I'm not going to do anything with her ever again and I want to be with HIM, it was just a stupid thing I did when I got drunk. I want to be honest with him but maybe I should just pretend it never happened!!!
2007-07-30 01:49:19 · 33 answers · asked by ModelBabe2008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...I'm not certain as to what you did behind your bf's back exactly....but reasonably I have a good imagination about things sustainably. You're racked with some guilt and shame about this moment that occurred in a drunken state of mind with this woman...and decidedly you are sorta kinda beating yourself up afterwards here a little bit too....but honestly dear?.....did anyone really get hurt here besides your own darned imagination honestly? Certainly you've already determined that you were wrong in behavior during your own drunken moment sweetie...but go to church this Sunday and ask God for some private forgiveness for yourself reasonably. You messed up darling inwardly...but now it's time to forgive yourself outwardly. Your boyfriend wasn't involved in this mistaken behavior...so try not to involve him in it now. This event was not a reflection about how you feel about him...it was a weak moment of bad judgment about yourself that doesn't deserve to be serving you "a life sentence" here otherwise. Forgive yourself and forget it babe...unless you wanna feel bad for anyone else dear....don't do it babe! Life's to short to get messed up about momentary behavior hun......we forgive you sweetie....now move on up the road of life and forgive yourself too......cool?
2007-07-30 02:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question is what will happen if you would tell him? Just how far can he endure? In the first place I know it's just sex but hey, You have a boyfriend a relationship built on trust but are you comfortable and confident that he will loved you the same way.
My advice even , even if am a being a traitor to all Men out there. DON'T...Even if he say that he is okay it will just torment him and it will always be on the back of is mind. Just give a commitment to him that you will be a totally different person and you will loved him more. And this time make sure that you do.
2007-07-30 01:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rigs 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first question you should ask is "Will this get back to him somehow?" Will the other gal brag? Will it slip out in conversation? Will someone set out to wreck your relationship tell him? Will you blurt it out accidentally during an arguement?
Second question: How bad will he freak if he finds out? Will he go ballistic? Will he ever trust you? Will he break stuff? Will he break up with you? Will he get violent or suicidal?
Third and final: Will it hurt less or more coming from you?
Yes, sometimes honesty is the best policy, but sometimes you should just keep your mouth shut for the greater good.
2007-07-30 02:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by Eric C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well chances are if other people that are mutual friends between the two of you they are going to tell it and it would be better to hear it from you than someone else most guys dont see being with a girl as cheating he will probably think its hot or he could be upset with you for not telling him and have questions about your sexuality
2007-07-30 01:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the boyfriend....
Couple of scenario's possible here...
You decide to tell him and come clean. He then finds this to be hot as hell and wants you to do a threesome so he can watch and join in on the fun.
Or you tell him and come clean. He finds it repulsive, and dumps you. Or let's it go and stays with you.
You don't tell him, he never finds out and life goes on.
You don't tell him, he finds out and either wants you to do it again as a threesome or he dumps you for cheating on him.
Personally, I'd go for the threesome.... But then im a big pervert.
You know your boyfriend better then i do.
2007-07-30 01:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should tell him, he will probably end up finding out somehow anyway. And it would be better for you just to fess up then let him hear some other way. On the plus side (I guess), men are pigs and he might enjoy it. But if so, you might just want to dump him.
2007-07-30 01:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame being drunk for your mess up. If you want to have a relationship with him, you need to tell him. He may be mad but at least if you stay together you wont have this hanging over your head.
2007-07-30 01:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Coral Rae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all DON'T tell him. It would destroy your relationship. You are not married yet (or even engaged) so you are not his exclusively (yet.)
As for not doing it again. Why are you so sure? Did you enjoy it? If you did, you may be bi. This is something he will have the right to know if your relationship goes beyond the b/f-g/f stage. Besides he might want to join in.
2007-07-30 01:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by my_iq_135 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on who else knows, follow the trail. The only chance to continue the relationship is to tell him yourself, especially if its going to get back to him any way.
Of course if you tell him and he then wants a threesome and you don't do it, he will bug you about it until you do it, or break up with you because you don't.
2007-07-30 02:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by surfbum68m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is about exploring your sexuality,being with a man or a woman is fine but if he does'nt know about it just leave it at that as it will cause a lot of conflict in your relationship.if you need to be honest then tell him as it will be playing up on your mind but their is a reason for your action.
2007-07-30 02:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by krystalgirl01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋