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been in a relationship with this great guy for a year . we used to go out and have a good time all the time now that we have moved in with each other he ha become a home body when he leaves hes not gone long n he tells me weres hes going ,, but 4 the last couple of months hes been acting weird while hes at work he wont answer some of my texs or ?'s acts like he doesnt want botherd all he talks about is work n this female co worker that hes ben working with 4 over 9 months and here to find out the people at his work dont even know about me .. he says he dont talk about his person life but he tells me about theres all the time we never have sex anymore he tells me nothings going on but why is he different having fun with them n acts like a couch potato at home and makes me feel he wants nothing to do with me im just worried something might be going on at work with this person why hes different with them/her then he is with me .. now his job is working with 2 mentally changelled guys .. i

2007-07-30 01:00:48 · 7 answers · asked by tmnph15401 1 in Family & Relationships Weddings

7 answers

TALK to HIM, not us.

Some people keep their work and personal life separate, so I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Yeah something could be going on, but you don't know for sure.

As for texting while at work... he's at WORK, so unless its super dooper important I would leave him alone. If its silly "Hi" texts, then I could see them being ignored. If its "wanna do lunch?" he should reply.

Have you bothered to get him off the couch? Wear sexy lingerie? Ask him to go out on a date?

TALK TO HIM.

2007-07-30 02:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0 0

I know exactly what you are talking about. (minus talking about other girls) My fiance and i used to have so much fun before we were engaged/moved in. Like yours, mine is a couch potato, and his world revolves around when the simpsons come on, and what's going on at the racetrack. We also hardly ever have sex, because i'm frustrated that he doesn't want to spend time with me unless it's for the purpose of getting sex. Not exactly romanitc. My theory is that they have become very comfortable. When you don't live together it's more exciting, because you don't see them as often, and you actually want sex. What happens is that gradually you fall from their #1 priority and it's less important to spend every second with you. Which i'm sure what marriage is like. Ugh.. no wonder divorce rates are sky-rocketing. As for the girl his is talking about, I would sit down and have a heart to heart with him. Tell him if his feelings for you have changed --- it is ok. (I know it's not, but this works) If he wants to be with someone else he is free to go. No strings attached. If he goes, then he's doing you a favor. If he stays, tell him he's got to be more attentive and make you feel special- and not only when he wants sex. And in return.. no more arguements about his work. ***I think i solved my own problem! *** Good luck!

2007-07-30 09:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Silac 3 · 1 0

I was in this situation once. Yes my guy was interested in the other girl more than me. He didn't have the chance to sleep with her, so he wasn't exactly cheating. But he stopped calling me on break. Then he stopped answering my texts. He started acting withdrawn from me at home and never wanted to go anywhere with me. He didn't tell me about his company picnic because nobody at work knew he was even dating anyone. He was mean to me so I would break up with him and he didn't have to get the courage to do it himself. So finally I dumped him and I just got married to the sweetest guy this weekend. It's been 4 years since I dated the other guy. He says he still loves me, still wants me back. And oh yeah... he started a relationship with the other girl RIGHT after we broke up and it lasted 1 week. So you need to figure out what's best for you.

2007-07-30 11:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by mommyoftwo 3 · 1 0

I don't know what is going on. Sounds like he scared himself when he moved in with you. Maybe he needs something to make him start thinking about you again, get his interest back....a little mystery never hurts. Try to do things that get him curious about your life like you are with his. Sometimes this will jar a persons interest back into a person. Haven't you ever seen what happens to this kind of a guy when a girl dumps them? They fixate on her again and get upset. I am not saying that you need to go that far, however do something that will not make you so "there" and (forgive me) easy should spark his interest.

2007-07-30 08:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Your gut is telling you something, so listen to it! Unless you have this kind of mind, already. You need some answers. Get them.

Suspicion is NOT healthy in a relationship.

2007-07-30 09:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1 0

i dont know. it might be that he really is stressed. Maybe by not going out he is just saving money to pay for the bills that come with moving in together.

2007-07-30 08:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by delldude405 3 · 1 0

That's what you get for making the decision to get sexually involved, and also to move in with someone before considering marriage. Obviously, you don't trust him at all, and the two of you aren't responsible enough to handle a stable relationship. End it. Grow up. Move on.

2007-07-30 08:11:09 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Alexis 4 · 1 3

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