Are we destined to be alone?

Question

Ok, i'm 27m well educated, resonable looking, good personality, well travelled. A good one on one person. I'm not a loud person, but im talkative.But have had a girlfriend since my teens, is this how life is now? What am i doing wrong? Do i put a wall keeping people out, and thats why nobody interacts with me?

Sorry, Thats "have not had a girlfriend since my teens".

Answer 1

I don't understand this question.

If you have had a girlfriend since your teens, what is the problem?

Answer 2

Dude,

Take it from someone who had the same experience. Even I stick my face and my whole entire body into my business and work, and told myself that having a girlfriend and starting a family is just distracting. Turned out that I had many girlfriends in the past 10 years. Then now, a more serious and a more stable relationship.

If you feel that it is not the right time to have a girlfriend then it is a destiny and believe in yourself that the time will come. You have to be more versatile and more initiative in this area so call communication with a girl. Because sometimes girls tends to want the guy to initiate the process. I know because I had so many girls casing my @ss and sometimes I just don't know how to handle it or I just don't notice until someone tells me.

So, just take your time and 27 is far from being old. and your career had not reached a peak yet.

Good luck and hope that all will find you well in what ever you are succeeding in.

Answer 3

I'm guessing you mean you haven't had a gf since your teens. And as a 26 year old female I'd like to say you're still young.

Sometimes if we see someone attractive, intelligent and with a good personality, we presume you're already taken, you have to get out there and let us know your available, try to keep an air of mystery though, cause most women like that.

It's really easy to miss signs that someone is actually attracted to us, we can mistake it for friendliness, so if a woman smiles at you smile back, and try to strike up a conversation. Start going to different places near where you live, and if you still are stuck, try speed dating or something like that, they aren't all saddos that go to these sort of events, sometimes, with our busy lifestyles, it's hard to get to know people on a more personal level.

Don't cancel anyone out also, you have to kiss a few frogs to find your princess. Good luck and relax, be confident and realise you have alot to offer somebody ;0)

Answer 4

I am a single mother 35, married 1 time for 2 1/2 years and divorced. I believe I was put on earth not to be married. I have had boyfriends come and go. I don't have a problem dating but I know thats as far as it will go with me. Alot of people are like me because they have a fear of going down a bad road again. You are still pretty young yet. You need to give it time and date. If marriage is something you are wanting for your future- don't waste your time dating someone that don't fit your needs. Move on to the next one. You haven't met the right person yet and you are getting discouraged. You can't be like that because you will miss out on your true love. Be patient and enjoy life while ya can! It takes time!

Answer 5

What is your attitude towards others? If you don't know or can't be objective, ask your girlfriend or co-workers about it.

Maybe you come across as a well educated, good-looking-and-you-know-it jackass. Maybe your approach to others comes across in a negative way. I know someone who, when you first meet him you think the world of him. But he'll challenge you - your beliefs, why you do things the way you do them, etc. He's a very open guy, and his challenges will be eye-opening whether you want to hear them or not. So people either love him or hate him. He has no real close friends, but has many, many acquaintances who are always glad to see him. My whole point is, ask people you trust how you come across. The fact that you're questioning your situation is a very good thing.

Answer 6

Go find a nice girl and chat her up. Don't go to bars unless that is where you wish to spend your time. If you are well educated, then go somewhere that interests you and look around. Find a pretty girl, and get to know her. Ask her questions about herself. Be open, honest, and have some patience. I didn't meet my wife until I was 32, and it was so worth the wait after the few wrong girls I had known.

Answer 7

Not sure why but we must put out unnoticeable signals to the opposite sex. Some are destined to be alone and some are not. Guess it depends on how you go about it. Girls loss though cos you sound lovely to me

Answer 8

Hi,I think you missed not out.Maybe you try too hard that can be has bad as not trying.Also maybe you have not met the right girl you have plenty of time.One day you will meet the girl of your dreams & before you know it you will be married with kids.Good Luck

Answer 9

Maybe you aren't approaching the right girls? Do you have bad breath or body odor? Maybe you come across overly assertive? Do you gawk or stare? Though your good points are great points! There are so many other variables to consider.

Answer 10

i have the same problem..
im not loud...but a good conversationalist on one-one
making friends with girls is not trouble for me..
but as for partner..
i somehow tend to build a wall.when some-one tries to pay me attention..

i guess i don't want to get walked over..

though i now realise im being really silly..
about time i found a woman!!

Answer 11

i like to think that somewhere out there someone is waiting to meet you ,but sometimes the more you try to meet someone the harder it seems to be.you have luck on your side ,which is more than some of us .be yourself dont try to hard and never try and be someone your not and someday when you least expect it you'll meet your perfect partner.never give up hope and sometimes try and listen instead of talking.goodluck x