if you were in the market for an engagment ring would you take your girlfriends father to help you look/shop for one? He does know a thing or two more about rings and jewlery than I do.
2007-07-30 02:08:30 · 20 answers · asked by bluenote12482 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
well...its a long story. first of all, when I first started ring shopping....I wanted to buy from a chain store type of place, well my gf was not having it.....she does not want a ring from a mall store nor a chain store because she thinks they sell bad quality at these places. But honestly I think her mom is feeding all this to her because she is only 23, soon to be 24 so she still gets a lot of advice from her mother and father. The whole thing about her father helping me out came into the picture last weekend when we went over their house and told them we visited a Jewlery store and began to look at a few things. The mother than suggested that if I am comfortable with it, her father would love to come along and help you out.
2007-07-30 13:09:36 · update #1
To be honest, I think her father knows a thing or 2 about engagment rings and honestly I would not think there is anything to lose from the experience of him coming along. Honestly what I want to spend for the ring now (about $2500-3000) is more than I first hoped it would cost me for a ring.
2007-07-30 13:10:42 · update #2
It really all depends on your relationship with him. If you guys are pals and he values your judgment and opinions than fine. I personally would not do it only for the fact that you might find a ring that you feel is the absolute one for your soon to be wife, and he might not like it. I just think getting a ring is a personal issue between you and your finance.
2007-07-30 02:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lost in Maryland 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only if you plan on spending a decent amount of money. There's nothing wrong with spending just what you can afford on a ring but I wouldn't want the actual PRICE known to everyone in her family. Now, if you plan on spending quite a bit and you wouldn't be embarrassed about the cost of it getting out to everyone, then take him. He'll feel honored that you asked his opinion and it could be a bonding time for the 2 of you. It will be something special you'll always share. Now, don't let HIM have a big say in which one you choose. afterall, you know the girl better than he does...whether he realizes it or not. You know her style and what she will want.
2007-07-30 10:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, no. This is a personal thing between you and your girlfriend. Go to several reputable jewelers. What you should know about diamonds you can easily find out on your own on the Internet. show your future father-in-law that you can make your own decisions-this will help in the future.
Biggest isn't always best for a diamond. I wanted something small and simple, and it turned out to be an almost perfect diamond that was a lot more expensive than a larger less brilliant one.
2007-07-30 09:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're looking for his advice, I would ask him specific questions to help you narrow down your choices, but not necessarily take him with you. My boyfriend's mom knows a lot about jewelry, but she and I have very different tastes, so I have been sure to point out what I would like to my boyfriend, since I know his mom might help him look and come up with something I wouldn't like.
It does depend on your relationship with him - however, you run the risk of falling in love with a ring, knowing your gf will love it... and then the 'jewelry expert' telling you it isn't right for any number of reasons. If he knows his stuff, he will probably be happy to help and flattered that you asked, but I wouldn't rely on him to help you pick out the ring itself.
2007-07-30 11:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'd be better off to take the girlfriends sister or best friend, or even her mother. Someone who knows her tastes better than you and her father will. In my opinion a person who "knows jewelry" is not someone I would want picking out my ring, i would want somethign who "knows me." For example:
1) find out what kind of metal your gf wears. Yellow gold? white gold? could you spring for platinum?
2) does she like a combination of the two, yellow and white?
3) does she like ornate jewelry, or more simple?
4) would she enjoy a diamond solitaire or a past present and future ring?
5) what will fit her lifestyle best?
I worked as an onsite rep engineer at a construction site, and i can tell you that as attractive as a big ring is, something raised is cumbersome and gets snagged on things. In addition to that, if its too plain, she might not want to wear it. Figure out her tastes, and then bring someone who knows her style best!
2007-07-30 11:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by OhioFantastic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a good idea. Father's and Daughters have a really special bond. Dad's hate the idea of some dude taking their little girl, the best way to get on the good side of the in-laws is to make them feel like you are joining their family not stealing their daughter. Getting input from the Dad on the wedding ring is a good step to letting him know that no matter what happens your girlfriend will always be his little girl and you don't want to get between that bond.
2007-07-30 10:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only take him with you if he is paying for it.
This is YOUR gift to YOUR bride-to-be.
Ask him for some "pointers" about diamonds and jewelry if you want, but get the ring yourself. If you want someone older to go with you, look to your own family if possible.
Your lady will be pleased because you've done the shopping yourself.
2007-07-30 10:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by Bobby Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as YOU are that close to him, and feel comfortable shopping with him for his daughter!!!
I think it would have been sweet if my BF took my dad ring shopping, my dad would love that, I lost my mom to cancer 4 years ago, so dad is way more involved in our lifes now!!!
2007-07-30 09:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, careful, there! You open the door for his opinion on something as personal as this, and you're flinging the gates open for interference in your lives later. Take your girlfriend, after all, she's the one who will wear the ring for the rest of her life!
2007-07-30 09:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by lfh1213 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't take him, shopping for "THE RING" should be done alone. this is your ring to give to your soon to be bride. but i would ask him a lot of questions of what to look for and how to see if a ring is worth the price the store is asking.
2007-07-30 09:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋