please only girls. My wife and I are separated due, there are some complicated issues difficult to explain, but although we love each other we can't be together, I think soon she'll ask me for divorce. Right now, we're living in different cities and recently we saw each other and I took her and her family on a quick vacation. The thing is I've been feeling very lonely and really need to be with someone. I don't mean sexually (although it's really difficult being lonely in that way too), but mostly I need someone I can share things, go to the movies and to eat out, talk and have fun.
The other day I was in a mall, and I saw this beautiful girl, she kind of stared at me a little. And I felt the impulse to talk to her and maybe after get to the point to ask her out, nothing specific really, the thing is I've been thinking about her, and today I almost went to that mall. I probably wounld't have talked to her. I would like to know women's thoughts on this? Is it so bad I feel like this?
2007-07-29 19:45:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IMPORTANT: I should clarify my question isn't if I should go for it, cause I know it isn;t right. Instead I'm asking is it so wrong I feel like this? I mean I wouldn't do it cause it would hurt all of us. I'm a little confused more in the way, that I have been waiting for the thing with my wife to be better, but it doesn't and it really sucks not being able to have company, the thing is male company doesn't cut it. don't know why, is as if I don't feel complete with my male friends.
2007-07-29 19:56:34 · update #1
ANOTHER clarification, she's the one that left me and that has talked about not being together again.
2007-07-29 20:10:10 · update #2
it isnt bad you feel like this, if you and your wife cant live together then your not suposed to be together, and your wasting your time finding someone else by jus sittin around waiting, jus talk to your wife ask her if she does want a divorce and get it over and done with and go find that other girl and see if she wants to go out some time.. no point sittin around waitin for it
2007-07-29 19:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am young. But hopefully I'll be some help to you. First no its okay to feel like that. And really that's a good thing. You said you and your wife love each other but can't be together. Have you tried yet. Why not call her up and tell her how you been feeling. Tell her you love her dearly and want to get marriage counseling or something. That usually helps people so much!
About the other woman. Since you and your wife are separated does that mean you can date other people? If so I'd go back to the mall and see if she's there. If so go up and start a conversation. It doesn't have to be nothing big. And if the conversation goes well maybe she'll ask for your number or you can ask her.
But I know I don't know you but I hate when people give up marriage's. Only if its absolutely necessary. Just remember your still married but that doesn't mean you have to suffer. Its okay to go out and have fun. But I'd tell your wife that you don't want to date other people. And even though it will take some time to get back on track tell her your willing to. Say something like that. Just be real with her. Good luck!!!!!! With Everything!!!!!!
2007-07-30 02:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by I can only be me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about you and your wife. It is not abnormal to feel lonely and want to reach out to someone. I would wait to see other people until the divorce is over, as you are technically still married...and she could use that against you in court if things get nasty. It does, however, seem that you have moved on from your wife. I would talk to her and if you seriously want to find someone else, then tell her you are ready to end it, as the vacation may have sent her mixed signals. If you still care for your wife, you can always try to work things out. Either way, talk to your wife and see what the final answer to things are. Then, after you get your final answer of yes or no, then give yourself some time, and find the woman that is right for you. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-07-30 02:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider you really stupid to do that. You are still legally married. You need to just talk to your wife. If the marriage isn't working, talk to her, COMMUNICATE! Nothing is going to happen without communication. She cannot read your mind as you cannot read hers. There is no use in wasting each other's time if you are not planning on taking advantage of it. Unfortunately I don't know your situation so I cannot tell you more. But I really don't think you should act on that girl until you know a divorce is set in stone in the works.
2007-07-30 02:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by Christine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to your wife about how you are feeling. If this urge is that important to you, then you need to file for the divorce before moving on. You know as well as I do that a few dates can lead to more. If you are serious about needing someone, then do the right thing by your wife. Ask her for a divorce.
2007-07-30 02:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To date and establish a close friendship with another woman is wrong if you're married. If you're not happy, and your wife isn't either, and you don't see it getting better, maybe it's time for you to move on. Sounds like the two of you are living different lives anyways.
2007-07-30 02:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by ∂ίятУ ℓάυиḋгÿ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you 're not going to go back to your wife you should carry on with your life.
It's good to know someone else, who knows you might even fall in love again.
The only thing is that ,if you think you might go back to your wife don't toy with other girls feelings not only for the other girls feelings but also for your wife's because everything can be forgotten an forgiven except betrayal.
2007-07-30 02:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by noona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, its not too bad that you feel like that - but not really good either when you have an unresolved relationship on the table. Best to deal with the baggage before encouraging any relationships for you as well as the prospective young lady. You need to close one door before opening anymore. Good Luck!
2007-07-30 02:52:11 · answer #8 · answered by ruprect13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both loved each other you would be together.
If your marriage is over than move on....ask the girl out.
If you want your wife back than make the moves on her.
You just need to figure out what way you'll be going.
2007-07-30 02:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're wrong to be attracted to another woman if you're starting to feel that your marriage might be over, BUT if your wife found out that you went out with another woman, you might ruin your chances of getting together with her again for good.
Have you considered asking your wife out on a date just for the heck of it?
2007-07-30 02:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋