treat your children on the basis of birth order or their individual needs?
2007-07-30 01:47:54 · 13 answers · asked by cprime17 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Hi, What do you mean, treat them different in order of birth. All children are individuals, they are all different with different outlooks on life, and different personalities. Treat them as so.
2007-07-30 01:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly by individual needs. As far as birth order it's expected for the oldest to get a little more freedom than the younger sibilings as in babysitting, first dates etc. But each child is different and dealing with each child according to what works best for you and them is the way to go. I hated it when my mom and dad expected me to be just like my "perfect" sister. She was more text book, I was more music and art. She got straight A's and I got B's and some C's. It irritated me when my parents would talk about how smart my younger sister was and not say much about me. It had a huge role on how they treated us. Love them the same and don't show favoritism, but tune into their individual needs.
2007-07-30 04:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Essentially, children need to be nurtured as individuals with one to one time spent on each one.
It stands to reason, that there are going to be instances where the older child's individual needs will be different from that of his/her younger siblings eg later bed times, chores suited to their age, trust issues.
The only time where no difference would be made would be in the case of multiple births. Their needs would all be taken into account equally and individually.
2007-07-30 02:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by flutterby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Birth order? What, is this 1890? Of course you treat them as pertaining to their individual needs.
2007-07-30 01:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by rouschkateer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
individual needs definately. Got 4 and they are all treated as individuals.
2007-08-02 04:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by Tracey M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to treat the crew all the same - good luck to that one - there is always one more dominant, one shyer one more trouble than a nest full of deranged squirrels - sometimes the older acts more younger than the younger one - try to judge what each child is ready for - ie if your 16 year old acts like a 2 year old they are definately not ready to drive a vehicle.
Some kids mature earlier than others too - more responsible etc. so if you think that they are ready for whatever it is , allow it - but put some limits on what they are allowed to do, when etc. and see how they respond. All the best
2007-07-30 09:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by tamar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Individual needs of course!
2007-07-30 08:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely Lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to go with the flow sometimes and sense the situation intuitively as opposed to rules unless we use them very adaptively as every situation is a bit different. Listening is more valuable in my opinion and understanding where they are at and asking questions so that they find the answers that are best for them. They learn to think and understand their feelings that way and so do we. It's more fun too. Some rules have to be firmer.
2007-07-30 02:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by hb12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Equally and to their individual needs
2007-07-31 06:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure i understand the question, but all children need to be treated equally whatever their needs, irrespective of age,
not sure if this is what you were asking?
2007-07-30 01:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋