My bf wants to try other women?

Question

My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years openly admitted to me that he he wants to fool around with other women. I was his first so he feels sexually unsatisfied....

he told me he doesn't want to miss out on having "fun" in his 20's. he says he regrets getting serious so early in life & that he wants to enjoy the "single life" but still keep me as his wifey..

I would personally let him do anything that makes him happy. i understand how men are. but I am afraid of getting to hurt if he enjoys sex more with other women.

What should I do?

Thank you all so much for all the answers! It's going to be hard to pick best answer since I have several in mind

He wants to love me as his wife and screw the other girls as his b*tches..so he's not necessarily disrespecting ME..

Also, I won't play his game, I love him and I'm not like him.

I think he wants this now, in his early 20's, not after we get married...

I'm surprised no other man on Yahoo has done this before, because my bf tells me it is a normal feeling for most men...

Answer 1

I tell you sincerely to think about getting split.
I'm sorry, i know how this feels to hear from some body. But it's a fact.

If a guy or an individual gets there and even think about such an issue while with some one else! not to mention immorality of it, 'let him go' and try to stay strong and do your thing in life.

I'm much more older than you and have been in many relations. So, i perfectly understand your status now. I even did the same piggish! thing as your boy, back in Europe, almost the same era as you guys and my girl didn't go for it and i left her. I'm really sorry to say this and the reason i did that was, i didn't have any passions or feelings to wards her any more.

Answer 2

The key word is he feels sexually unsatisfied.
It seems the relationship is in big trouble. This is just his way of saying that he wants an out.
He is telling you he doesn't want the responsibility of being a husband anymore.
You said you understand how men are. Not all young men want to be with other women when they are married nor do all men cheat. It is not fair to you for him to ask you to hold on keep a nice home for him and wait while he sows his wild oats. Unless you want an open marriage with the other person leaving when ever he chooses to. Then let him know that you need someone that is more settled in your life. I think that no matter what happens you are going to be hurt. I am sorry things are this way for you.

Answer 3

Have you ever considered being part of this wish of his and playing it out in fantasy? Like instead of him screwing other girls, could you maybe do a dress up thing and let him think he's with other girls? Could you guys try different things sexually like going to watch female strippers together, or have another girl present in the room without him sleeping with her?

Think about what would make you feel most comfortable. Would you be okay if he were to kiss another girl in a different town so that you knew he wasn't seeing her on the side? To me, it would hurt a lot of he had an affair with one girl that he knew, or any other girl that he had sex with more than once. Just know how far you're willing to go with this without harboring resentment and anger. Don't let anyone tell you to "Just dump him" because I think you love him too much. There is a way for you to get what you want and him to get what he needs at the same time--you just have to find out what that is.

Answer 4

Unlike the rest of these people, I can relate. I am a young newly wed and at times I wish I would have said that to my man. I dont want to hurt him and I dont want to lose him, but I am torn between what I have and what I know I COULD have. It's not easy, and at times the relationship gets too comfortable to the point where its boring. But on the other hand, men do work different, if you do love him, try to do more "Risky" things to keep him interested in you. Public areas, different positions, role play. Keep him interested and make him feel like being with you is a new experience every time. It's not easy, but if he really wants to stay with you, it will be all he needs. If it doesnt work you'll have to let him go, cuz once he get a taste of other women and the fact that you're willing to let him do ANYTHING he wants and he can still come back to you, you're going to be in a world of hurt! Good luck

Answer 5

At least he's telling you up front instead of suppressing it, marrying you, giving you a couple of kids and then running off with somebody else. There is hope here and it depends on what you really believe and value, not what other people tell you to say. He's not grownup enough yet to actually be married. Are you? Ask him if he'd mind if you try other men for the experience.How much does it matter to you? We have had several President's whose wives overlooked their husband's affairs.Could you be one of those? Do you want to ? Some wive's do the same. Marriage is about living with each others flaws as well as their good parts. Only you can say what you will or won't do or put up with.

Answer 6

As much as it will hurt for you to let him go, you probably have to. Think about it this way. No guy wants to feel trapped in a relationship. The moment they get that way soon another option would open up i.e. will cheat on you. But be grateful for this, though he is an asshole, he is not a total one. At least he has enough balls and decency to tell you how feels (which most guys wouldn't do by the way).

You should consider reciprocating this respect he has for you. Hopefully he will realize that he has missed out on perfectly good woman.....if not then move on because life is certainly too precious to waste on stupid people

Answer 7

First off the people bashing him women and men, you people are fools immature and very old school, and very close minded. Open relationships are fine and dandy I have a girlfriend but we both have partners outside the relationship. Me being 22 I understand where he coming from we are raise on MTV and much music we see the party life style and that is implanted in our minds as what we want. And besides were just animals too we have the keep the gene pool big spread the seed!!!

Answer 8

Well...i wouldn't sit by and be "wifey" while hubby screws other women.

But...what i WOULD do, is take a break. He does have a point, you shouldn't get SO serious early in life, you never get to see experience everything out there and he TRULY can't appreciate you unless he does and you should feel the same way. It's like they say, "If you love something, LET IT GO and if it comes back, it's yours" So, let him go, so you both can enjoy life and then if your meant to be together, you will find your way back to each other.

Answer 9

Explain to him that relationships are about love, not sex. If he is not sexually satisfied, well, he's probably focused on the wrong thing.
Someone who loves you should always satisfy you, with or without sex.
It sounds like he is going through what I call a "quarter life crisis," that many men go through in their 20's. They feel they settled down too early because they see other people out doing different things.
If he needs to explore, tell him that's fine. But he can't come back to you at the end of the night. =)

Answer 10

a man who wants his cake and eat it too ? although hes young aren't you too & your not like that why because you value what you have with him the love the memories ..the investment.. these things are important right so how come hes not even considering all this not to mention you & your feelings. did you love him more.. did you give more.. think about it? to throw away something meaningful for something as meaningless as sleeping with other women without names . please don't question yourself & performance if a man goes there (even though he was honest in telling you hes still going to go there its no better) it has nothing to do with you its a personal problem hes dealing with ..you can be hot.. the best in bed etc.. anything and everything for a man if a man goes there he has the problem. my advice tell him if you decide to sleep with other women than we need a seperation but at anytime in the near future you decide the fun is over you got it out of your system & you want me back well by then you run the risk of me not taking you back or found someone better. im not going to wait around im going to move on with or without you so decide if these other women you want to be with are more important than me & our relationship. if he decides to go well hes doing you a favor by not wasting your time anymore than he has. last time i check love feels good..love grows..its not someone who does hurtful things, or makes you cry, or bring out the green monster . if you seperate & later later you take him back (just because of you being his first.. you understood that part) things won't ever be back to normal or where it was.. the love is tainted.