What do you do when your bestfriend has a boyfriend that...?

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is constantly calling her to see where she is and what she's doing. If she doesn't answer her cell phone, he'll call her house late and night multiple times to ask if she's home yet even when she's told him that she doesn't want him doing that and that her parents find it annoying, but he can't seem to get that through his head. He's even found my number and phoned my house to ask where she is. I don't know but he seems kinda controlling or needy, I'm not sure what the word to use is. But another thing is that when she tells him that she can't do anything on her days off with him, he gets really upset, and tells her that she crushed his hopes :S.. And the last thing is that she told him the other day that she couldn't do anything with him the next day and he called her a "f**cking b*it*ch" and then said "i hate u" over MSN, and I was with her at the time she recieved that and she was completely shocked. I had no idea what 2 tell her except that she definatly didn't deserve 2 hear that

That happened a couple of days ago and he's been trying to get a hold of her to apologize but she told him that she didnt want to talk to him after he said that in case she said something she would really regret. but she hasn't talked to him since then, but been trying to decide whether or not to give hima second chance.. ive told her that if i were her i wouldnt because he strikes as me as reallly immature(by the way he's 17) but i dont really know what to say, ive just said that no matter what she decides i wont judge her and that i got her back no matter what happens... but what else can i say to her??????? please help

Answer 1

That was very abusive, she dose not deserve it.

The first sign is the stalking that he is doing, no one should be looking and wanting to talk to her that bad, except her parents maybe, LOL.

But all kidding aside, she should leave him in my opinion.
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Answer 2

It sounds as though this guy isn't the best one for her.. I would tell your friend to back away... slowly without blinking... He sounds controlling and doesn't seem to trust your friend at all.

Also, no girl should be called a fu**** bi*** just because she can't hang out. This guy needs to grow up and learn some manners... You did the right thing by telling your friend that she doesn't deserve to be treated like that and you should continue with that. If this guy continues calling her and trying to control her.. it is time to call for some help and then end this relationship.. (by help I mean older friends, siblings or family members... cops if he might get violent)

Answer 3

he strikes me as a psycho. I´d advice her not to give him another chance at all. But don´t be all agressive about it, if she decides to get back together with him and you badmouthed him all day she might pull away from you.. .and with a boyfriend like that she´ll definitely be needing you.

Answer 4

yes the best thing is to mark him off the list and get on with life. he could end up being wife beater when he grows up and hopefully she wont' be there for that. i would just stay very clear of him he could end up being violent.

Answer 5

sounds to me like your friend's in trouble. she's dealing with a psychotic, possesive person, and if she doesn't exit this relationship now, her story is going to end up on america's most wanted. You know those girls who get hurt from their psychotic bf and now the police are looking for them cuz they fled the country.

Answer 6

tell her to dump his sorry butt before anything awful happens to her, this is not a healthy relationship and will only get more controlling and abusive since he is already verbally abusive. all she has to look forward to is the physical abuse now

Answer 7

thats nice