I keep having a bad dream.?

Question

My sister and I were both raped as children by our father. I was six and she was ten. I am 31 now and she is 35 our father is dead now he died when I was twelve.But I keep having these dreams that he has us tied up and he is making us watch him rape our children I have a little boy thats seven and she has one thats two. This is so tormenting it interupts my daily life.I wake up in the middle of the night and I swear I can hear him walking in the next room.I cant stop crying after I wake up so I cant go back to sleep.

Answer 1

First of all, sorry to hear that you and your sister had that bad and unforgettable childhood. That bad things left a bad trace of memory in your subconscious mind. And the shadow of the rapping incident will be very hard to go away.

Projecting your dad has you tied up in the dream show emotionally you cannot get over this shadow of shame. In other words, your dad was part of your life. That is a fact, and you can't deny it. Even though he died, he used to be part of your life. That stays in your memory forever. There is something we can never get rid of. Family relationship is one of them. Now that your problem is not to understand the bad dream, but is how to deal with it. More or less you know why you dreamed about it. Whenever you look at children, you will have that feeling back in your subconscious mind.

There are ways to get rid of it. But it is very hard. You have to learn to be tough and accept this is the fact first. I would seek for spiritual help rather than psychological help in this case. As Christian myself, I say faith to God is more important than anything else. However, if this is once in a while bad dream, I don't think you should magnify the problem because you only get worse. If this continues, yes, seek for spiritual help.

The temporary psychological help I would suggest that you talk this out with someone, and let your feeling go in daily life and perhaps, that will not come in your subconscious mind or dream

Answer 2

First, let's define rape. Since you are using the term 'rape', with reference to a child, I am under the impression, that you did not seek law enforcements help. Sexual abuse of children is not uncommon, and is a control issue of a sick person. Too many people think it is a sexual issue, and it is not. It is a control factor for the person, committing the crime. If he died when you were still young, then chances are you never had the chance to confront him as an adult. On more even terms. If the same dream is popping up and the after effects of the abuse is streaming over into your adult life, I strongly suggest you seek professional consoling. If you do not have insurance, or can not afford such, every state as a set limit cost. Look at it this way, you were a victim as a child of someone who felt they had the right to control you in a sick and deviated manner. Since control is the issue, if it is streaming over into your adult life, then he is from the grave controlling you again. You are no longer a child, but an adult. Stand up and take control of your own life. I suggest you call your local rape crisis hot line or you gyn to discuss it. Good luck and God's Speed.

Answer 3

First off, I am very sorry to hear of your harrowing experience. I wish there was more our society could do to prevent that kind of ill-parenting and devastating abuse.

Do you see a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist? If not, it would probably do you a world of good. You need someone to talk to who is on the outside of the situation and can give you advice, an open heart, ear and understanding mind.
A psychiatrist may also be able to prescribe you medication that may help you sleep or at least not experience the vivid nightmares so frequently.

Therapy can do so much to ease the mind. If the issue is being confronted and resolved in your mind, you will be much less likely to dwell on it in your sleep and experience these torturous nightmares.

I wish you good luck, and I hope this torture ends for you; you deserve so much more than this.

Answer 4

According to Dreamcrowd:

To see children in your dream, signifies your own childlike qualities or a retreat back to a childlike state. It is an extension of your inner child during a time of innocence, purity, simplicity, and a carefree attitude. You may be longing for the past and the chance to satisfy repressed desires and unfulfilled hopes. Take some time off and cater to the inner child within. Perhaps there is something that you need to see grow and nurtured. To dream that your own grown children are still very young, indicates that you still see them as young and dependent. You want to feel needed and significant. To dream that you are watching children but they do not know you are there, is a metaphor for some hidden knowledge or some latent talent which you have failed to recognize. To save a child, signifies your attempts to save a part of yourself from being destroyed.

Try posting your dream on Dreamcrowd for a free interpretation.

Answer 5

Your being tormented by a demonic spirit, thats why you keep having these dreams. Demonic spirits bring your past experiences back to your remembrance and manifest them in your dreams so that you can not heal or move on. It's like constantly tearing a wound open that's trying to heal. I do not know if you believe in Jesus Christ, but you can be free from those bad dreams. I used to have all kinds of nightmares in my past, but now I hardly ever have one, if I can remember it. You can look up "Changing Your World Ministries" (Pastor Creflo Dollar) and look up their on-line prayer ministry which is very effective at helping people get breakthroughs. Okay, take care and God bless you.

Answer 6

you need to confront your father because it is obvious that he still has a hold on you even though he is no longer alive they say that dreams are our sub conscience and it may be possible that this is the only way your body /mind can handle the trauma that you are going through try talking to your sister and see if she is having dreams too . try getting some counseling and then you might be able to get through some of this and come out a much stronger person hope this helps some

Answer 7

most people would say go to a shrink to help or even try medication but you have to ask yourself is this fear new one or are you remembering it because you saw something that triggered it try and figure that out first and if you still cant sleep try natural remedies to sleep calming lavender tea before bed and if you wake in the night try chamomile tea. thats all i can say unless you head to a shrink to work through your issues

Answer 8

as an abused child, now adult with little ones of my own. let me say this may never comlpetely leave you. i think the dreams and feelings are stronger now because you are the parent of a young one. and you want to protect them. to make up for no one protecting you....may i suggest counseling by yourself or with your sister. this may help both of you to cope... u know he is gone, and can not hurt you..... write a letter to the disgusting deceased, rant rave, and tell him off. take it to the cemetary and set fire to it on his headstone. give yourself the right to confront your abuser..... trust me here, this will help....... i only have to wait for the other one to die to do this again.... it will give you closure.......probably because your own child is and age when your abuse happened that it is effecting you so much. is your son being abused in any way??? if not then calm down and write that letter. it will help.....

Answer 9

I would say seek therapy. I say this not to be rude or a smartass, but it might help you get this out in the open with a proffecinal that can interpit this for you so you can sleep better at night

Answer 10

Yes... seeing a therapist would be best.... i mean you may need to get something out to help yourself.... the only true way to even have a chance of stopping this dream would be for you to go to therapy.... best of luck