I'm in a difficult situation at the moment. I have been going out with a girl I really like for the past 6 months. We get on really well and we have talked about moving out and are due to go on holiday next month.
The thing is my so called best friend has gone really weird over this. I have known him for ages and before I met my girlfriend we used to go out drinking every weekend however we both got tired of this. He is continually complaining saying I never do anything anymore, even though I make a point of seeing him at least once a week. But recently I have become really fed up with his behaviour, he has gotten a job in Switzerland and I am pleased for him but he now slates me and everybody I know for still living in their home town and having s**t jobs. Yesterday he asked me to do something but I was having a family meal to which he again said I never do anything anymore even though I saw him last Friday. Not sure what to do, as he is testing my patience, my girlfriend
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says he is being childish. My parents say he is jealous and my sisters think he is not being a very good friend and to ignore him. Whilst I value all of their opinions part of me doesn't want to lose contact with him but another part of me thinks I may be better off without him but feel guilty for thinking this. Any advice?
2007-07-29 22:31:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he's worth keeping in your life as a friend, try to be patient with him.
perhaps you could talk with him. explain that you value his friendship, but that life happens, situations change, priorities shift. this is just one chapter in what could be a long book if he wants to hang in there with you.
some people have a hard time dealing with change.
it might take him a while, but hopefully he'll let go of how things were, and learn to appreciate what is.
2007-07-29 23:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by wanabbetter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this could be a annoying subject because of the fact I see the place the two you and you're acquaintances are coming from. you're acquaintances probably experience such as you're selecting your bf over them. i might tell them the reality approximately what's happening with you. a million- you have not been feeling too large approximately your self,etc. and which you have have been given merely wanted to be on my own - which perhaps they have observed and is why they want to realize out to you 2- you are not getting to spend a great number of time with your bf so once you do have a while available you will possibly want to verify him 3- it doesnt recommend which you do not look after your pals, you like them and savour their calls etc, yet perhaps say we could all plan an afternoon to hold close out, exterior of school. this way they dont think of you're merely acquaintances with them there. i'm hoping I helped. =/
2016-10-01 00:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds to me like he misses what you 2 use to have. i recently had my friend tell me the same complaining in the same sort of manner. but first off i would explain to him look you know my g/f comes first. and if you hang out once a week that probably just don't seem right cause you probably went out and did stuff allot and hung out allot so it just kinda sucks for him. i would tell him look i'm sorry but i don't wanna be doing all that and ain't got time for it or however you feel on the topic and tell him look if you really are a friend you should understand. and ya know i don't harrass you when you do something i don't like. so why would you do that to me. well good luck with your friend hes probably just missing the time you 2 had.
2007-07-29 22:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by pan_clock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, he does not realize how important your relationship with your girlfriend is. Once he falls in love, he will understand. Just tell him that you would like to remain his friend , but that he will have to understand that your life is much busier now than it was before. Tell him that you are happy for him in his new job, but that you would appreciate it if he did not talk bad about what you are doing in your life. If he can't handle that, he is not a good friend, and you need to just ignore him until he matures a bit.
2007-07-29 22:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend exactly the same..how odd.
Well i think you should not feel guilty as you are not the one being irrationally jealous of apparently not only you but every body around you, he most definitely needs to get a life (live and let live)and sort his skeletons out. ignore him and enjoy your life with your girlfriend, he will give up, I promise.
Tell him to take a hike.
2007-07-29 22:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by mika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well either buck up and ignore the dolts bad behavior, give him a heart to heart letting him know that you'd rather spend time with him then spend time hearing how you don't spend time every time you get together or yes time to just move on and hope that maybe once he gets his crap out of his system you can reconcile later and carry on.
2007-07-29 22:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just having a hard time that someone has sorta took "the spotlight" from him, so he feels a little threatened......So i think maybe you should give him some space and if that doesn't work then maybe you need to have a word or two with him.........
hope everything works out!! GOOD LUCK =)
2007-07-29 22:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Lilith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not necessary to distance yourself from your friend.
2007-07-29 22:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
better you keep a distance.. you cannot have a friend like this charater..
2007-07-29 22:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-07-29 22:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋