i have been with my girlfriend for about a month now. we have seen eachother everyday sence we first started dating. this last week we have talked about how we arnt gonna be able to see eachother for about a week or two due to work and college. its only been 6 hours sence i seen her and i already miss her. i dont know how she feels right now but she expressed how she is certain she is gonna miss me too. we within the last hour i was at her house and last hour i will get to see her a guy calls and talks to her. the guy is obviously into her. well she told him that they can hang out this weekend coming for sure. the phone call lasted about a half hour and she sounded very excited and happy to talk to the guy. i have a weird feeling that maybe i cant trust her or him. she is an extreme flirt. after the call she came over to me ( currently watching the movie we were supposed to be watching together) and asked me what was wrong. i replied " nothing" then i felt a huge distance between us.
2007-07-29 15:54:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is "not without consiquence"
2007-08-06 13:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends. Assuming the best, it is probably just a friend, most likely someone she has known for a while and is excited to hear from him and catch up. If you can trust and communicate with her, ask her simple questions about this friend to get a feel for what is going on. On the darker side, she is probably trying to make you feel jealous. If she was actually involved with this guy or interested in him, she most likely would not have the conversation in front of you because she would want to be secretive about it, and probably hang up quickly, not talk for a half an hour. The fact that you say she is a flirt shows that she wants to prove something to you and make you jealous. She is most likely testing the waters since you two won't be able to see each other as often and she wants to make sure you still care for her, epsecially since it's so early in the relationship. After reading your question, and the fact that I am a girl myself, I tend to think she is trying to make you mad. If she is trying to make you mad, your best course of action is to act like it doesn't bother you, because she will want you to ask questions like "who was that" or "what did you guys do that weekend?" and that reinforces that kind of behavior.
I hope that the call turns out to be nothing because it sounds like you like this girl very much. Hope this helps =)
2007-07-29 23:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by marm212 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always, always go with your gut feelings.
If it acts like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it is a duck.
You don't ever want to be with a girl whom you have issues with concerning trust. Trust is a key ingredient for any relationship to work. If that key element is not there, then you have nothing.
You say your lady is an "extreme flirt." That's fine and dandy as long as she doesn't flirt in front of you. But apparently she did and that's very disrespectful.
You deserve better. Find a woman who can appreciate you and who isn't into playing games just to make you jealous.
2007-08-05 06:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe if this girl is a flirt.. well it was wrong of her to talk to another guy for a (half hour) when she is suppose to be watching a movie with you. That is just disprespectful. It seems that she likes you but is a player. She knows you are whipped and that she can get away with anything. U should break up with her and see if she wants to , if not then she was never reali into you. but my first choice would be to talk to her about it and tell her how u felt about that.
2007-07-29 23:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you reply with a nothing's wrong, when you obviously felt otherwise? She can't read your mind and since she is by nature a flirt, how are the two of you supposed to know what's going on if you can't speak directly to her about your perception of her behavior? Make sure to use the phrases that start out with " I felt___________ when you _________" as opposed to the sentences that begin with "You". Using you statements will automatically put her on the defensive.
2007-07-29 23:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by wildatheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where's the respect? It's only been a month. While you're all in love she's out fishing. You're not a priority to her like she is to you. Think about that. If you want to stick around, ask her who he was. You're her man, right? You have a right to know. If you don't like what you hear, you know what to do next. Like I said it's only been a month invested in this relationship.
2007-08-06 22:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Califiyah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just see how the weekend goes. Call her around when she is going to be back and see... If she is acting strange, ask her if her and the guy did anything. But if she is acting normal then don't worry about it.
2007-07-29 23:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Parrish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea that was deffinately wrong. She shouldnt have done that. You shouldve spoke up and told her how you felt. Now let me just say that I use t hold it inside when I was hurting and my relationship got strained and be4 I knew it it was down the drain.... so speak up!
2007-08-06 22:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by Briana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, sounds weird and not friendly. maybe you should call it a day and find someone new. it would benefit you. i mean hey she was great but there are more in the sea and hey this way you won't get too hurt and let her go.
2007-08-05 23:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should have faith and trust her and this relationship. It takes a while but have trust in your girlfriend a relationship takes time. Just talk her and reassure yourself. But if she acts strange and unsual all of sudden then you should be worried.
2007-07-29 23:01:38 · answer #10 · answered by Wise Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. Take action and tell her what's on your mind. If you can't communicate with each other then the relationship isn't worth the trouble anyway.
2007-08-06 22:51:48 · answer #11 · answered by mrs legend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋