If a child is tantruming in a public place...?

Question

and the parents don't have the common sense to discipline the kid, or at least leave the little snot-nosed brat at home, should passers by be able to come up and beat the tar out of the parents for being too stupid to realize that their snot-nosed little brat needs to be left at home?

Answer 1

from your lips to God's ears.

Just because you have decided to have offspring, doesn't mean we think they are cute and adorable. Just because they are going through the "terrible twos" is not reason to interrupt an otherwise lovely dinner or movie or church service .. whatever. Your child doesn't know better .. but you certainly do.

EDIT::: reading some of these ridiculous answers just proves PEOPLE DON'T / CAN'T READ. The poster said "beat the tar out of the parents" not the kid. I'm guessing it's those of you who "ignore" things like this are the ones "ignoring" you child's lovely tirade while the rest of us look at you like you have no parenting sense.

Answer 2

If you leave your misbehaved child at home they will never know or learn the way to behave in public. Let them know there will be rewards for following the rules when you take them out. If they have a tantrum in public wait patiently and let them get over it. Don't make a big deal out of it. They want the attention but go about it the wrong. Most kids will do the thing they know that will make you pay attention they haven't learned self control and when they are having a tantrum it's not the time to teach them. It's a lot of work but you have to be consistant with how you handle it. Eventually they will come around and realize how inapproiate theri behavior is. When they act nice be sure to praise them and let them know they made a good choice and always back everything up with love and support.

Answer 3

sometimes a parent does all the right things to discipline a child... time out, taking away special toys, threatens to punish by time outs when they get home, not giving the child desert or even a little whack on the behind... and yet the child somehow still behaves like a demon child. sometimes the parent becomes so uncontrollably frustrated they wish they can beat the child unconscious, not that they would.

it's not always the parents fault when the child misbehaves, i have seen it first hand... the child just doesn't care what happens or what is taken away or how long they are in a time out, they still will do what they want to do when they want to do it, and of coarse it is in the most inappropriate places or times...

to these parents i salute you for not beating the little darlings... but i also offer some advice, as my mother says FEAR is the best medicine for an ill behaved child...
i was given the chance to raise one angel and one demon child, both had the fear and yet one just didn't care.

to those of you who can't deal with a demon child for 5 minutes of your day i say shame on you, unless you walk a mile in a parents shoe you should not judge. i advise you to go back to your parents and i bet you they'll probably say you were one too.

Answer 4

"Discipline" may not always be the right response, since sometimes kids ARE just tired, or hungry, or too young to know better. But that doesn't mean the other adults (especially in an adult arena like a movie theater or a restaurant) should have to put up with an extended tantrum. Not all of us are EVER going to have kids, so it's not like we're just taking turns. In those cases, I seriously hope the parents can at least take their children outside or into the restroom, and minimize the disruption that way.

Beating the parents is just a pleasant fantasy, sometimes.

Answer 5

Kids do tend to act up often. No matter how well disciplined a child is, it doesn't mean that they're not going to be tired or crabby and act up in a store or public place. The parents, however, should curb the behavior when it does happen. Whether this means talking stearnly to them, or taking them into the rest room and giving them a good old fashioned spanking. Leaving your children at home all the time however, is next to impossible, as you must have a babysitter, and babysitters usually need at least two days of advance notice. If you need to go to the store NOW, to buy groceries or other items, then leaving your child home with a babysitter is impractical. Also, taking your children to stores can be a good thing. It teaches them to behave in public, (so long as parents curb bad public behavior as soon as it starts). Tantrums are part of life of being a parent. It doesn't make the kids "snot nosed brats" as you call them (which I found VERY innappropriate by the way), the child could just be tired or crabby. I'm sure that you've been in bad moods too as an adult, and as a child I'm sure you threw your fair share of fits. Children just deal with things differently. I do agree however, that parents need to discipline their children when they act up in public. When I am at a store and my children are getting crabby, and start crying, all it takes is a quick trip to the bathroom with a peptalk and a spanking if neccessary. Leaving them at home, however, is hardly ever an option, unless your shopping trip is planned three days in advance, which, again, is nearly impossible to predict!


Edit: I checked out your profile. You said that you are a "Straight forward Christian man". Wow, you know, you sure as heck don't act like one. I think that what you need to do is step back and ask yourself what God would want you to do in a situation. It definitely wouldn't be the way that you appear to handle things. Calling an innocent child the names you did in the above question is totally inexcusable. The Christian approach to your issues with children who cry would to be next time you hear a child crying in the grocery store, go up to the child, smile at him, ask him what his name is, how old he is, try to get him to smile. Do this and guess what, you've just done what God would have you do. You need to grow up in your life and in your walk with Christ. I would reccommend doing this before you have children, for their sake. I'll pray for you.

Answer 6

You have no such right! Just because Mom and Pop cannot discipline the kid to make him behave himself in public doesn't mean they don't try. Perhaps they don't know how to just walk away from junior when he is throwing a tantrum and let kiddy know that his behavior is uncalled for.

Ms Carisa, oops I forgot what I wanted to say and I am sure it was not positive. Sorry, chemo-brain.

I just wanted to say that just because a child is throwing a tantrum it is not always anyones fault. If a child is being obstinent, as in the case of our Airborne hero, it is! Mom should have had the guts to pick up Junior and tell him he is to behave himself in the elevator or when he gets home he will have a blister in a place not nice to have one.

Answer 7

No, but I would walk up and ask them if they could step out if they cannot control their child. Just because they can't control their child(ren) doesn't mean everyone else needs to be subjected to their tantrums. I worked at a VERY upscale scrap book store and this lady comes in with a child no more than 4. She askes me to help her with something and as I am helping her the child is pulling the ribbons from our ribbon supply. I asked the woman if she could maybe hold on to her son, she did. But he threw a HUGE tantrum. I couldn't hear anything over this kid's screaming and yelling and kicking and the mom sat there like it was no big thing. Finally after 10 full minutes of listening to it I kindly asked the woman to leave and come back when her child was under control! Needless to say she was pissed, but it was disturbing to other customers and even to my own boss, who told me I was right in the manner I handled it. I know where you are coming from and I wish I could beat the parents sometimes, but that's doing nothing but stooping to a child's level. I think a kind, but stern reminder of others' feelings is in order for things like that.

Answer 8

"snot nose" is that a good word choice? Even if you are speaking about it relating to another it may become associated with you and it will become your profile...

I myself have problems with using words sometimes that I really do not want to use, I try not to say certain words but they slip out... like the "sh" word or what have you... I mean I guess it all depends on the context sometimes.... but ... I don't know...

With the parenting issue ~ I think that the parent and child relation should be mroe of that of FRIENDS and OPENESS and in that way the parent can more easily explain to the child things about TANTRUMS and such to say, coming from the perspective that ... "hey, child... you do not really want to act like that do you? ~ I mean why are you acting like that? Take it easy, do you want to be acting that way or do you want to grow up and get along with people....

Ideally in a PARENT CHILD relationship there would be no need to "discipline" a child ... if the parent can lay groundwork to BUILD a CHILD right from a young age, this may be the route and it will be easy sailing./...

Answer 9

I agree that a tantrum should not be rewarded with effective or perhaps impartial interest, and ignoring the tantrum is one determination. in spite of the indisputable fact that, my spouse and that i opt to handle a tantrum with unfavorable interest particularly, which places an end to it a lot faster. We use an identical technique continuously, in spite of the fact that if we are at abode or in public. First, our 2-3 hundred and sixty 5 days-old gets a warning that he would be put in time-out if he does not end throwing a greater healthy. If he does not end, then we persist with with the aid of at present. If we are in a public placing, we come across a corner or wall out of how and enable him stare at that for awhile, soaring over him like a "Freedom Nazi" to confirm he does not talk, upward push up, or start up playing. Time-out might desire to be no relaxing! each minute we are going to ask him if he's waiting to end throwing a greater healthy, telling him he can get out of time-out while he's complete. After a jiffy he's often waiting, and then we provide him a hug and a kiss, and then distract him with something else thoroughly: "Oh, look...it somewhat is a purple balloon! i like balloons, do not you? Blah, blah, blah" and then the tantrum is over. If he keeps to throw a extensive greater healthy after being in time-out for a number of minutes, then we ask, "ok, do you % a spanking? i'm going to might desire to take you outdoors and supply you a spanking, considering the fact which you're nevertheless throwing a greater healthy." and of path if he chooses to make a scene, then we'd desire to persist with with the aid of. yet with the aid of now adventure has taught him that we are extreme, and we not might desire to spank. At abode, we can often deliver him as much as his room for time-out till he's waiting to end throwing a greater healthy, on the grounds it particularly is way less difficult for us, and while there isn't any one around to confirm the tantrum, he's conscious of there isn't any element in continuing it. yet inspite of what technique we use, the nice and cozy button is consistency in letting him know that we are going to not enable him to throw tantrums at abode or in public.

Answer 10

that snot nosed brat is not at fault its the parents are. For all thoses times they brought him/her to the store and they said i want it and paremts got it they taught the child that they are push overs and childs pissed nad confused. How would you react if all of a sudden your slaves said no??

Answer 11

I honestly don't think any child should be held repsonsible for their actions, nor should they be left out because their parents don't disipline them, kids are moody due to being hungry, tired or sometimes plain old no reason at all.

Yes its frustrating having to listen to someone elses child, but it happens to the best of us and wait until it happens to you, then you will understand just how hard it is to raise a proper human being, not just a snot nosed brat!