My friend asked me to be a bridesmaid in his wedding. I am not a big fan of the bride but the groom is one of my best friends so I said yes. I went and spent $140 (I know it could have been worse) and joined a weight loss program because the wedding was in 5 months! They have now canceled the wedding and are going to Florida to get married! Should I ask for my money back from them?
2007-07-30 00:08:06 · 21 answers · asked by Meredith L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It would be nice of her to give you the money, but realistically I doubt that she will. What I would suggest instead and check on the return policy maybe you can get your money back, or sell it on Ebay or Craigslist.
Good luck!
2007-07-30 14:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 'bride' should be offering to pay you for the dress. I hope she will. Will they take it back at the dress shop (special order probably). If you are not successful, there may be dress shops in town or somewhere that may purchase your dress for you. If not, again, maybe you can put an ad in the paper and sell it as 'unused' bridesmaid dress and there may be someone out there that just needs one and it fits the bill (even if alterations are necessary) and you can recapture part of your money. I would hope, however, your bride does the right thing. As far as your weight loss program, consider this a 'bonus' regardless of the wedding plans gone astray. This could be the best thing for you (and keep it up forever) and you will have fond memories of your 'dress'.
2007-07-30 00:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by basport_2000 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the bride has not offered then that is so rude, it's not like you would have gone and chosen that dress unless you were being a bridesmaid. Yes, ask for your money back, say to them that as they have now cancelled their plans you can no longer wear the dress, it would be very bad manners if they did not pay for your dress. In the UK the bride pays for her bridesmaid dresses, I'm surprised that people expect their friends to shell out for a bridesmaid dress, but I guess different places have different customs.
2007-07-30 01:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes u should: they asked u to be a bridesmaid and they also had to buy the dress so u are stuck with the dress and no money while they party in florida . I DONT THINK SO!!!!!!!!!!!! EXPLAIN Tto them the cost of the dress and weight loss program and see what they say. they can refuse or they can be true friends and reimburse u . good luck in how this turns out.
2007-07-30 04:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should politely ask that they pay you back for the dress BUT ONLY IF (a) you can not return it and/or (b) you will never use it again. You can offer to provide them with the dress should they want it since they will be paying for it. They may be able to recoup some of the expense via selling the dress.
The cost of the gym is on you. Enjoy and keep it up!
2007-07-30 02:03:48 · answer #5 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have a little talk with them about it and let them know how upset you are and that you had to come up with this money for a dress that could have been used for bills and other things. Let them know that it is a bit rude to do that. They will probably pay you back and then you can sell the dress on Ebay.
2007-07-30 02:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by Va princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the weight loss program is something that you should be happy to have done for yourself no matter what. Good for you!
I hope that you can take the dress back. If not, perhaps you can try to sell it at a consignment shop or sell it on eBay. There is something else you can do with it though. There is a charity program that you can give it to that takes dresses for underprivileged girls for their proms.
http://www.princessproject.org/princess/
2007-07-30 00:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by beckini 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes ask for your money back it's so rude of them to not even think about all tghe epople that spent money on this. If they want to get married in florida fine congradulations but they need to return the money to the people that were going to be nice enough to support them on their specail day. Friends or not money does not grow on trees.
2007-07-30 06:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was actually extremely rude of them. Not only did they cancel the whole wedding, but they didn't even OFFER to return people's money! I would suggest talking to your friend (PRIVATELY) about this since the you're not too fond of his bride. If he's truly your best friend, he'll understand your concerns and talk about this with his wife.
2007-07-30 04:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did they ask you to buy a particular dress? If so, yes, you would be well within your rights to request the cost of the dress back.
The weight loss programme, no ~ unless they asked you to do it.
Also, if they didn't actually ask you to buy the dress, but you just did so you'd have something nice to wear, I'm afraid you don't really have anything to ask them for ... just hope you have a chance to wear the dress soon.
Best of luck :-)
2007-07-30 00:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by thing55000 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋