I don't know how to say this. I'm not pregnant. Please no harsh words because I'm having a real hard time with this. Been depressed for days. I guess I wanted a baby so bad my body changed as if I was pregnant. I had all the signs, felt the baby move this past month, felt like twitches, or flutters. I'm so pissed off and I'm blaming God which I know i shouldn't. The doc told me I have no ovaries. Why are so many unfit mothers having babys. I'm not talking about anyone on here. You all are great. I am so freaking angry that so many unfit women are having babies. I want a baby to love, and take care of and help grow and just to be there for him/her. I want a child so bad and I'm really pissed that I a loving, caring, nuturing woman with a huge heart and many more traits can't have a baby. I don't have money to adopt and i don't want to foster because usually as soon as you fall in love with the child they go right back home. Has anyone done this or known someone who did what i did?
2007-07-30 02:35:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
That is so horrible! I am so sorry to hear.
But, God does work in mysterious ways...
Yes, there are a lot of unfit mothers out there, but a lot of the children are being put up for adoption or put into foster care. Maybe God needs you to take hold of one (or more) of those children in need of the love you can provide.
Good luck, and know that God is not being cruel, He has other plans for you.
2007-07-30 02:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by AM~Erica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine also had all the signs, morning sickness really bad... no AF. She went t the doc and got an exam first and the dc told her she looked pregnant to him (blue cervix, apparently your cervix turns blue when your pregnant)
But they did anultra sound and no baby. Her body was actn pregnant as well. Im not sure what else was going on with medically..but she took it hard as well.
My words of encouragement to you would be to start raising fund for adoption. You can do this many ways, and thats how a lot of people get money for adoption. Just keep working towards your goal. If you keep taking the steps evenutally you will get there. Pray a lot, god works in very mysterious ways. Good luck.
2007-07-30 09:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by SueWithTwo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow your story really landed right in the bottom of my heart. I would suggest first taking 10 deep breathes. 2nd think positive, im sure you would be 1 of the greatest mothers, but life is not fair. In some cases you dont win the soccer game after a huge lead, and in some harsh times like yours, you cant have your baby. I would suggest adopiting a baby, trying to save up for 1. You know in many places yuo can get a baby after 3 days of age, and the rules say, the mom cant change her mind and want her baby back after giving him to adoption. If the baby boy will stay with you from day 3, you are going to be his mother. And that baby could land in a bad mom's hand, so i would suggest adopting a baby, not just for you for him too. He will have a great mother.
Another piece of advise, run when you are angry, dont eat.
Hope you liked my advise, and lots and lots of good luck. Im praying for you.
2007-07-30 09:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by imsuchacutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear the news.. Well, you might want to consider talking to a therapist about how you were/are feeling. It does help to get a second opinion from someone that doesn't know you or your history that doesn't "judge" you it may feel good to just let out your emotions and get it all out of your system as part of the healing process.. The mind is a powerful tool capable of so many things that we cannot understand.. Maybe you were made to do better things than have children of your own.. Maybe it's to volunteer and help/aid sick children.. Maybe it's to foster an older child that needs love and support... God works in mysterious ways... I"m not even that religious- but, I do believe.. Try to stop being so angry at him or her? Open your heart and your mind and you might find a road that you didn't know existed to be your personal path through your personal tragedy ! I wish you luck and a bit of salvation... Good luck and be well...
2007-07-30 09:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that. You should foster a child because there are so many kids that need a loving home even if it has to be temporary. I know that it is annoying that their are trifling women having babies and your not able to but no matter what be thankful because a way will be made for you.
2007-07-30 11:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear this. I know you're badly hurt, but I have no clue what it's like to have no ovaries, I'd want to die if I couldn't have children. There is insemination you can get, since u still have a uterus, but it wouldn't be your own blood, your egg, because you don't have any, it costs money though. Goodluck!
2007-07-30 11:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by Lorelei's Mommy ( & prego) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you, however I'm confused, you said you were 4 1/2 months pregnant. Did you ever visit a doctor in all this time? They should have done a pregnancy test at the first visit.
2007-07-30 09:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
my aunty couldnt have babys either,
well she would fall pregnet and then end up having a misscaridge just when she got use to the baby being inside her and apart of her. she took these needles that u can get from your doctor
2007-07-30 12:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
omg, I feel really terrible for you now. try being a live-in nanny. you still get to hang around kids, and if you don't like them, you can just say so, and you can get a new job. but don't, and I mean DON'T try stealing a baby like this one lady did! would you like to go to jail? and I KNOW that your answer is no!
good luck!!!
Peace,
Morgan J. Carter
2007-07-30 09:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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lots of luck.
2007-07-30 10:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by prm4u_always 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋