I made up my mind that I will be nice and say hi to a person from my past. They actually did the breaking up. You'd think that their face would break if they smiled and said hi. This person also lives behind me now with their family. This is a weird situation because their parents moved next door to me. Is this one of the plagues from the Bible strickly for me! How do I get through life when I'm surrounded by my past? God keeps telling me to live at peace with everyone if possible. I'm trying to let my light shine and except my neighboors and my situation that God seems to have put me in. Why would this old boy friend not forgive and forget when he is suppose to be a christian now and I am a christian now? He is not even friendly to my husband.
2007-07-29 22:55:37 · 8 answers · asked by anjoek5859 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I just try to be polite whenever our paths cross in public...like a supermarket or store. I have no ill feelings just feelings of thankfulness that my eyes were finally open and now I have a wonderful man!
2007-07-29 23:30:04 · update #1
Well, consider that God has given you a lesson to be learned here. You have to learn to be civil. You have to learn to bear their arrogance and live with it.(Love your neighbour, does not necessarily mean become friends with them!) I know it is awkward but if you can handle this, you will become a much stronger and mature person. (If it is any consolation we are not given anything that we cannot deal with. And often those that are the strongest, get the toughest lessons)
You have no idea what the explanations of your break-up were at the time, or continue to be. I have found that the ones that do the breaking-up will often embroider their part of the story to make them appear to be the hero. Once they have said these lies often enough, they believe them also.
So this group has decided that you are not worthy of their attention. Accept it.
Treat them with civility. When they are within close range and it seems rude to ignore them, then by all means, say, "Hello!", "Good morning!", "Nice day!" or anything else that seems appropriate. Don't wait for an answer, because you may never get it, no matter how many times you are civil to them. They are the ones being rude. Don't let it upset you. They really have no meaning to you in life now. They might as well be rocks and trees or strangers on the street. That is their decision and not yours. You are being taught a lesson. Pay attention to the lesson....
Your additional information tells me that you are handling in a very dignified manner! It isn't easy, but you are doing fine and have the right attitude to the sticky situtation....GOOD for YOU!!
2007-07-29 23:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Goddess of Laundry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bible say to forgive.... now with that after you have forgiven and allowed the person to know that you forgave them. The rest is up to them... Forgiving doesnt mean that we have to now be best friends wit the person... it means that you are willing to let the past go... the rest is up to him sis, move on... pray steadfast...
2007-07-30 06:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just stay out of their way. There's no need for you, or him, to involve yourself with them or your kids. Just tell the kids you rather not have them associate with them.
You already have a chip on your shoulder or you wouldn't be writing this, so stay clear of them.
If for some reason you do meet and have to converse simply tell them you rather not associate with them, or "all is forgiven" something to this affect. And walk away, don't stand around waiting for an answer, or for them to retort.
2007-07-30 06:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really talk to my neighbors. Why is it neccessary to even acknowledge your ex? He is nobody to you and I hope your husband is not being weirded out by this whole situation. Just go on with your life as if he was not even there.
2007-07-30 06:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by marie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1)Be bold. You can talk to that man and ask him to forget it all & be nice to your family as bygones are bygones and act as strangers. Else
2)If you had physical relations with that man -- change your house.
If not -- change your house.
2007-07-30 06:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what you know you are supposed to do and go on being friendly.
Worry about yourself, and forget about him. Blessings to you!
2007-07-30 06:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by batgirl2good 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably has a lot to do with his wife.
2007-07-30 06:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by Prof Fruitcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile at him and him him due respect.
jtm
2007-07-30 05:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by Jesus M 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋