hes 21 im 14 we ahve been friends BEST friends for the longest time now...we always hung out going fishing and stuff...then he started coming over and going swiming...ok we fell in love...its obvious. and well first mom n dad didnt ever care...we hung out all the time it was all good...well now mom dosent want him coming over, my older sister went through my txts and found the details...so mom thinks she knows were in love...well we started getting physical...sneakingout to the lake and making out for HOURS at a time and just laying there all night long. i love this man to death, he is still a virgin and i dont think sex is anything in our near future...at the same time i feel bad like this all has to stop and i need guys my own age, but i dont know what to do...its like i want to stop but i dont want to lose the friendship and i do love him he has always been here for me...HELLLLLLLP and please dont just chew me out about it
2007-07-29 19:56:32 · 5 answers · asked by Mel051293 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all i don't know what your parents are doing letting you hang out with a 21 year old man in the first, i mean i know when i was 21 i didn't have anything in common with a 14 year old girl. I would also bet money, that he is not a virgin and he is only trying to get down your pants. There is no reason a man who is 21 years old should be hanging around a girl who is only 14 years old, you will have lots of time to dicover boys when you get a little bit older, but this sounds like nothing but trouble. Do yourself a favor and stay away from this guy, he is just trying to get down your pants, im a guy and i know how other guys think.
2007-07-29 20:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by sincity usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion. I would say you should probably step back , and see how you really feel about the situation. If you have a bad feeling and know it's wrong, or you feel it is. Why are you still doing it?
Age isn't such a big issue as you get older, but when you are your age- it really is a big issue. Guy's are great liars at times:] Even though you don't see sex in your future there is always a chance you guys could get carried away. I know that from experience.
You are 14, and have many years to fall in love. I promise you over the next few years you will be in more relationships. So take it slow, if you know what you are doing isn't right. Then stop it- don't let it go on until something you don't want or need is dropped into your lap. Anything can happen.
Also, if your mom really wanted to press charges she could. That is statutory rape . :[ So, if you really love him, do him a favor and tell him you guys should be friends nothing else, everything has to stop. If you don't think you guys can just stop at that, cut off all ties completely.
Good Luck :]
2007-07-30 03:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is too old for you. If you were 18 & he was 25, it would be different b/c you would be legal. You need to let it go. Your mother can press charges against him & then he'll be in jail. He is old enough to know better. Matters of the heart are one thing but common sense should not go out the door. He is too old for you & you need to let it go. And I agree with the above poster for a 21 year old male to go after a 14 year old, something is wrong & I do question how much of a "virgin" he is..
2007-07-30 03:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be something wrong with this man. A normal man of 21 years old would not be interested in a 14 year old girl Your parents are right I hate to say. If he loves you, he will wait until you are 18.
2007-07-30 03:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o wow. well the same problem is with me. but its only 3 years. im 12 and hes 15. but both our parents dont want us to talk to each other
2007-07-30 03:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by snooky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋