talking and joking with you, treating you out to lunch or buy you things, etc. Just treat you like his girlfriend. How would you react to him and how should you treat these types of men? Would you like the attention and fall for him and believe him ? What would you say or do everytime he flirts with you? How do you prevent yourself from getting hurt from him?
2007-07-29 19:44:37 · 15 answers · asked by . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't date him, or go out to lunch with him, except in a group from the office. You should remind him that he is married, and ask him how he would feel if his wife acted the way he does? I would tell him in no uncertain terms that his advances are unwelcome, and if he kept it up, I would report him to Human Resources. I wouldn't get hurt from him emotionally because I wouldn't allow it to happen.
2007-07-29 20:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by soupkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from my own experiences... Don't feel guilty for getting butterflies over someone else's husband...I'm sure whatever excites you gets his wife excited over him, too - she married him for a reason! lol Don't beat yourself up over that. But I must also say, although it's "innocent flirting", I'm sure not everyone would see it that way, especially his wife. Put yourself in her shoes - would you want your husband "innocently flirting" with a young, attractive co-worker? I would definitely distance yourself from him, at least emotionally & flirtatiously. Remember to just keep your conversations professional & light. It will definitely go away in time. When you work closely (and often) with someone, this kind of thing tends to happen. I used to have a huge crush on my boss, but after I got over it & got to know him better, he's more like another annoying older brother to me, LOL.
2016-05-17 09:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't put up with that. I believe in honoring someone's marriage vow. A vow is a promise. It's a bond that should not be broken. It's an agreement. I don't believe in trying to mess with someone else's bond to another person. That guy made a promise to his wife. If he wants to break that bond, that is his choice. However, I would never, ever want to be the reason why he did so. I would want a guy that is single like I was (if that were my situation). Messing with married men is just asking for trouble. I would stop him at his advances and tell him to look elsewhere. If he isn't faithful to his wife, I would never, ever trust him to be faithful with me. I wouldn't date him even after he broke it off with his wife.
2007-07-29 20:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking for a long term relationship with a man, steer clear of the married men because they will just sidetrack you from where you want to be.
If you want to pass the time, follow your bliss, and maybe get your heart broken in the process if you're not grounded enough for an affair, then this sounds just like the complication for you.
2007-07-29 19:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by GeishaGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sis, look, this is a man your talking about. He is interested in only one thing!!! He know who he's going home to tonite. If he can get a little on the side, then so be it. Where does your heart fit into this scenareo? Wanna be a part time lover? Second place to the unknowing wife? Think about it!!!!
2007-07-29 19:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God NO! When I was really young I had one do this to me too. We worked in the same company and I thought he just liked me and enjoyed taking me to lunch. Then he came on to me in his car in a big way, while his wife was 8 months pregnant. Leave married men alone! How would you feel if you were his wife?!
2007-07-29 19:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by Kate J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'First of all you have no right trying to steal someone else's husband. Would you want this to happen to you. I think not. Stop the bull and find your own man. There is no excuse for what you are doing unless you are a tramp.
Stop and use your head. This is only going to bring pain and heartache to his wife. Don't believe a word he says. You know what he wants and if not from you, then someone else. Don't be a doormat. THINK!
2007-07-29 19:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Marti 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh, I wouldn't do anything with him, and I definitely wouldn't enter a relationship with him no matter how nice or cute he was. If he's married, he's probably too old for me, anyway. But I might let him buy me a few things before I cut off contact completely. ;)
2007-07-29 19:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by CherryPie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd take the attention and gifts, but I wouldn't take it any further until I knew the divorce was final.
2007-07-29 19:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by ∂ίятУ ℓάυиḋгÿ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from married men, it will only lead to many people getting hurt, you, him, his wife, and his kids, and your reputation will be bad afterwards as well if you end up breaking up a family
2007-07-29 19:48:38 · answer #10 · answered by sensei ronald j.f. panlilio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋