And is courtship only a Christian thing in this day and age, or do some non-Christians do it too?
2007-07-30 02:40:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Courtship does not have to be a Christian exclusive by a long shot.
Used to be that parents would select a husband for their daughter and introduce them at the betrothal ceremony!
Courtship is a state of mind. If you ask a young lady out on a date with the ultimate goal of marriage to her in mind, you are courting her.
If you ask her out on a date with the goal of getting to know her as a friend or just "hanging" out and what happens , happens, you have just dated her.
Courtship is a commitment that you are going to date her longer than one date and certainly not jump into sex withher. In a courtship, the emphasis is on the romance and the thrill of getting to know one another.
Long love letters, phone calls, getting to know each other from the inside of the soal first.
2007-07-30 02:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by cindy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have heard courtship described as "dating with a purpose." The difference with courtship is that you, first, become friends with the person and get to know them on a friendship level. Then, you express to them your wish to court them with the idea of marriage being the goal. It is not about a "name change" as some people may think.
Dating could be better described as shopping. How many times do you go through a store, pick up different outfits, try them on, and then hang them back on the rack?
Dating with a purpose (courtship), on the other hand, means that you are dating with the intention of marrying the person you are dating. It means that, during this time, you do your best to protect your own heart and the other person's from being broken by a "casual love."
As for whether courtship is only a Christian practice or not, I'd say that it isn't. I think, as a whole, society has forgotten this beautiful practice of waiting for the one that you were meant for. C'mon people of Y!Answers, let's start the courtship revolution!
2007-07-30 03:11:41 · answer #2 · answered by drownedingrace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the difference between courtship and dating:
1) The Difference in Motive: "The first difference lies with the man's motive in pursuing the relationship. Biblical courtship has one motive — to find a spouse ..."
2) The Difference in Mind-set: "The second major difference between biblical courtship and modern dating is the mind-set couples have when interacting with one another. What do I mean by that? Modern dating is essentially a selfish endeavor. I do not mean maliciously selfish, as in "I'm going to try to hurt you for my benefit." I mean an oblivious self-centeredness that treats the whole process as ultimately about me ..."
3) The Difference in Methods: "Third, and most practically, modern dating and biblical courtship are different in their methods. And this is where the rubber really meets the road. In modern dating, intimacy precedes commitment. In biblical courtship, commitment precedes intimacy ..."
2007-07-30 02:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by Gardenia 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Courtship implies that the two intend to be married.
Dating is more temporary, or less certain about the future.
I don't think it's a Christian thing necessarily. I didn't even know people still used the whole 'courtship' thing.
2007-07-30 02:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by Char 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Courtship is pre-dating. It is showing the other party that you’re interested. This could be seen in simple terms as 'flirting'. Dating on the other hand insinuates that you and the other person are declaring a bond between each other or a desire to start a relationship with that person. It also insinuates monotony, something that is not required in the courtship process (as you can flirt with many people and make a choice from who flirts back).
2007-07-30 02:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Very simple.
Dating does not have to be directed towards marriage. It's more casual. I can date multiple people at the same time.
Courtship definitely has a commitment element in it. It means that both the man and woman have marriage in mind as a goal in getting to know each other better. I could not be in simultenous courtship w/more than one person.
2007-07-30 02:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by God Still Speaks Through His Word! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Technically it is the same thing these days. Being an older term it brings one to the older and more virtuous mindset.
Today dating can entail a whole lot more so the meaning has changed as well as the word.
However having date at the core simply means to have a meeting/social appointment. Nothing to do with romance. Courtship does have something to do with romance.
2007-07-30 02:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Emperor Insania Says Bye! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Courtship seems to have a specific outcome in mind. I think that is the difference.
2007-07-30 02:43:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think dating is just getting to know each other, and courtship is when you are actively trying to woo the person.
2007-07-30 02:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Courtship would be formal...and no, the traditional Hindu court their future spouse, which was chosen by the parents...
2007-07-30 02:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋