basically this guy is married. we were in love. he tried to hook up w/ me as an extramarital affair. i got mad and threatend to tell his wife in an email. i sent another email with the link to the public record from the county assessor's office saying " Look how easy that was to find your address" ( I know a bit scary/psycho towards him). Anywyas i still want to maintain a friendhsip. would i be too much of a weak coward if i was to write and apologize and tell him i want to be his friend still?
2007-07-29 19:20:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lara, you are asking for trouble, first of all he is married, it doesn't matter if it is happily or not... Plain and simple he is not a free man.
He was wrong in even trying to hook up with you, dishonest to you and his commitment to his wife.
If he ends up single and you hear about it fine, but do not write him, or call, don't be friends, that will be too difficult.
But if he cheated on his wife with you, he will end up cheating on you with someone else.
Take care,
2007-07-29 19:24:34 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ ♥Be Happi♥ ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy wanted you to be the other woman and now you want to be friends with him. I think that is a wrong move. You should just let it go. If you all did become friends chances are he will try something else. Oh, not right away he will gain your trust first then become really close to you, saying that you are the only one who understands him and that he wished his wife was as understanding and beautiful as you. Then he will begin to make moves on you again, slowly and see what he could can get you to do for him, and with him. I would just let it go. I think that will be the best. There is no reason you should put yourself in that situation. He sounds like a guy that will try to manipulate things to his advantage. You do not want or need a guy like that in your life. Plus remember you had feelings for him once and he knows that. He will use those feelings to help him get what he wants. I just think you would be better off keeping out of your life at least for a while like 6 months to a year. Then maybe, the thing id you sound so beautiful and sweet and like you can get hurt by a guy you like. I do not want to see that happen to you. So I say just let it go and stop all contact with him. I know you still have feelings for him, and that is another reason I say let it drop. It will be the best for you.
2007-07-30 02:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you want to apologize for your own good and his thats fine but as far as being friends not a good idea and he may not even be up for that. You should move on. Find yourself someone unattached and a married man does not need someone who he once had a intimate relationship with as a friend. Good luck
2007-07-30 02:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by Darkchild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. He is a cheater, and he insulted you by asking you to have sex with him while he is committing everything else to his wife. If you are not good enough for him to leave his wife and marry you, then he never did love you. He just told you that because he wanted sex with you. Men can be such liars when they think that they can get sex from a woman.
Why would you want a friend like that? If he can't be faithful as a husband, what makes you think that he can be a faithful friend?
2007-07-30 02:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You know, girls can make the first move too so dont think of yourself of a weak coward if you were the one who's telling him that you still want to be friends - communication is the key to most things. GOOD LUCK
2007-07-30 02:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no..i dont think you should apologize about threatening to tell his wife..that was good of you and you have nothing to apoligize..
im not sure why you did the county assessor thing though..what was the purpose of that? maybe that was going a little overboard. lol..but if you feel you did the right thing then stick by it! =)
2007-07-30 02:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by bleh 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why would you want to be friends with him? basically he'd just be friends with you at this point just so you wont ruin his marriage. and why would you want to be friends with someone like him anyway? he doesn't sounds like an award winning husband, so i'm sure his friendship skills are lacking as well.
at least you have the sense to not get involved with a married man. :) nice to know some people still have values.
2007-07-30 02:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I was this guy I would not want to be friends and would probably consider any approach by you to be kind of stalker-ish.
I'm sure that's not how you meant it, but that is how it would come across to me.
Personally, I think you'd do better to move on and find a less complicated friendship.
Best wishes :-)
2007-07-30 02:25:03 · answer #8 · answered by thing55000 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You probably shouldn't be friends, if he wanted to have an affair, you were probably just a booty call. You deserve better than that, find yourself someone you trully care about, I know you will.
2007-07-30 02:24:24 · answer #9 · answered by Jonathan R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO I don't think it would be cowardice, however I do think that what is done is done and things would be better left alone. It would probably not be a good idea to even be friends with him.
2007-07-30 02:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋