do you think it is cool fro the bridesmaides to pay for their dresses....and groomsmen pay for their tux....or

Question

should I pay for everything???????

Answer 1

If you can afford it, go for it! However, most if not all know that the expense of being a bridesmaid or groomsmen fall on them.

Answer 2

Traditionally, the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses and the groomsmen pay for their own tuxes. It is part of the responsibility of being chosen as one of the attendants. However, as the bride, it is your job to make sure you choose attire that is within everyone's budget. Otherwise, you should offer to pay for it. Also, if you request additional expenses, you should cover those. For instance, if you want your bridesmaids to all wear matching shoes or get their hair done exactly the same way, you should pay. (By the way, I wouldnt recommend doing that. It pisses them off and makes them look worse than if they are allowed to incorporate a bit of their personal styles)

Answer 3

I think that bridesmaids should pay for their own attire. The problem is when brides pick an expensive dress that requires alterations and then $100 shoes and makes them have their hair/make-up done and invites a million people to the shower. Being in a wedding used to be a $200 expense and these days it's over $1,000+.

Answer 4

If you're picking an absurdly expensive bridesmaid's dress or if you have bridesmaids who are of limited finanical means, then you should at least make the offer to pay for a portion of the dresses. (Let your fiance worry about the groomsmen! Or, at least discuss it with him.) You don't want anyone to go into bankruptcy to be in your wedding! You also don't want someone to feel they have to turn you down because they can't afford it.

If the dress you're picking is reasonably priced, or the girls are all comfortable financially, then it's fine to let everyone fend for themselves.

Answer 5

I've had to pay for everything for the weddings that I have been in- same for my hubby and any wedding that he has been in. I think that is pretty much the norm.

I think it would be cool if you chose something affordable and let your bridesmaids have a say in the style of the dresses. And make sure the shoes and accessories are something they can wear again. (because no matter how hard you try- they won't wear their dresses again!)

Answer 6

"cool" is not how i'd say any of it...they can be expensive so it isn't a grand situation to have to shell out tons of money.

Unless the bride and groom have tons of money, they do NOT pay for the tuxes and dresses, it is the responsibility of the bridesmaids and groomsmen.

Answer 7

NO! you should not be paying for all your bridesmaids dresses. not unless you are rich and famous. the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses. this is why you go together and find nice looking dresses that don't cost an arm and a leg.
if there is someone who cant afford to pay, you can help that person out. pay the whole thing, or half.
as for the groom and his groomsmen, they don't buy tuxes, the rent them. they should be paying for their own. same goes, if someone cant afford to pay for it, the groom can help pay for it.
have fun and congrats.

Answer 8

Ive had to pay for every dress for every wedding Ive been in, I just figure it comes with the territory. My bridesmaids and groomsmen paid for theirs as well and noone complained, once again, it was pretty much to be expected. Just try to keep things reasonable, I even found the dresses I wanted online and got a cheaper price, and took it to my bridal shop and they agreed to come down on their price to still get my business. (I was nervous about ordering online, and did still want to get business for our local town) A lot of local shops are more willing to haggle with you, and that could really help your bridesmaids out, my shop came down almost $50! My bridesmaids sure appreciated it! Once again, just keep things reasonable, check on any discounts for your gals and guys, and tell them where to go and let the shop handle the rest! Congrats!

Answer 9

It seems to be the way to go in the US, but in the UK it is considered not entirely appropriate to ask your bridesmaid to pay for their own things, after all, you have asked them to do you a favour, it's not doing someone a favour asking them to be your bridesmaid if they have to pay for everything themselves, and basically help the bride plan and arrange the bachelorette party, personally I think the bride should pay (or whoever is paying for the wedding) but I understand that other cultures do this differently, I'm not saying my way is right and everyone else is wrong.

Answer 10

I think the tradition is for the bridesmaids and groomsmen to buy their own dresses/rent tux. I rented my tux for my best friend's wedding, and he is renting his own for my wedding, although, my fiance is buying at least 2 of her bridesmaids dresses because they are both in financial binds at the moment, so she is buying their dresses as part of the "gift" that is given to the bridesmaids. I guess in the end, it is up to you and your situation and your bridesmaids situations if you want to get them for them or not.