Hi. I'm 21 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Sometimes I feel bad about it. But, there doesn't seem to be any substantial men out there. I am reasonably pretty and smart. Does anyone have the same problem? Am also worried because I see that I'm getting older when most girls start dating in their early teens. NO RUDE ANSWERS PLEASE!
2007-07-30 02:09:59 · 45 answers · asked by ILovePizza 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lucky you.
2007-07-30 02:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by Taurus 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah that might be true on the most teens part. But i'm almost an adult in like 6months (i'm 17 right now) and I never got asked out,never had a boyfriend and I never went on a date. But I know what you mean. Alone and feel as though your the only one sort of thing. *Cyber hug* But don't worry about it ok? You'll find your guy and he will come least expected. If you really like someone right now you should tell them and not let them go without you saying a word. Don't be desperate though either but i'm just saying if you really care for someone right now a lot you should tell them. If not try to hang out with your friends and have a huge friend hang out thing and you might meet a few guys and such that you want to be friends with and so forth.
2007-07-30 02:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by SweetCocoaAngel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being 21, it is normal. I didn't really had a real girlfriend until I was 28. It is just that i was interested in girls when I was younger but I was not ready to commit to anything that is serious. Because as I move around a lot and that I travel a lot, my companions were basically my best friends guys and gals and then sometimes my family.
So, it is normal. Your feelings will change as you grow older, so if you force it, everything will fall apart for you when you are 'trying to' have a boyfriend.
Just let the time takes it course and guide you.
2007-07-30 02:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by JC...Living Passively 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 20 yr old(m) and I never had a girlfriend yet.I do get the same feeling as you however you should feel lucky too cos you have alot of time to do what you want.
Having a relationship in early age is actually not a healthy choice.Most people are not matured to handle a relationship so by the time you have a boyfriend even today.It is better for guy like us will know that our age is catching up and it is not easy to find a true love.So what most of the matured guy will do is to cherish what they have.
If you have alot of schoolwork and you have to commit to your girlfriend by spending time with her and fork up some money.It is very tiring and worst to those who are half working half studying.
With your age,I believe you will choose a person you like wisely or else you may face puppy love.People who are too young(immature) do not how to choose and when they got sour relationship they will start to curse about what no true love and there is no love stuff around. =(
So consider yourself lucky!!!
Chew a nut and you find your life more crunchy!!! XD
2007-07-30 02:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by 2nd-hamsterlord 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel I am going to be 20 in November and still nothing. I feel bad about it all the time but you know what, I don't let it get me down. I know I am intelligent & pretty. I just focus on the bigger things in life, my schooling and my future career. And don't be upset at the teens that you see dating, some of them don't know really what true love is and the guy they are dating is only probably looking for an easy conquest (i.e. a little action). The right guy will come along soon enough.
Hope this helps :D
2007-07-30 02:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by thats what you get <3 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Face it, a lot of girls start dating in their teens... and end up with teen pregnancies. So don't worry about that. My suggestion is to go out with your friends a little more often, and when you do, mingle. If you're shy, don't leap out of your comfort zone, just talk to a "friend of a friend" to get things started. If you're feelign brave enough, try talking to someone you don't know. Tip: If you're by the food, ask "Have you tried any of this yet?" Its a great ice breaker. Sooner or later, you'll meet a guy (or even a few) who you like. Just act like yourself and if he seems interested, go for it! After chatting, tell him you had fun and say you guys should go see a movie or go to starbucks sometime. If he says sure, ask for his number or give him yours. :) I hope this works for you. The key is confidence.
2007-08-06 19:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you feel bad about yourself for not having had a boyfriend? It's not your fault. The right man just hasn't found his way to you yet. Congratulations, for being picky, and not just being with any guy just to have a boyfriend. So many women get in the habit of just settling for anyone, rather than waiting for the right one. It is very refreshing to me to hear that you are a particular person. Don't be discouraged you'll find the right one . Be picky!! A good man is hard to find!
2007-08-06 20:13:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Twenty-one is not old, first of all.
The right guy just haven't come along yet. It's good that you're not settling just to say you have a boyfriend. Wait for that substantial man to come along.
In the meantime, continue to be the best you you can be. That way, you'll be able to attract the best.
2007-08-06 05:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh little princess, thank your stars.
You need to be mature to be in sustainable relationships and to enjoy sex, you need to give some time to your organs to develop fully to accommodate long things. this grandma had her first sex at 27, and never repented the decision.
Early relationships will harm your career and academic prospects. Also, your chance of getting a better mate increases with increase in your career qualifications and earnings.
Am I sounding rude Darling?? But this is true.
Now, get out and catch a Greek God loitering on the road. Get the guy in the bedroom and make history.
Till then, best of luck.
2007-07-30 02:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by sexy grandmother 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl you ain't missing out on not thing,
yuh are right about that, there aren't any good men out there, {maybe few good ones}
and they either married / taken
it is difficult not to feel left out, but don't rush it because every- one else is in- to the game.
you are young and have your whole life ahead of you,
at 21 life has just begun, go out, meet people have fun study,get a good Job, learn about your self,enjoy your freedom.
2007-08-07 01:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by karibbean beauty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally relate and I find the same thing with finding a decent girl.I'm currently single,decent looking and nice etc.
But the decent girls are hard to find.I have had a few gf's not many though.
So this may sound crazy,but what the hell,if you'd like to chat with me and exchange clean photos,and talk or whatever
my names Derek im 27male Australia and I travel to the USA quite a bit.my email is neo2028@yahoo.com
takecare
2007-07-30 02:19:43 · answer #11 · answered by n 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋