I just recently broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months.
He cheated on me once while he was drunk, but I loved him enough to forgive him. But then he started doing drugs, and it always seemed like drugs and his drug addict friends came before me, and I hardly ever got to see him.
He promised me that he'd quit doing the drugs, but he never even showed any sign of slowing down. I still love him so much, but I just don't know what to make of him anymore.
Now he's extremely depressed, and I'm afraid that he might become suicidal if I don't take him back. He told me he'd quit, but that's what he said when I threatened to break up with him a while ago.
I don't know what to do. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks.
2007-07-29 20:00:25 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't let him trick you into dating him again!
See, you gave him MANY opportunities to change, and obviously you were NEVER his priority, so why should he be yours now???
Think about YOURSELF for a second! Is that the type of man you wanna keep wasting your time with???
He already stole 8 beautiful months of your life that'll NEVER come back!
You can buy ANYTHING on this earth, but not time!
So move on and let him get help for his addiction on HIS OWN when he's ready for it. You'll NEVER be his saviour and he has already proven to you that he can't commit to real change. Remember that words are cheap.
If he wants to quit drugs, he'll do it for the RIGHT reasons. For himself, and he'll do it when he's ready.
Meanwhile, you go on with your life, and next time, choose a better boyfriend, ok?
Someone who'll make you his priority and won't hurt you like that guys has.
2007-07-29 20:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by Lizzie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a time when you cut your guy off the love line and think about respect, does this guy respect you, i dont think so, let him go, let him change. if he cuts the ish, take him back, but while your with him thats no motivation for him to stop... if he gets suicidal becuase of that.. thats depressing.. and also for you.. dont let his internal drug problems get to you, just tell him you need a break u cant take his crap anymore and he needs to change... so close the door let him change, open it, if hes still in his boxers by the time u open up that door and isnt in his suit like hes supposed to be, lock the door and throw away the key and dont look back lol
2007-07-30 03:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Journy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He is just trying to get you to feel guilty for leaving him. If he really loved you, he would give up the drugs, and get away from those friends for you. Go out and find a nice guy that does not have a lot of problems. You should be enjoying your life. Relationships are supposed to make you happy, not miserable!!!
2007-07-30 03:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, i would just lose him... lose all contact to him. all he will do is just make your life worse then it already is, i know this is hard to accept, but he is no good.
as for the suicide thing, the chances that he will actually do anything is extreamly low. dont stress over this too much.
2007-07-30 03:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by Miles B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋