Many people have told me that in the past. I'm depressed & crying right now. I'm @ home. But when I go to school, soon as I get around people, my eyes tear up. Lately, I've been avoiding going to class because I don't want anyone thinking I'm asking for attention or making a big scene. I'm in summer school in college right now, & I think I might have to just drop out. It's too much pressure for me.
2007-07-29 17:45:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
First I would say go get anti-depressents they work wonders. Next its not inappropriat to cry in public. Hello your human and humans cry. Its kind like saying dont use a public bathroom its inappropriate.. Ok that was an odd example but you got my point. I'd say just dress in black and sit in the back and no one will ask questions. But dont drop out. In the long run it won't be worth it. As much as it sucks just push through it one day at a time thats all you can do.
2007-07-29 18:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jaydalyn 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋
It is considered inappropriate, but honestly, who cares? Society seems to have this idea that emotions are weak, but everyone has them. Cry if you need to. If you can't hold back, then don't. Yeah, people may look at you weird or avoid you, but why should you care? You're not hurting anyone and it's not a crime to be human. Humans cry when they're depressed or under too much stress. (The people who are looking or whatever do it too.)
Sometimes I cry in public, for whatever reason. I can't turn the tears on or off--they come when they want to and leave much the same way. People look at me like they've never seen a person crying and sometimes they glare. I think they're being rude for staring and not offering some assistance. (If they're not going to help a person in obvious distress, it's fine, but they shouldn't just stand there and add to it.)
It is possible, even very probable, that the stress from college summer school is getting to you. You don't have much longer in this term, do you? Just a couple more weeks? It would be an awful waste to drop out now. However, your crying episodes smack of small panic attacks, which I know are not healthy for you. You have to look out for your own health. Do you have a trusted friend or family member you can talk to about this? Does the college have a counselor you can speak to? (Not one of those "counselors" who tell you what classes to take...I mean someone who knows about mental health, a therapist.) People here (on Yahoo answers) will try to help you, but we're no substitute for a professional.
2007-07-30 00:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people might think so, but I don't. I'm a crier, myself. I've always been this way, but more so since my wife passed away back in 2002. I cry when I see something sad, and I cry when I see something I find very touching/happy. Even cheesy commercials can make me weepy. I just can't help but empathize even with fictional characters. Seeing somebody experience the highs and the lows of life drags me right in there with them - I just can't help it.
The most important question to ask is WHY are you crying? Nobody is ALWAYS happy, and life is supposed to have it's peaks and valleys (can you tell I think that medication should be a last, last resort?). I cry because I'm very empathic, but, as a man who was widowed at 28, I also understand depression. I mourned my wife for two and a half very rocky years. It's been another two years since I started feeling like myself, again, and I'm still dealing with the consequences of such a long period of depression and putting my life back together. Depression isn't just full-bore sadness all the time, but it can feel pretty close. And it can have a huge impact on everything else in your life. As you're feeling right now in your schooling (avoid dropping out, if you can, by the way - let me tell you from experience that it's easier to just get it done, now, than it is to try to come back to it at a later date).
Identify why you're crying and see if the cause is something that you can make manageable. If it's not something you can manage on your own, talk to friends and/or family about it. I bet you have some pretty good resources within reach to help you. There's a path back to your regular, happier self, and I bet you can find it.
2007-07-29 18:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by Kurt M 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When I was extremely depressed I avoided going out because I was afraid I would start crying and not be able to stop. I don't know what to tell you about crying in public. It is hard to go through. People look and then some come over to see if they can help. It is embarrassing.
I know school is a lot of pressure for you. You do what you have to do for you and don't worry about anyone else.
2007-07-29 19:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it just kind of makes people feel uncomfortable. It's not that it's specifically impolite, but it places an immediate responsibility on those around you to try to handle whatever it is you're experiencing. Whatever else is going on has to stop, almost as though someone had cut themselves and everyone stops what they're doing until the bleeding is stanched. If you have this problem in school, just excuse yourself to the bathroom until you have calmed down. If this is a continuing thing, seek the support of mental health services on your campus, there's no shame in it. Life is too short to spend it so unhappy. And find a way to interact with people positively, such as volunteer work at a soup kitchen or something; it will put your life in perspective. Also, when you do feel depressed in public to the point of losing composure, try a "mini-meditation;" focus on one point on the wall, take deep, careful breaths and repeat a word such as "soothing" or "composure" in your head until your clarity returns. I've done this, and it works.
2007-07-29 17:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by hailtothethief_orwellwasright 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Maybe you should try going to a physician to get medication to help you get through this, don't "drop" out of college girl. You will be even more depressed knowing that you dropped out. There are a lot of people who shed tears "you are NOT alone" trust me...
2007-07-30 02:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can tell this is really bothering you. Bless your heart! Have you been under a lot of stress in your life? Are you on any medication that could have this side affect? (Or if your taking more than one type it could be a side affect) I suggest you make an appointment to see your doctor. Explain your emotions and concerns and how it is affecting your life. (If you feel like your not leaving the house because of this etc. explain to him) It could be anything from hormone imbalance, to something that needs medical attention. Here's a Big Hug from me!! Now please make an appointment!
2007-07-29 18:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't drop out!! Around 5 people in my family have done it and said it was the worst decision in their life. you can do it!!!!
Oh and crying in public isn't innapropriate! Thats not true.
2007-07-29 18:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by Mantonio B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel like crying, you should just go ahead and do it no matter where you are. If that's what you're feeling, let it out. It's not good to let things build up inside you!
2007-07-30 03:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by Oh, it's like that? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I was crying in public, I couldnt care less about what people think is innapropriate!
2007-07-29 18:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋