up very very poor, and always felt I never had the "normal" things other people had. As a result, I've worked very hard to get a great education and career, and I don't want to have to skimp on things...I would be sorely disappointed to get engaged and have no ring to show for it. I don't know how that must make me sound, but it is an honest answer. If you aren't bothered by it, move ahead with your plans...my cousin didn't get a ring at her engagement, and she has a wonderful marriage.
2007-07-30 04:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't book anything until he asks! Talk is cheap, but until he pops the question, it's just talk.
As far as the ring goes, No you do not need a ring to be engaged, but once you tell people your engaged they will ask to see your ring. I have a co-worker who's now husband just bought a silver band to wear until she found the ring of her dreams (he was too scared to pic something out!).
Another thing to consider is if he can't afford the ring, how are you going to pay for a wedding. Are your parents going to pay for it all?
2007-07-30 03:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
You don't need a ring to plan a wedding. You need money and committment, however. The ring is just a symbol.
Good luck!
2007-07-30 03:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by Durga sings the classics 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure that you will get engaged eventually, then I think it is perfectly reasonable to go ahead and book the venue. Make sure that this is ok with your bf though, as you may not be able to get the deposit back if anything falls through.
2007-07-30 03:21:17 · answer #9 · answered by Sharon 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I would have to have a man that treats me right. Rings can be lost or stolen, diamonds can fall out. All that matters is the love and commitment you two share.
2007-07-30 05:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I really loved him, I would wait for the ring and still get engaged
2007-07-30 03:22:30 · answer #11 · answered by ♥yay me♥ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋