She got in to a car accident and she is currently living in TX and I'm in NJ she doesn't have anybody just her Mom . and evrytime I talk to her I don't know what to say...because she is really depress. I wish there was something I could do ... since she is so helpless..maybe a non profit organinzation I don't know I'm desperate to help her in any way ...any sugestions......
2007-07-30 00:37:25 · 11 answers · asked by m_l_z_c 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My mom has been paralyzed for 33 years. I am 26 so you do the math...that's all I have ever known. Your friend is no different from anyone else, she will have her ups and downs . You must be supported right now. Don't treat her any differently than you have in the past. Just call and talk like you always do. If she wants to talk about the accident talk about it but don't bring it up alot. She doesn't want to be reminded of it every day. There is a difference from living it and being reminded of it. Take a trip down there to see her. She needs something to lift her spirits because its easy to get depressed when you always look at the negative. It could have been worse...she could have died! Just let her know that you love her and that you are in her corner.
2007-07-30 00:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by ice38034 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether or not she has reasonable use of her hands. If she does, you could send her books, or supplies for a hobby. Ask her what she likes to do, or what she used to like that she can still do, if she's been too depressed to do anything.
Yes, there are non-profit organizations that should be helping her. Her physical therapist should also be making a recommendation to an occupational therapist. She may want to start vocational rehabilitation once her condition is stabilized.
It is quite amazing what 21st century technology can do for paralyzed people. Have you seen all the clever gadgets that can be attached to a wheelchair? Adapting computers to the use of people with limited use of their hands has come a long way, although there's still more to go. One lady I knew back in Santa Cruz bought herself one of those high-tech sewing machines. She had to push the buttons with her knuckles instead of the tip of a finger, but so what? She was able to operate it reasonably well, and was learning all sorts of clever tricks to get around her limitations.
Good luck! Lovely that you want to help.
2007-07-30 07:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i work with disabled clients many of them i havent a clue as to how they bacame paralysed as i dont ask but some brooch the subject themselves but then still i tend not to go into great detail of what happened to them as it triggers painfull memories. my auntie has been in a wheelchair since her teens and relys on her parents who are now elderly to care for her 24/7 . the best is to treat them as an indivudual and encourage them to have a normal life as possible. lots of places now have disabled assscees to building pubs and clubs muesums etc encourage her to go out and visit places she has enjoyed in the past even though she is disbled if she tries to continue with her things she enjoyed in the past this will help her accept the impairment and relise she still can live her life the same but with a little help. there are lots of organastions and day centres that caterfor disabled clients which she may find benifcail as people she will meet may be in the same situation as hers. does she have a disablity car? if not look into this as all my clients have disabled cars paid for through various organastions this will help maintain her indepdance depending on her limations she may be able to drive or perhaps a friend or carer. look on the internet their are many sites that you can look into regarding daycare/nightcare live in carers etc and depending on her money circumstances she may be entitled to disablity benifits. just be a good friend and treat her how you did before the accident if she wants to talk let her and when shes unhappy remind her of all the postive things she has going for her, personalty friends etc. good luck ;-)
2007-07-30 07:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 02:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be by her side spiritualli. let her know she is not alone and that, as her best fren, u will support her and be there for her. hmm u can constantly send her sth of yours such as care cards or just anithing that way caan keep her mind off the issue. talk to her on the phone too. to motivate her and support her.
2007-07-30 03:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her
be there for her as much as possible.
maybe send her a gift she would really love to cheer her up.
watch a movie together on the phone.
tell her jokes. laughter is the best medicine.
2007-07-30 06:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by Srm2212 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its is very sad. The best thing you can do is to motivate her to fight with the situation she has to be self motivated to get better soon. May God the omnipotent bless her the courage to fight and to come back to the normal life.
2007-07-30 00:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by skjolly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write to her. Send her care packages that YOU have made. These could include typewritten or artistically designed poems, stories, etc. Keep talking to her...if she is really your best friend....
2007-07-30 00:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by all_stardusty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could move to texas to be with her that way. from what you describe she needs someone to talk to and her mom isn't there all the time
2007-07-30 08:10:09 · answer #9 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each everytime try to make a joke or make something funny tht can make her smile ...........try to take her for a movie ......dont let her be in the house.......go for some rides ............dont let her be alone......make her feel tht there is some1 beside her to support .........!
2007-07-30 03:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by Aashita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋