What can we do to help kids realize they need to keep their virginity until marrage?

Answer 1

Raise them up in a environment that promotes purity and truth. Most importantly if you raise them up teaching and believing the Bible then you have guidlines for them to follow. Family values,morals,honesty, real love.

Answer 2

All you can do is explain to them why. If they are not going to feel better for it you will have a rough time. Out of the millions who hear the message how many will actually take you up on it?
And that is if you can convince them that the marriage idea is still a good idea when in actuality how many casualties of the idea are there. And if it isn't your lifestyle too how are you going to teach it. By putting it up as an ideal that if lived accordingly and doesn't cause too much neurosis and dismay and that is if in the process true love has found its niche then maybe you have a winner. And how many do find this path only later to find it has ended on the hot coals of change and all value where is it now if not a good memory?

Answer 3

y do we need 2 keep virginity until marrage? i think as long as u want 2 and u use protection it is fine, but some ages r 2 young, im 14 and 1 of my friends had 2 have an abortion and that is 2 young

Answer 4

Take them to prison and let them talk to a crack wh @re. Let them see the consequences of improper sex. Visit a hospital and watch the living skeletons racked with AIDS.
Actually, a lot depends on how they are raised. a child's character is fully formed by the age of 7. What they see and experience prior to that age will affect the rest of their lives.
A generation of parents has failed this:
Pro 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, and even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Answer 5

Like many others have said here:
-Show the difficult life that comes from being/creating an unwed/unloved single mother when the relationship isn't ready.
-Show the dangers of STDs and short/long-term consequences

But, more importantly:
-Show them the blessings of not making someone a sexual object and developing a higher relationship with them.
-Show them the keys to family success and the benefits of your family being together forever.
-If you are a man of faith and they are receptive to the message, then show them the teachings that God's prophets and Christ have spelled out on the issue.

Answer 6

Open ongoing communication with them.

Here is a quote from a speaker, Pam Stenzel, who was at a Christian Music festival this last weekend:

"LET'S FACE IT. TODAY'S TEENAGERS ARE IN A WHOLE NEW AREA WHEN IT COMES TO SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES.
They're facing consequences that teens from previous generations couldn't even imagine.
That is why it is so important to make sure that today's teens hear straight talk...about sex, about the consequences, about the life and death choices that they meet every single day."

Here is a link to her web site:
http://www.pamstenzel.com/aboutpam.html

There are many resources for information on abstinence, have them available for the teens in your life.

Answer 7

I dont know. I'm 18 and I am a Christian. Ive recently done a lot of stuff that I regret. If we are talking about Christian kids-tell them the guilt it will cause them and the emotional pain that they will go through. If its non Christian-try to tell them about God. If that doesnt work, remind them about STDs and remind them that being a mommy by age 15 isnt usually very fun.

Answer 8

Virginity used to be considered a special thing that was kept until marriage. It was like a gift to your husband, showing that you were pure and innocent, much as the tradition of wearing a white wedding dress. Today's times has shown a dramatic shift in that, to me it is sad, that everywhere I look sex is being promoted, in music, television, video games, movies, even in sexual education classes. I remember when I was in fifth grade, in my sex ed class they handed out condoms to all the young boys, as if to say hey go on and do it, just wrap it up.

So how do we teach our young people that it should be kept until marriage? It's hard, even kids that are raised right have a tendency to slip up and make that mistake. My very own 14yr old niece decided that she was ready to have sex, more less because her b/f pressured her into it even though she was raised in a Christian environment. My niece herself was a mistake and my sister has even told her that, but that she still loves her. She also told her that if she could go back she wouldn't have had sex. All we can do is hope for the best, teach them the benefits of waiting, and show them what can happen if they choose not too.

You need to remind them that they are not the only ones struggling with a decision like this, but most teenagers fight with this everyday.

"Nobody wants to feel left out of things — it's natural to want to be liked and feel as if you're part of a group of friends. Unfortunately, some teens feel that they have to lose their virginity to keep up with their friends or to be accepted."
Encourage them to hang around positive friends, friends that won't make them feel as if they are being left out, or they aren't cool enough because they haven't had sex yet. "Having sex to impress someone or to make your friends happy or feel like you have something in common with them won't make you feel very good about yourself in the long run. True friends don't really care whether a person is a virgin — they will respect your decisions, no matter what."

You have to remind them that sex isn't something that's only physical; it's emotional, too. Sex should be an expression of love — not something a person feels that he or she must do". And as a teenager, emotionally they're not ready, even though they may think they are.

Benefits: Less stress, less strain on a relationship, no STDs, no unwanted pregnancy or abortions. The ability to be able to stand up at the alter and know that you are giving something special to the man you will spend the rest of your life with. To know that you are following you Heavenly Fathers commandments, and to know that your parents would be proud of you.

Down-side: Stress,STDs (which can lead to a loss of life),pregnancy, emotional breakdowns, and so many more.

In the end, it is up to them on what they decide to do, to wait or not to wait that is the question. Have an open conversation with your children, remind them that you love them even when they may make that mistake, encourage them to have good friends, to study scriptures,and to shy away from things that promote sexual acts.

I know that I wish I would have waited until marriage, it would have made that night so much more amazing, because I would have known that deep down I that was giving the greatest gift that I could give.

Answer 9

you know, belive that so strongly, but i think as a parent ( not me ) should raise them up and set an example so they can set a picture in their mind that makes them proud and also have them reald the bible themselves and see the words... every child will one day become a young adult and have to make a decision in their hearts and if they choose it leave it on their backs but if they dont want it help and support them through the tough battle of teenage peer pressure... make it seem like the big deal that it is and that the right woman/man will want to have someone waiting for them as they waited so strongly for someone else

Answer 10

if you are religious, you can take your kids to your churchs youth group. they go to retreats & talks about chastity, purity & creating a relationship with God. I am 15 & a virgin. I am SURE that i will stay a virgin til marriage because my body is a temple. and virginity is a sacred thing! good luck