Probation violation?

Question

I liked this girl and she was in a long term abusive relationship. Well anyway her boyfriend of 5 years was on probation for domestic violence, and the other day he got arrested for d.w.i. Well the day he got arrested she found out that she was pregnant by him, and the officer had the car towed. Well now she might lose her job because she doesn't have a car to get to work and she cant pay her rent etc.
So I really like this girl and I know I will take her in if she was to lose her job and her place. So I was wondering if her boyfriend is looking at any jail time or anything. This is in TX and in TX the law isn't to relaxed on drinking and driving.

Answer 1

he should be looking at some jail time, but probably not too much. The terms of PV's are to remain law-abiding.

Answer 2

I am not too much up on Texas law, however, there will also be a Probation Violation imposed and most states impose that even if he gets out of the DWI. The time imposed for such a violation can be anything from 2 weeks to the full length of the offenders 'original' sentence. Not to mention the time involved for the DWI, generally a 1st offense on that is no more than a year in county jail. But due to over crowding it'll be like more 2 weeks to maybe 90 days max.
I suggest you check with the local authorities as to Max. penialities. They will not give you specifics on a particular inviduals case,ie the wayward boy friend, but give you a guide line.
Another thing to think about, is if you get involved with this girl, even as a freind, think of the potential risks you may be placing yourself, her and the unborn child in. Remeber, the boyfreind has a history of domestic violence, Right????

Answer 3

I don't know if he's looking at jail time or not, but I'd be very, very careful if I were you. If you're romantically interested, you're very vulnerable to being taken advantage of. Sadly, I predict she'll come and live with you, accept your financial and other support, and go back to the boyfriend when he gets out of jail and leave you broke and broken-hearted.

I hope that I'm wrong - for her sake and yours - but somebody who stays in an abusive relationship for 5 years, including after he's convicted of domestic violence, and THEN gets pregnant with him, is unlikely to all of a sudden realise that she deserves better. And she won't appreciate what a nice guy you are; I really suspect she'll just take what she can get from you and return to the abuser.

Do what you can to boost her self-esteem and encourage her to leave this guy, but protect yourself, too. Don't try and get romantically involved until she's well and truly finished with this other jerk and back on her feet. Help her by taking her places, finding out what assistance is available to her, helping her find a job and/or apartment, but DO NOT give her money. If she's going to fall for you, you want it to be because you're a nice guy, not because you're her means of support.

Good luck to you. I'm a bit of a softie, too, and would find it hard to hold back, but truly, you should be very discriminating in deciding what kind of help you should provide. I hope that you can encourage her to boost her self-esteem and leave this guy, for her sake and her unborn child.

Answer 4

it is, yet this might land up being a discretion concern on the component to the Probation Officer. he will have questions for optimistic, one subject of probation is be regulation abiding and a dashing fee ticket means he wasn't. in the experience that your pal avoids the PO he might desire to be violated. If he talks to his PO approximately it the worst i think if gets, if he has been sparkling in any different case, is a robust chewing out.

Answer 5

well arent you a prize.not many men would put themselves in such a dramatic situation,i applaude you for being a good friend.Anyways it really depends on the situation if he violated his probation to begin with i am certain he will spend some time in jail as well as some time for the DUI.If i were this woman i owuld take this as an oppurtunity to run and run like all h e l l away from this guy he dosent sound like someone that would be a good father to this baby much less a good partner for her.She dosent have to be scared anymore.Talk to her and help her out if thats what you are willing to do.I wish you guys the best of luck

Answer 6

Ahhh, yes, the knight in shinning armor saving the damsel in distress. It's an appealing notion and one that very well might get your head kicked in.

Five years in an abusive relationship is not something you are equipped to deal with. She needs the help of a woman's domestic violence group. Get her into that if you really want to help.

Moving her into your home may invite violence on you from the abusive boyfriend. I suspect he is not into "sharing".

Has she got relatives she can stay with? Get her there.

Has she got girl friends that can help her. Get her there.

Don't move her in with you. The abusive boyfriend will "re-claim" her and the abuse will be even worse.

This woman needs the help of professional counselors. Not pity from you.

Take this from an old timer who as seen this scenario too often, he will kill her eventually. But she needs to make the decision to get away.

Answer 7

its a good possibility that he will go to jail. but i don't know the entire situation. he may be able to pull strings and pay people off or simply talk his way out of stuff. but i doubt it and if he was on probation that means his probation will probably be revoked and he will have to go to court over the new problems and the old ones as well. so it just depends on how bad it is. i would wait and see.

Answer 8

if part of his probation is that he's to stay away from alcohol he very well may go back to jail. she should call his po and see if they can give her info about his case.
so she's not able to support herself without him?
no car, no money for rent , and preggers? that sucks. maybe she should consider giving the child up for adoption, that way the family that will adopt the child will probly pay for her med bills... can she bus herself to work?
does she have family or friends to stay with?
these are all things she should have thought of before getting pregnant.
no offense to her

Answer 9

Run away. There ar emany, many girls out there. Find yourself another one. There are way to many issues to deal with for this to work out. Especially if she is pregnant. That means you better like the abusive guy becasue he will be part of your life for at least 18 years. Turn and run. These aren't your issues.

Answer 10

Quite frankly, this is a bad situation and you should stay away. Believe me, the poon won't be worth all the crap you'll have to deal with. As for her job situation, like all her other troubles like being pregnant by the creep who beat her, she created these problems and it is her job to find a way out.