This has started to develop this past week- he'll deny being afraid of the dark or monsters under his bed, but then he'll beg to sleep on the sofa over his bed. He says he's afraid he'll be "taken" through the window in his room by someone, as in kidnapping. What should I do?
2007-07-30 03:11:05 · 9 answers · asked by Carolina 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
"on the sofa over his bed" as in sleep on the sofa instead of his bed.
2007-07-30 03:11:40 · update #1
No, do not, and i repeat do not allow him to sleep with you... bc then he'll want to do it every night for forever haha.... i think if hes truly scared, maybe rearranging his room might make him feel more comfortable or just moving his bed so that the window is not in view while sleeping or maybe so that it is in view.... best of luck.....
2007-07-30 03:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by Barca17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was the same way, and at 10 years old he still likes to sleep in the living room if I let him. Sometimes I will let him on the weekends, but I just tell him he has to sleep in his own room during the week. That gets easier as they get older. If his bed is near the window then I would move it if possible. If not, you might get some new window locks and let him "help" you install them. That might help him to feel safer. Also, depending on your beliefs you could pray with him at night before bedtime. That really helped my son a lot when he had nightmares.
2007-07-30 10:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I know how you feel. My son is 5, he will be 6 in Sept. and we have this problem. He has actually never slept in his bed well. We used to have to take turns sleeping in the living room with him. This is what we did(it took awhile and was some effort on our part) we started pulling his toddler mattress out every night(they aren't heavy) and putting it next to the couch. His dad and I would take turns sleeping on the couch with him on the mattress. After a couple of weeks we let him sleep on the mattress next to the couch, but we stayed in bed. After a couple more weeks we moved it back in the bedroom. This worked really well for about a year he slept in bed just fine. About 2 weeks ago he started getting up again with the same kind of fears(someone coming in) today we are making a chart and every morning when he gets up he gets to put a sticker on it if he stayed in bed, after a week he will get a small reward. We are just starting this today so hopefully it will work. I hope you find a good answer that will help you. Even If this doesn't help you at least know you aren't alone. Good luck.
2007-07-30 10:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by gobster 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Use a nightlight. Read him a happy story at bedtime and just keep reassuring him that he'll be ok. I've heard of parents getting a spray bottle of water and using it as monster repellant. Maybe you could spray under the bed and around the windows to help him feel better.
2007-07-30 10:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try getting a few of his favourite stuffed toys and sit down with him and the toys and a serious talk with them at this age theie imaginations are great..
ask your son who is the bravest toy...
when he tells you grab that toy and tell it that it has a mission tonight and it is to gaurd the window from nasties..
then just before it gets dfark you and your son grab the toy and place it on the window sill and then close the curtains make sure to remind the toy it has a serious job to do..
do this for a few nights ....
each morning reteive the toy and thank him for his work..
and let the toy have a sleep in your sons bed...
then in a couple of days ask your son if a different toy can be the gaurd.. trying each time to get a smaller toy...
this might be a bit over the top to start with but it worked great with my nephew....
2007-08-01 23:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by cheree m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of letting him sleep in a different room, stay with him, read, sing, talk, etc. to him in his bed till he falls back asleep. then when he's in a deep sleep, leave. Letting him sleep with you or anyone else will only make it worse.
2007-08-02 04:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try going to bed with him. Tell him mommy will sleep with him tonight and go lay down with him until he falls asleep then leave his room.
2007-07-30 10:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by meresmith1015 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him a night light and show him the windows are locked...
where did he get these ideas?? has he been watching the News or in the room when more adult programing was on - where a kid was abducted??
be firm about him sleeping in his room..
2007-07-30 10:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move a dresser in front of his window or put something else in front of it so he will feel safer. Most of all, stop allowing him to watch scarry or monster programs/movies!!!
2007-07-30 11:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋